Ladies. What the...
Ok going to use MFP for something besides fitness.
Ladies: What the F? Most of the girls I know are smart, beautiful and overall just amazing but seriously...do you NOT realize when a man is bad news for you? I read about abusive or no-good men you all go out with when you friend-zone good men all the time.
I'm not calling you ignorant to go out with these men or anything but most of you realize that he's upto no good and you STILL stick with them for years. Just...why? I am not interested in a serious relationship so I'm not talking about myself but I have alot of good friends who's only fault is that they're not jerks who're trying to score a sugar-mama. They're men who provide and protect the women in their lives and yet the only time they hear from you all are when you wanna b!tch and complain about your current relationship.
So how about instead of treating them like a doormat, try going out with them. I know it'll be different, they might actually not hit you. They might even pay for your meal. Wouldnt that be nice? eh? eh?
/end rant
Edit: BTW, it really pisses off men when you whine about your current relationships to them yet when they ask you to dump the man or something you try to defend your abusive partner.
Ladies: What the F? Most of the girls I know are smart, beautiful and overall just amazing but seriously...do you NOT realize when a man is bad news for you? I read about abusive or no-good men you all go out with when you friend-zone good men all the time.
I'm not calling you ignorant to go out with these men or anything but most of you realize that he's upto no good and you STILL stick with them for years. Just...why? I am not interested in a serious relationship so I'm not talking about myself but I have alot of good friends who's only fault is that they're not jerks who're trying to score a sugar-mama. They're men who provide and protect the women in their lives and yet the only time they hear from you all are when you wanna b!tch and complain about your current relationship.
So how about instead of treating them like a doormat, try going out with them. I know it'll be different, they might actually not hit you. They might even pay for your meal. Wouldnt that be nice? eh? eh?
/end rant
Edit: BTW, it really pisses off men when you whine about your current relationships to them yet when they ask you to dump the man or something you try to defend your abusive partner.
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he he, he's being hit in the crotch0 -
^That's hyterical!^
What about the guys that complain about the girls, and then girls like me get friend-zoned? It's a WTF moment all the time.0 -
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Because those "no good" men impress women with there confidence, and aren't wasting time worried about what everyone else is doing.
Think of them what you will, but they're get more than their mind blown.0 -
^That's hyterical!^
What about the guys that complain about the girls, and then girls like me get friend-zoned? It's a WTF moment all the time.
At least your not like some girls I know that settle for the friends with benefits zone.0 -
^That's hyterical!^
What about the guys that complain about the girls, and then girls like me get friend-zoned? It's a WTF moment all the time.
At least your not like some girls I know that settle for the friends with benefits zone.
Might be desperate, but not that desperate.0 -
No one seeks out a jerk. Some men play the good guy role pretty well and then slowly turn into the jerk that they really are. Some women believe that they are to blame for the change and decide to ride out the storm looking for ways to get back to the way things were at first.0
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No one seeks out a jerk. Some men play the good guy role pretty well and then slowly turn into the jerk that they really are. Some women believe that they are to blame for the change and decide to ride out the storm looking for ways to get back to the way things were at first.
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"A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired."0
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No one seeks out a jerk. Some men play the good guy role pretty well and then slowly turn into the jerk that they really are. Some women believe that they are to blame for the change and decide to ride out the storm looking for ways to get back to the way things were at first.
And sadly, some of us have been there. I hate to admit it but I was that woman. Blaming myself for everything wrong in the relationship. He never admitted fault and always pointed out my flaws and I believed them. And then when times were good, they were really really good and then crap happened and it would be yelling, blaming, and then screaming, crying, throwing stuff, and then I'm sorry, I love you, I won't do it again, romantic weekends, ect.0 -
this. is. AWESOME!0 -
Yeh your right ^^^^^^ above comment Well it was above its now the third one up sorry0
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Because those "no good" men impress women with there confidence, and aren't wasting time worried about what everyone else is doing.
Think of them what you will, but they're get more than their mind blown.
lol anyone can score a one-night stand. Heck I've seen guys get with somebody after calling them a b!tch. I'm talking about long-term relationship where they actually realize that they're in a bad situation but not only stick it out, but try and defend the man they're with when told to get rid of him. All the while whining about how bad the situation is...0 -
Because those "no good" men impress women with there confidence, and aren't wasting time worried about what everyone else is doing.
Think of them what you will, but they're get more than their mind blown.
lol anyone can score a one-night stand. Heck I've seen guys get with somebody after calling them a b!tch. I'm talking about long-term relationship where they actually realize that they're in a bad situation but not only stick it out, but try and defend the man they're with when told to get rid of him. All the while whining about how bad the situation is...
I will only speak about a situation I know of. My friend has a BF that constantly cheats, I told her he will never change (I've known him for years), and by her continually 'taking him back' she is basically "allowing him" to cheat. I've told her this over and over again. She tells me, "if I break up with him, he will lose his job" (he doesn't have a driver's license). I told her, "it's not your responsibility, he made his bed, he needs to lie in it...not have somebody fluff his pillows. He can go live with one of his hussies, and they can drive his *kitten* around" She still won't break up with him, idk he must shoot sparks out of his D*&$ or something, I don't get it.0 -
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So many women are at the low end of self esteem. With media, celebrities, our own families....we are made to feel unworthy. I think that is why many women are in abusive relationships. Whatever strength they had is sucked out by the dude with charisma and the ability to s*** his way out of any situation. I've never been one for mind games, but I was a victim of wicked mind games by my ex husband. And damn.....people are really good at it.0
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No one seeks out a jerk. Some men play the good guy role pretty well and then slowly turn into the jerk that they really are. Some women believe that they are to blame for the change and decide to ride out the storm looking for ways to get back to the way things were at first.
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some girls like drama. they choose a bad guy because that gives them the drama they seek.. when you're with a bad guy you get to play the sad girl who's just trying to keep her relationship together. she gets constant reassurances that shes wonderful from all her friends, or random strangers on the internet. she gets to complain about how bad he is and how shes the wounded little bird.
its stupid. and its not women who act like this. its little girls. girls that like drama and aren't strong enough to stand on their own two feet.
and as for the guys that are friend zoned by these little girls. why do you want someone who acts like a child. those guys also need to grow up and go for a woman, not a little girl.0 -
Are they in the 40ish age group range? I'd be happy to pass my number along! :flowerforyou:0
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some girls like drama. they choose a bad guy because that gives them the drama they seek.. when you're with a bad guy you get to play the sad girl who's just trying to keep her relationship together. she gets constant reassurances that shes wonderful from all her friends, or random strangers on the internet. she gets to complain about how bad he is and how shes the wounded little bird.
its stupid. and its not women who act like this. its little girls. girls that like drama and aren't strong enough to stand on their own two feet.
and as for the guys that are friend zoned by these little girls. why do you want someone who acts like a child. those guys also need to grow up and go for a woman, not a little girl.
Thankyou for actually solving this riddle for me. I now understand via your first paragraph though you lost me on the second para because I know a couple of girls in their late 30s, mid 40's who are like this.
Like I said, I'm dating a beautiful and confident girl who I didnt had to bring down her esteem to be with. But I have few friends who are good people, are decently confident but get left out because some *kitten* comes out and starts smoking on the girls face and the girls are like "I can change this bad boy!"...
You're right, men shouldnt (and most dont) go out for these shin****s but as somebody who've been put in this situation in the past cant help but wonder wtf is going on...0 -
some girls like drama. they choose a bad guy because that gives them the drama they seek.. when you're with a bad guy you get to play the sad girl who's just trying to keep her relationship together. she gets constant reassurances that shes wonderful from all her friends, or random strangers on the internet. she gets to complain about how bad he is and how shes the wounded little bird.
its stupid. and its not women who act like this. its little girls. girls that like drama and aren't strong enough to stand on their own two feet.
and as for the guys that are friend zoned by these little girls. why do you want someone who acts like a child. those guys also need to grow up and go for a woman, not a little girl.
Thankyou for actually solving this riddle for me. I now understand via your first paragraph though you lost me on the second para because I know a couple of girls in their late 30s, mid 40's who are like this.
Like I said, I'm dating a beautiful and confident girl who I didnt had to bring down her esteem to be with. But I have few friends who are good people, are decently confident but get left out because some *kitten* comes out and starts smoking on the girls face and the girls are like "I can change this bad boy!"...
You're right, men shouldnt (and most dont) go out for these shin****s but as somebody who've been put in this situation in the past cant help but wonder wtf is going on...
i'm glad you liked my answer
when i say they're are little girls not women, i'm not talking about age, i'm talking about maturity. you can be 50years old and still be a little girl. i put females into two categories, "girls" and "women". women stand on their own two feet, take care of business, bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan... girls get taken care of, love drama, and have no wisdom.0 -
Goes both ways.0
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So many guys think they are perfect and can't figure out why the girls don't go for them. Maybe it's the constant whining.0
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I have several close male friends. I -wish- the above was the case."A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much.0 -
And, annoyingly, we continue to give help to these girls - witness the 300+ posts to the "Abusive" thread.....she hasn't even come back to her own post. Everyone wants to help. We are all caretakers to one degree or another.
I've learned to turn my back on girls who like these types of relationships. Drama and such are not what I want in my life. The man and woman are both to blame here. They find each other like moths to flame.
We'd all be better off if we refused to listen to them after the first time they told us of the "abuse"- once we tell them they ought to get out, we are not helping unless we are helping pack boxes.
Giving them attention does nothing but fuel the behavior. It's no different than a drug addict. Why enable them? Tell them to get out or quit complaining. Yeah, I'm real soft and fuzzy, aren't I?0
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