Scared to get pregnant?!

I want to get pregnant before im 30.. .Of course I want a husband too lol.
BUT, Ive been trying to lose with for 4 years now. Gain, lose... Never got to where I want. If I get there in the next year, or even 4, i want time to feel beautiful in my body, have the body ive wanted.... I will definetly be very scared to get pregnant, because ive ALWAYS struggled with weightloss...

I never wanted kids.

I was always overweight and when I first wen on a diet when i was 21 years old I lost a large amount of weight and was 20lbs from my goal weight wen YUP I got pregnant.

Unfortunetly I gained 100lbs during my pregnancy due to toxemia and my thyroid going crazy.

I have since only lost 40lbs of that weight and my son is going to be 4 in August.

I do however want another child now.

NOT until I reach my goal weight tho. )

I lost weight in my first trimester of being pregnant and was given a serious talking to by my midwife as the baby takes what it needs regardless of what Mum is doing. But as some one else has said the first time you hold the baby you don't worry about your size, just how you can protect that small person for the rest of their life. And once they get mobile you start to loose weight anyway!

Then adopt.

Or don't have kids. Nothing says you HAVE to have them.

i was nervouse to get pregnant with my daughter, i had wanted to lose weight but it didnt work out that way. i ate extra healthy with her to avoid things like hypertention and gestational diabetes. (sorry my spelling sucks). in the end it didnt matter how big i was she came out healthy and perfect (mommy bias). now she is the greastest inspration for getting in shape i have ever had.

It's not superficial to get to a healthy weight before you get pregnant.

It is SMART and better for you and the baby.


I started with a healthy BMI but I gained too much weight with both of mine...50 with the first and 40 with the second (but started 10 lbs heavier so ended up at the same weight). With both kids the first 20 lbs came off easy, the next 10-20 came off with some effort and work, and I'm currently trying to lose the last 10-20 with A LOT of effort.

I would highly recommend starting off at a healthy weight and then trying to stay within the 25-30 lb weight gain. I ate way too much crap with both pregnancies.

Oh man! So, I got pregnant and pack on the pounds... 80 to be exact. It's weird but I knew that I should be watching my weight and working out more, I just didn't care... Until after I gave birth and the blinders were lifted and I noticed just how big I got. I have lost a lot of weight since then (all thanks to these awsome shakes I am taking and exercise) but I have not reached my goal yet. But I will tell you this... I will NOT get pregnant again until I am at my goal weight so I can totally understand the fear you are talking about. I will never be that size again!

http://pregnancy.amuchbetterway.com/sugar-and-pregnancy/

Check that link out, it's valuable information whether you're pregnant or not.

Also, I am trying to lose the rest of my previous baby weight so we can have another baby. I gained 30 lbs with my 1st pregnancy & lost 20 lbs within the first week after giving birth.. but then I decided to be a stay at home mom.. so I gained that 20 back & then some. I'm trying to get down to my pre-pregnancy weight atleast so I won't be twice as big. I know my body will never be the same & I don't regret having my son one bit, but you should definitely continue to stay actice & eat healthy through out a pregnancy. And contrary to what people say, you DONT have to "eat for two". You only need to up your calories about 200-300 calories per day ONLY after you enter into your SECOND trimester. & if you're already active before getting pregnant, you can continue to be active during pregnancy just dont over do it. You should gain mostly only healthy weight, not FAT weight. I read somewhere (but dont quote me on this) that if you're already really overweight, you shouldn't gain more than about 15-20 lbs during pregnancy. & If you're a healthy weight, it's okay to gain up to 35 lbs.

I completely understand your fears. My husband and I are trying now and not being able to eat badly, or drink, and getting plenty of rest and sleep has been really great for weight loss. Just because you want to get pregnant doesn't necessarily mean you will immediately and you can use that time to really take care of yourself.

At this moment, I am pretty comfortable and I feel like my body is in good shape to handle pregnancy.

Also, you have already found MFP so I think that you'll have the good habits to keep your weight in check.

It is a bit of a fear I have as well, but I have realized now it is possible to have a healthy pregancy and not put on tons of weight, although some is necessary (your doctor will keep tabs on you). We always picture the pregnant woman "craving" ice cream and fast food....but I think more often than not people use their pregnancy as an excuse to eat unhealthily, when really you should be feeding yourself and the new baby HEALTHY things.

My coworker went to the gym and did treamills jogs up until the day she had the baby (with doctor's ok of course).

I don't think it is selfish to be scared, it is probably normal. Having a baby is a big deal for you and your body!

Just realize though that you DO have the power over your weight and you CAN lose it, no matter how much you put on, after you have the baby.

You can do it!
Don't let fear rule. :flowerforyou:

interesting. I have four children, all by C-section. My last pregnancy I was pretty sure I'd die delivering so I was scared the entire time but I didn't and on the up-side, breast feeding is TREMENDOUS for getting your figure back.
If I could just breast feed w/o having a baby, I'd probably do that just cause you can eat like a horse & still lose (and it comes off your middle best)

Don't let fear of weight gain keep you from having a family. IF you eat right & exercise (carefully) you won't gain TOO much and as I say, breast feed & it comes off FAST. And babies are ever so worth it. and besides, if you have lots of kids, playing with them & chasing them around burns LOTS of calories.

Omg. It's your child stop being so superficial. God save America

That's a really unfair thing to say, and also a bit thoughtless.

I'm scared to get pregnant at my current weight because it could kill me. When I lose the weight, I imagine that I'd be scared to get pregnant to undo all the hard work I've done to get healthy.

It's not always about the way you look.

Great question! I'm anxious to hear from mothers. Some people have told me that if you gain a respectable amount of weight that you'll leave the hospital with only 5-7 lbs left to go...

I'm sorry, that literally made me LOL. I'm not sure what "respectable" is...they say "normal" is 25-35pounds if you are in a normal weight range to start. I gained 39lbs with my second child so a little over normal. I left the hospital with only a 5 pound loss (keep in mind I had a 6 lb baby...WTH?? and I breastfed her the whole 3 days we were in the hospital!). Guess everyone is just different. I had lost all but 10 of the pounds w/in 6 weeks. The other 10 pounds took a year (and a lot of exercise).

Edit to add: I breastfed my daughter exclusively for 6 months, then supplemented here and there with formula. We are down to one nursing every couple of days now (trying to wean a 15 month old is hard work!!)

I never had this feeling. I have always looked at it as if i wanted to loose the weight bad enough I would... With my first I went from 140 to 219 lbs...It took me a couple of years after to get serious to loose it but when I did in 2008 I went down to 138....Got pregnant with my second one in 2010 went from 153 to 190 with my second....But now after a few complications after Ethen and a year later I am down to 148 below pre preggo....It can be done. And if you are honestly not wanting a child because it might mess up your body maybe you aren't ready for a kid. It takes alot of selfless giving... In no way am I being mean or judgemental. Just something to think about.

My husband keeps bring it up which is amazing because for a long time he didn't really want a kid but we had compromised with 1 cuz I wanted 2 and he wanted 0...but now, he's changed his mind (yay). I was a little hesitant to go for it now because of how much progress I've made in the last year..

But then, around the 3rd time he brought it up recently, I changed my mind. I've realized that if I've lost the weight once, I can do it again if I happen to gain a lot back...but I'm almost more motivated to be the "cute looking mom" so I can do it again if needed!!!