Need a hug :(

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ubermagee
ubermagee Posts: 57
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Hi guys,

Needing a bit of a psychological cuddle, so to speak. Feeling a bit down in the dumps after a heavy weekend of easter eating, and now TOM is fast approaching. Feeling huge, spotty, lethargic, and just plain miserable.

I've realised that of course, my weekend of ridiculous food has caused this, and now I feel the guilt. I suppose it's better than *not* realising what I've done wrong and continuing down the same path, right?

A xxx
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  • cramernh
    cramernh Posts: 3,335 Member
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    A hug is not necessary - you have to learn that its ok to allow yourself that once-in-a-blue-moon foodfest. I had me a power-protein fix for Easter dinner by throwing a HUGE barbeque. Chicken, pork, steak, turkey, seafood - you name it, it was there! I made a broccoli salad for myself, a traditional pasta salad for my husband, classic deviled eggs... yeah.. I had me a good 800 calorie meal... but I chose to plan it out so I could enjoy it.

    If you keep allowing yourself to feel guilty, you will become your own worst enemy....

    Dont allow yourself to feel guilty...

    Ask yourself - did you enjoy the food porn?
  • ubermagee
    ubermagee Posts: 57
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    I did, and I didn't. I loved it because I got to eat all naughty stuff, but with every bite I just felt guiltier and guiltier. Just don't know whether the guilt is worth the occasional splurge anymore!
  • phillbis
    phillbis Posts: 411 Member
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    I think an occasional splurge is okay. You have to be able to live with this lifestyle change in the long run in order to be successful. I also would get discouraged in the past when having a bad day and would tell myself just give up and be fat. Now, I tell myself, today is the last day I will be this heavy/look this way and continue on.
  • Miss_Mira
    Miss_Mira Posts: 6
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    I felt the same after Easter weekend, I spent most of yesterday in a funk of feeling bad that I consumed so many jelly beans and candy. This week I m just going to work hard at adding a couple extra minutes to my work outs, making healthy choices all week and stay on track.
  • cramernh
    cramernh Posts: 3,335 Member
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    I did, and I didn't. I loved it because I got to eat all naughty stuff, but with every bite I just felt guiltier and guiltier. Just don't know whether the guilt is worth the occasional splurge anymore!

    Why allow an inanimate object to dictate how you feel?
    You are human, right? Meaning, you acknowledge that mistakes can be made, and in this case, it can be delicious for a holiday that happens one-time per year?
  • TexanThom
    TexanThom Posts: 778
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    There, there...It will be alright.
  • mrmanmeat
    mrmanmeat Posts: 1,968 Member
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    Eat better, regardless if it's easter.
    go for a long walk/run at the very least today. you'll feel better.
  • KitTheRoadie
    KitTheRoadie Posts: 641 Member
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    :flowerforyou:
  • Mummsy
    Mummsy Posts: 347 Member
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    Hugs! Get in lots of extra water. For some reason, that always helps me.
  • JCCarroll1968
    JCCarroll1968 Posts: 6 Member
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    I know how you feel. I started my weight lose journey a month ago and I find that every 4 or 5 days I just get an urge to be bad. I always tell myself it is just one day, or one meal, but in the end I find that when I do give in, it sets be back a couple of days. The key for me is to realized that I have changed the way I look at food and the choices I make to eat them. I am getting results, so I do no tlet it get me down, so neither should you. It is in the past, just refocus and stay the path :smile:
  • LoggingForLife
    LoggingForLife Posts: 504 Member
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    :flowerforyou:
  • sjebert
    sjebert Posts: 212 Member
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    Here are my thoughts, I don't think we should ever beat ourselves up over what we have done (I used to do it a lot), what is done is done, the weekend is over and you are moving forward, hopefully having learned something and are now headed down the right path again. Beating yourself up, will just lead you to want to quit and quitting every time things go rough is what got most of here in the first place. Just move forward and move on, you can do it.
  • mandi_plus_jack
    mandi_plus_jack Posts: 4
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    Don't beat yourself up, its going to happen! Just jump back on board. We all have our moments of weakness! ::hugs::
  • stephabef
    stephabef Posts: 936 Member
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    Hug, hug, hug!! :) But the best hug of all will come from eating well/exercising/getting back on track. You can do it! :)
  • ANewLucia
    ANewLucia Posts: 2,081 Member
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    The only way to maintain weight loss is for it to be maintainable. It is not possible to stay away from everything forever. That is why I strongly urge people to eat to lose weight. You don't have to have a 1200 restricted diet to lose weight. So many that do, it is heartbreaking because it isn't maintainable and the moment you eat you gain weight ever faster because you have reset your metabolic rate lower.

    I eat 1900 cals daily and I can eat anything in moderation because I keep my macros at 40/30/30...so I don't feel deprived or guilty when I eat. Eating shouldn't bring guilt.

    Many times people carb binge because they deprive themselves on the unrealistic restrictive diet. That was me...I didn't lose on 1200, 1350 or even 1500...I started eating 20% less than TDEE and bam...fat started rolling off...I plateaued and upped again to 15% less than TDEE and the weight started moving again...

    Take a look at what your BMR is and see if you are eating above it...what about your TDEE? If you don't know what they are, take a look at the "Eat More to Weigh Less" group...just read some of the topics. Learning I could actually eat made the process much easier...
  • taliesyn_
    taliesyn_ Posts: 219 Member
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    *wraps his arms around you and gives you a gentle squeeze*

    Like I need an excuse for a hug :wink:

    Just get back on the wagon today and move on... it's done and you can't change it so the best course of action is retaliation by tracking and planning :smile:
  • miss5fteleven
    miss5fteleven Posts: 5
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    I feel the same - the guilt is terrible, but it is better that you know where you have gone wrong. We are all in the same situation - we just need to get back on it :) x
  • massagecailin
    massagecailin Posts: 19
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    The way I see it, you're not making a mistake or anything. If you're sick, you take the day off to rest, because that's what your body needs (or at least, you're supposed to, I know myself I try to resist until my body collapses out of exhaustion). I think eating can be the same way. Some days your body needs to take a break from the food and exercise, and relax too. If you look at the year, many of the holidays are in the winter-when your body needs to fatten up and store extra nutrients because of the cold. In the summer, they are spread out over months, because you don't need as much. Sometimes nature plans things out, and we should take note of it. Now I'm not saying that Thanksgiving and Christmas should each have their own pigout session where you gorge on sweets and food and make yourself sick at each family get-together (many people go to a couple houses), or make the holiday season last from Thanksgiving until the new year, I'm just saying that you should relax a little. I also offer no scientific proof to back any of this up, it's just the way I feel about it. I'm also a weirdo who's a little "out there" so no one should probably take what I have to say to heart anyway...

    I bet you're doing wonderfully, and this one day won't even matter in a little while. Keep up the good work, and let yourself live a little! :) This is a lifestyle change, and if you're going to deny yourself for the rest of your life, you're probably going to go crazy from it, or feel guilty for the rest of your life each time you "cheat". It's better to allow yourself the simple pleasures with acceptance, but plan them so you don't feel guilty. Maybe work out a ration, or something that you feel comfortable with. I wish you all the best!!!
  • gaylelynnmc
    gaylelynnmc Posts: 41
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    Good morning doll...listen yesterday is where it should be in the past...so not to worry today is a new day and you are going to move ahead...no looking back...have a wonderful day...look at everything that is coming your way....hugs hugs hugs
  • rorae
    rorae Posts: 34 Member
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    I read on a posting here several weeks ago: There is no good food or bad food.......it's just food.....
    Here's a hug ........squeeze-squeeze

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