After losing have you noticed relationship changes?

My bf thinks I'm just doing it for attention. He says since I don't have diabetes or high blood pressure or am not 100 lbs overweight I have no real reason to be trying to get in shape. I say why would I wait until that happens? Why not just get healthy and in shape now and stay that way?

My partner and I broke up- my lifestyle change was one of many contributing factors.

A few changes, not all good. Mostly I've found new support networks, made new friends I never thought I would. But also getting a bit of drama from others. My hubby is the big one, he's always been into bodybuilding, and yes he's supportive, but I'm noticing that as I'm getting closer and closer to goal, finding a new found confidence and bounce, smashing all my goals and aims, he's changing. Really hard to explain, but the support is different now, he's becoming quite sarcastic. Could go into heaps of details, but don't have time to write a novel lol.

I let none of it get to me, if it happens to cause hubby and I to drift apart, well I guess I look at it, things weren't meant to be to start with. As for other friends, well their loss really, to lose such a good friend, simply because I'm doing and achieving, what most of them want to and could do with doing.

My boyfriend has never complained about my weight as I was around the same weight when we started seeing each other.

He says as long as I don't go stick thin, he doesn't care. I also inspired him to start working out
Even though I LOVE his body just the way it is . As long as he's happy, that's all that really matters though.

My husband hasn't said a word about my weight lose and it hasn't changed anything. It is a bite depressing. I am working so hard. I was hoping that he would start being "affectionate" again. No such luck.

At least my friends have noticed and are happy for me. I have more energy and do more physical activity.

Do any of you ever feel like your significant other doesn't want you to lose weight or is afraid of you losing weight because they think you might leave them for someone else?

My boyfriend said that with pretty much the same words. He's the tall, fit, muscular type and probably knows the type of attention girls get at the gym. He always asks who I talk to at the gym, he implies that I'm changing, and I haven't even lost that much yet! He also tries to make me feel bad about eating healthy sometimes. It's driving me nuts!

Also, someone said something about not getting "stick thin," and that sounds like my husband

I think it can change your relationship totally. I know for me, I had let myself go, gained weight, didn't wear makeup and dressed like a slob. I mean, I was married so who would want me anyways. I quit smoking 5 years ago and that started me on my wanting to be healthier. Once I lost a decent amount of weight, I wanted to look good and started wearing makeup again and dressing more nicely. Now I dress in nice clothes that look good on me to go to work and wear makeup and jewelry.

The better I felt about myself, the more I realized that I wasn't happy in the marriage I am in, part of the reason I had let myself go to pot. I was feeling stuck and unhappy, so why bother to take care of myself? I've worked everything out and can do this on my own (I am the breadwinner in the family).

I am asking him for a separation this weekend. It's not going to go over well because he is very self-absorbed and doesn't even realize how bad things really are. Wish me luck.

Um... I'm going through a divorce now, so that's a pretty major change.

Honestly, that wasn't the reason for the split, but I do have to say that when you work so hard to change your body and get fit and healthy, and the other person isn't on the same page as you are, it definitely does cause an issue.

I am worried this is happening to me. My wife is a rail but is completely out of shape. I have plenty of shape:laugh: (circles, ovals, etc.), and have been on a mission for the past year to get healthy again. Anytime I get excited about progress (lost weight, new personal record in lifting or running) and try to tell her about it she either blows me off or rolls her eyes and calls me a meathead. Definitely not supportive, and now that this is a part of my life, it seems to come between us. Then she thinks it's okay to "jokingly" call me fat. I'm really starting to resent her...but hoping things will change once I reach my goal weight.

My wife started out sort of like this, she would tell me that I should go to the gym if it would make me happy but then complain if I went. she gotten better but usually rolls her eyes when I share NSVs with her or just good job and then gets back on facebook. it has helped that I've gotten her hooked on the gym and weight training. and today she mentioned that my belly is flattening out, that was nice.

Do any of you ever feel like your significant other doesn't want you to lose weight or is afraid of you losing weight because they think you might leave them for someone else?

This is my wifes biggest fear, she's been turning into a jealous person.

my ex made a point of telling me when i asked for a divorce that i would have never acted like this when i was fat, that i think i'm hot **** now and that no matter what i should know that i'll always be ugly
nice huh?

WOW.. IMO good thing he's an ex now. That is a very rude thing to say. Plus it is nonsense --- Tell him you have every reason to think your hot **** you have worked hard to get to that point, and he can eat his heart out.

My husband of almost 7 years never complained when I weighed 262 pounds (5'8) to his 6'7'' 245 pound body. When we met I was around 190 or so (and also 18). I really thought he loved me for me and he continued as the scale went up. "Relations" were great at 262 and now at 202 "relations" don't exist This has been very hard for me and I even found out he was having an emotional relationship (non-sexual) with another woman (and she was skinny). I am doing this for myself and my daughter but I thought he would enjoy the benefits of my weight loss also. Guess I was wrong. I am currently doing everything in my power to save my marrage but the trust is semi-broken and this really takes a tool on me. I even tried to put some weight back on but still he didn't seem happy so I figure why suffer and I started to eat right again and lose again he MAY get to see the finaly results but only time will tell!!

Goods - People are inspired by you and wants to work out with you. People ask for your opinion and hwo you lost weight. I'm more confident. I fit in smaller clothes.

Bads - My ex didn' tlike the new eating habits I had. She wanted to go out and eat pizza and large portions but i rather cook and bake food. She said I was obsessed with the gym because I went for an hour 5 days a week.

My husband of almost 7 years never complained when I weighed 262 pounds (5'8) to his 6'7'' 245 pound body. When we met I was around 190 or so (and also 18). I really thought he loved me for me and he continued as the scale went up. "Relations" were great at 262 and now at 202 "relations" don't exist This has been very hard for me and I even found out he was having an emotional relationship (non-sexual) with another woman (and she was skinny). I am doing this for myself and my daughter but I thought he would enjoy the benefits of my weight loss also. Guess I was wrong. I am currently doing everything in my power to save my marrage but the trust is semi-broken and this really takes a tool on me. I even tried to put some weight back on but still he didn't seem happy so I figure why suffer and I started to eat right again and lose again he MAY get to see the finaly results but only time will tell!!

This was and is me. About 5 years ago I was down to my goal weight, found hubby 'chatting' to other women, but all history at the same time. Got over that, by putting weight back on. Had major surgery 2.5 years ago and found out he was having an emotional affair, with someone I thought was my best friend. Been really hard as he works for her and her husband. Long history of crap, which I won't go into. I thought we'd gotten over that. But the last few weeks, I've noticed the changes in him again, and his attitude towards me and my new healthy life and personality. I'm waiting for the ' But you've changed' comment.

It's not a case that I've changed, I've just got the new, old me back again. I'm the same person, just the happier, more confident version. The one who is actually happy with who she is and can the real her.

Sorry to hear all that has happened to you also. It is so hard and it is so bad that the 1st thing we do is turn to food. I am doing this for myself and if he can't be happy for/with me then I might have to throw in the towel. i am just not ready to do that yet. I do love him. Good luck with all you have going on and hang in there you are strong and can do this!

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