What is with the "princess" attitude? (for men, too)
Some posts in the "worst comment made to you" thread reminded me of something I've wondered about for awhile. Where does this "I'm a princess and everyone is beneath me" attitude come from, and how do you deal with it? Men can get it, too, but I don't have a good word to describe men that isn't profanity. I don't understand how people who have that kind of an attitude get others to play along with it. Having been the target of "princesses," the attitude is just so repulsive to me, and once I see someone has it, I can't help but see that person as ugly no matter their looks. For a long time, I mistook having a healthy self-appreciation with this warped view, but I know now it isn't. I guess the best way to put it is that a REAL princess/prince is also "noble" in behavior and attitude, while these fakes just come across to me as being mean and self-absorbed.
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And yet you "don't have a good word to describe men that isn't profanity."
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Sorry but your post puts you across as believing you are 'superior' to others and that they are 'beneath you'.
What is the 'Princess attitude' anyway? Confidence? Self-Esteem? Feeling sexy? Empowered? Acting with all the above? If that's the case then everyone should be a 'PRINCESS'.0 -
I don't get it either, in my experience those women end up rather lonely as not many men can see their "princess" status either lol!! :bigsmile: They obviously see what no one else does.:ohwell:0
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I never understood that. Maybe it's over-posturing as cocky to convince oneself of non-existent confidence. Maybe it's a fake-it-til-you-make-it thing. I see it with people who live in the ghetto and refuse to keep a job. They peacock around talking about how famous/rich they are. Like, are you an insane person? Or what.
There is some bizarre form of denial going on there. I'm not really sure.
I've always had the opposite problem. I struggle to feel justified when I seek acknowledgment. Spent a long time being a doormat because I didn't know how to take a page from the Princess book. I still don't really get it. That results in taking a LOT of **** that I absolutely should NOT take from the people in my life.
So, I don't know. Maybe there's something to it.
Ultimately, I don't speak that language so I stay away from people who seem to require an audience.0 -
Unless you've got an actual legal title of Princess or Price of someplace-real, you're not one. People need to get over themselves.
Humility, a sense of humor about one's self, and empathy are all good qualities that the princess/prince types lack.
I try to avoid the princess/prince types whenever possible. All they do is cause drama and stress.0 -
Having dealt with a "princess" for a boss, I think it comes from narcissism to en extent. I had to deal with it cause she was my boss and it SUCKED. It emotionally drained me. Always having to have EVERYTHING her exact way and if not, I was guilt-ed relentlessly or condescended too. Horrid.
I am a very patient person with a narcissist for a mother, so I don't know how I deal with it, I just do. It isn't easy.0 -
It's daddy issues.0
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I understand what a 'princess' attitude is. Its the attitude that you are better than everybody else, everybody else should bow down to you and do everything you demand when you demand it. I have seen it in all walks of life, but it does seem we have a huge crop of 'princess' lately. Yes we should all be treated well, but nobody has the right to treat another human being like they are their servant or put on earth to take care of them. We should treat each other with respect. We all deserve that.0
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Sorry but your post puts you across as believing you are 'superior' to others and that they are 'beneath you'.
What is the 'Princess attitude' anyway? Confidence? Self-Esteem? Feeling sexy? Empowered? Acting with all the above? If that's the case then everyone should be a 'PRINCESS'.
arrogance, cockiness, self-centeredness and the feeling that all others are there to serve your needs0 -
Cheers to them for having high self esteem. It is really annoying though.0
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I have a "princess" friend. It annoys me but I just have always been a push-over and after four years I have just learned to deal with it (which is bad). She has this idea that everything is beneath her. For example she doesn't work and hasn't in some time but when I got my job as a sales associate she told me "I could never be in customer service. I can't just work anywhere".
From where I shop to what I eat she feels that it's beneath her.
The biggest thing I find odd is that she also feels that certain races and certain body types are beneath her as well. She is a bigger lady but she often talks about how she dislike fat people and how she dislikes people of color. When I bring up the fact that I am a bigger woman and a woman of color she always says "It's different" but I don't see how it is.
In the long run her princess attitude has caused her to have very few friends. However, she doesn't see any flaw in how she treats people or how her attitude is. Whenever someone has a problem with her she says they are the ones with the issue.
I've just learned to not protest against what she says or face a brutal backlash.
It's sad.0 -
I dub thee "princess rant" rise your majesty:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:Some posts in the "worst comment made to you" thread reminded me of something I've wondered about for awhile. Where does this "I'm a princess and everyone is beneath me" attitude come from, and how do you deal with it? Men can get it, too, but I don't have a good word to describe men that isn't profanity. I don't understand how people who have that kind of an attitude get others to play along with it. Having been the target of "princesses," the attitude is just so repulsive to me, and once I see someone has it, I can't help but see that person as ugly no matter their looks. For a long time, I mistook having a healthy self-appreciation with this warped view, but I know now it isn't. I guess the best way to put it is that a REAL princess/prince is also "noble" in behavior and attitude, while these fakes just come across to me as being mean and self-absorbed.0 -
I have a "princess" friend. It annoys me but I just have always been a push-over and after four years I have just learned to deal with it (which is bad). She has this idea that everything is beneath her. For example she doesn't work and hasn't in some time but when I got my job as a sales associate she told me "I could never be in customer service. I can't just work anywhere".
From where I shop to what I eat she feels that it's beneath her.
The biggest thing I find odd is that she also feels that certain races and certain body types are beneath her as well. She is a bigger lady but she often talks about how she dislike fat people and how she dislikes people of color. When I bring up the fact that I am a bigger woman and a woman of color she always says "It's different" but I don't see how it is.
In the long run her princess attitude has caused her to have very few friends. However, she doesn't see any flaw in how she treats people or how her attitude is. Whenever someone has a problem with her she says they are the ones with the issue.
I've just learned to not protest against what she says or face a brutal backlash.
It's sad.
Dump her. You deserve better friends.0 -
I guess the best way to put it is that a REAL princess/prince is also "noble" in behavior and attitude, while these fakes just come across to me as being mean and self-absorbed.
History might argue otherwise.0 -
Princesses sure are fun, oh and everyone look at me because I am so awesome :sad: why isn't anyone looking :mad:0
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I have a "princess" friend. It annoys me but I just have always been a push-over and after four years I have just learned to deal with it (which is bad). She has this idea that everything is beneath her. For example she doesn't work and hasn't in some time but when I got my job as a sales associate she told me "I could never be in customer service. I can't just work anywhere".
From where I shop to what I eat she feels that it's beneath her.
The biggest thing I find odd is that she also feels that certain races and certain body types are beneath her as well. She is a bigger lady but she often talks about how she dislike fat people and how she dislikes people of color. When I bring up the fact that I am a bigger woman and a woman of color she always says "It's different" but I don't see how it is.
In the long run her princess attitude has caused her to have very few friends. However, she doesn't see any flaw in how she treats people or how her attitude is. Whenever someone has a problem with her she says they are the ones with the issue.
I've just learned to not protest against what she says or face a brutal backlash.
It's sad.
Dump her. You deserve better friends.
I should....I have a million excuses why I haven't but none of them are valid.0 -
And yet you "don't have a good word to describe men that isn't profanity."
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LOL, I don't mean men in general. I mean the male equivalent of a princess. What is the term for that for men?0 -
I should....I have a million excuses why I haven't but none of them are valid.
Do it as an exercise in your own self confidence and worth. You do not deserve to be a doormat. There are lots of great people that you might be missing out on because of her.
It took me years to figure this out and dump the toxic people in my life, but life is 100% better without them.0 -
And yet you "don't have a good word to describe men that isn't profanity."
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LOL, I don't mean men in general. I mean the male equivalent of a princess. What is the term for that for men?
prince?0 -
And yet you "don't have a good word to describe men that isn't profanity."
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LOL, I don't mean men in general. I mean the male equivalent of a princess. What is the term for that for men?
Like the Jersey Shore dudes? Guidos maybe?0 -
I guess when someone says, "he's a prince," that suggests he's a nice guy. At least when I've heard it.0
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Actually, since I quit being a doormat, I've adopted something of a princess attitude, and intend to keep it that way until I'm in a position where at work and at home I'm treated with the dignity and respect I deserve. It's not that I think anyone is beneath me, I just know that no one is above me, and no boss, boyfriend, family member, or friend will be allowed to act as though they are.
This of course causes problems in my hyper-capitalist society, where it is still acceptable to use the term 'your superior' when referring to a boss. Hopefully I won't be here much longer, though.0 -
Sorry but your post puts you across as believing you are 'superior' to others and that they are 'beneath you'.
What is the 'Princess attitude' anyway? Confidence? Self-Esteem? Feeling sexy? Empowered? Acting with all the above? If that's the case then everyone should be a 'PRINCESS'.
I'll own that characterization. I DO believe I'm superior to someone who is purposefully mean to others simply because she appears to think she's better than having to put up with lardbutts, people who dress differently, people who dare to show their different ethnicity or hairstyle or approach to life, etc. I DO believe I'm superior to someone who would say something mean to a stranger for no other purpose other than to make that person feel bad. I DO believe I'm superior to someone who expects others to yield to what she wants, to give her what she wants, to do what she wants when she wants, and who freely throws a fit when she doesn't get the best before anyone else not because she's a good person or has done anything in any way deserving. Spending time with someone like that IS beneath me.
THAT is self-esteem. THAT is confidence. I KNOW I'm better than putting up with being dumped on. And I don't understand how someone can find a person with an attitude like that sexy.
I know some beautiful, sexy, confident women who own who they are and don't have to make other people serve their needs or feel bad to reinforce it. They are are a lot more real princesses than these other women. I know some awesome guys who care about others as well as themselves. Those are the real princes.0 -
[/quote] I dub thee "princess rant" rise your majesty:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
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LOL. Look out, or I'll start swinging my scepter. Off with their heads!0 -
I hate Princesses.0
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Actually, since I quit being a doormat, I've adopted something of a princess attitude, and intend to keep it that way until I'm in a position where at work and at home I'm treated with the dignity and respect I deserve. It's not that I think anyone is beneath me, I just know that no one is above me, and no boss, boyfriend, family member, or friend will be allowed to act as though they are.
Expecting to be treated with respect is not the same as a princess attitude. That's self-respect. Being just as good as everyone else is not being better than everyone else.
That's one of the things that disturbs me about this attitude I see. Good people act like they deserve to be treated as if they're somebody's servant, as if what the mean person is saying is true. As if they say they are better than you and you agree, so you go along with how they're acting. So, good people suffer while those who do nothing to help others benefit. That just doesn't make sense.0 -
I do not call them princess, usually a less savory word that rhymes with witch.Some posts in the "worst comment made to you" thread reminded me of something I've wondered about for awhile. Where does this "I'm a princess and everyone is beneath me" attitude come from, and how do you deal with it? Men can get it, too, but I don't have a good word to describe men that isn't profanity. I don't understand how people who have that kind of an attitude get others to play along with it. Having been the target of "princesses," the attitude is just so repulsive to me, and once I see someone has it, I can't help but see that person as ugly no matter their looks. For a long time, I mistook having a healthy self-appreciation with this warped view, but I know now it isn't. I guess the best way to put it is that a REAL princess/prince is also "noble" in behavior and attitude, while these fakes just come across to me as being mean and self-absorbed.
There however is nothing wrong with being confident, as long as your confidence doesn't require everyone around you feel like they aren't as good and cannot be as good as you are. Live and let live always works for me 0 -
So true. I wish I wasn't using my cell to post now or I would type a lot more on the subject but I am in complete agreeance.Actually, since I quit being a doormat, I've adopted something of a princess attitude, and intend to keep it that way until I'm in a position where at work and at home I'm treated with the dignity and respect I deserve. It's not that I think anyone is beneath me, I just know that no one is above me, and no boss, boyfriend, family member, or friend will be allowed to act as though they are.
Expecting to be treated with respect is not the same as a princess attitude. That's self-respect. Being just as good as everyone else is not being better than everyone else.
That's one of the things that disturbs me about this attitude I see. Good people act like they deserve to be treated as if they're somebody's servant, as if what the mean person is saying is true. As if they say they are better than you and you agree, so you go along with how they're acting. So, good people suffer while those who do nothing to help others benefit. That just doesn't make sense.0 -
Actually, since I quit being a doormat, I've adopted something of a princess attitude, and intend to keep it that way until I'm in a position where at work and at home I'm treated with the dignity and respect I deserve. It's not that I think anyone is beneath me, I just know that no one is above me, and no boss, boyfriend, family member, or friend will be allowed to act as though they are.
Expecting to be treated with respect is not the same as a princess attitude. That's self-respect. Being just as good as everyone else is not being better than everyone else.
That's one of the things that disturbs me about this attitude I see. Good people act like they deserve to be treated as if they're somebody's servant, as if what the mean person is saying is true. As if they say they are better than you and you agree, so you go along with how they're acting. So, good people suffer while those who do nothing to help others benefit. That just doesn't make sense.
Good points, but once you've been a doormat, I find it's easy to be hypersensitive to being disrespected. I'm supposed to put up with crappy bosses, so says my society, it's all about that money, but I can't. So I have no place here anymore. I just won't let rude customers and co-workers and bosses mistreat me again, I'd rather starve, or take up a life of crime, but my first preference is to move to another country in hopes that somewhere, workers are treated like human beings instead of like verbal punching bags.
Oh yes, my last job was as a cashier, in case anyone wondered. Anyone who has ever worked as one probably didn't have to wonder. Horrible job, I think prostitution would afford more dignity.0 -
I don't know if its just the area I live in, or the fact that my head is so far in the clouds that I don't notice, but I don't recall anyone ever going out of their way to be purposefully rude to me.
I work in retail - I have twatty customers. I have people that get angry and shouty. But they're never rude about ME, but rather the service or product they've received.
I wish everyone could live in a world where there were no 'princesses' (although, I love Kate Middleton, so as long as she still lives), but its a fact of life that people out there, thrive off upsetting people, and making them feel less worthy. That is never going to change. What needs to change is how we deal with it. You don't like my hair? Fine, I think its f'awesome and that's all that matters.0
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