Thick & thin - anybody else half of a fat/thin couple?

Bunnehface
Bunnehface Posts: 129 Member
in Motivation and Support
Hi

Just wondering if anyone else on here is trying to lose weight and in a relationship with someone bigger or smaller than them?
My fiancé is around 6' and weighs approx 180lb. He's slim but muscular and only has to lift a couple of boxes to get a six pack! I'm 5'10 and 250lb. He's very supportive and encouraging - I know he loves me regardless of how much I weigh, but I do wonder sometimes how he ended up with me! Is anyone else out there in a similar boat?

Hazel, 25, UK.

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  • mygrl4meee
    mygrl4meee Posts: 943 Member
    My husband is very thin and generally at times can go without eating and also has a huge swert tooth. I am at 257 and he has been supportive in me trying to lose weight and is really good about handling things at home so I can go to the Y. I really don't feel like he judges me for my weight or anything like that.
  • MistyboBisty
    MistyboBisty Posts: 33
    Oh yes. Even at my "goal weight" I will still most likely be bigger than my hubby. I'm convinced he loses weight from the mere effort of lifting the fork to his mouth. He has a very slender build and a very good metabolism. After 14 years together, he had put on 10 pounds while I had packed on a whopping 85! He is very supportive of my efforts thus far though, and has never made me feel bad about my weight gain. I have always hated it.
  • Bunnehface
    Bunnehface Posts: 129 Member
    Haha I know the feeling. All my fiancé has to do is spend a day helping out in the warehouse at his job (he's usually a salesman) and he comes home with a six pack. It's so unfair! Especially seeing as he can ALWAYS out-eat me, his appetite is bottomless! His metabolism just laughs in the face of anything you throw at it lol. My goal weight is a few pounds less than him, I'm sure even if I hit it he will still look slimmer than me because of how we carry our weight differently! X
  • HodderAL
    HodderAL Posts: 358 Member
    YES!! lol.

    My husband is fit, trim and has a hard body... I swear it's just good genes! Though, he is a carpenter lol. He can eat what he wants, when he wants, and it NEVER makes a difference to him. He has a 6 pack, and a gorgeous, 6' tall hard body.

    I, on the other hand, ballooned up to over 220lbs. I was around 185ish lbs when we met. I don't think I'll ever be as trim as he is. He is very supportive of my efforts (even measuring/weighing my portions for me) and has never said anything to me about my weight... other than he doesn't want me to lose too much weight! lol.
  • NicolettetheGreek
    NicolettetheGreek Posts: 246 Member
    I used to be the thick in the think/thin couple..but he caught up..looks kinda preggers now.

    Why do some men gain weight just in their bellies, like a turtle shell.:huh: .with an itty bitty butt, thin legs, and normal arms?

    Me, gain all over:grumble: especially face, arms, legs, belly, feet (damn it):noway: boobs:blushing: HAIR:laugh: (thicker and longer..lol..loving that!!):bigsmile:

    Men..can you tell me why? He does a lot of physical work, but does not exercise.
    nks in advance!
  • elishabeish
    elishabeish Posts: 175 Member
    Same here, My hubby is 6'1 and 195 lbs, I'm 5'3 and at my worst 228lbs, now down to 201. It's frustrating knowing he can eat an entire large pizza to himself and not gain an ounce where as I can gain 10 lbs just smelling it, lol. We are complete opposites physically and personality wise but soon it will only be a personalty difference =) I often wonder how he wound up with me too, I even ask him from time to time, He says "because I wanted you" love hearin those word <3
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    I am the thin one. My husband is overweight.
  • Bunnehface
    Bunnehface Posts: 129 Member
    Hahahaha like a turtle shell - that made me lol! :)))
  • MistyboBisty
    MistyboBisty Posts: 33
    I'm loving that all these men I'm reading about on here are so supportive though! My hubs just couldn't understand why I didn't want him getting a good look at me when I got bigger and bigger. "You still look hot to me!" was his fav. line. God bless the man. But, no matter what they say, it's hard for a woman to be bigger than her man, I think. But, yeah, even if I weighed less, I'll always have the bigger booty...to which he says "Thank God!" LOL
  • tycusjay
    tycusjay Posts: 103 Member
    Yep! My Fiancee is 5'5" and 66 kgs. I am 5'6" and WAS 86 kgs, so a whole 20 kgs heavier than him! I'm now 69 kgs and my ultimate goal is to either weigh the same or less than him before our August wedding :wink:
  • Mgregory723
    Mgregory723 Posts: 529 Member
    I am big and my hubby is small. He weighs 159 and is 5'9".....he can eat anything not gain a pound! That means ice cream at night most of the time. But he loves me for me and that's all that counts! P.S. he never ever makes fun of my weight and is very encouraging for me to lose weight although he doesn't want the hips, butt or boobs to go away!! LOL
  • Andrea_McQ
    Andrea_McQ Posts: 56 Member
    Oh me too! He's at my goal weight but is 8" taller than me and complains about wanting to gain! What's worse is he had a great habit of splitting our dinner exactly in half on our plates. Have had to hammer it home to him that it isn't as generous as it might seem to do that! :-) It works for both of us to increase his portion and decrease mine.

    He's very supportive though, my highest weight was 210lbs pre/post 2 pregnancies (as in the babies didn't add the weight, I was there to start with) and he has never made me feel bad about my weight but is absolutely behind me getting healthy and loves to see me happier and more confident.

    It's a pain to hear him complain about trying to gain weight, but I'm really lucky to have such great support
  • mmlg4
    mmlg4 Posts: 2 Member
    As most men age, the 'bigger' belly is often related to testosterone levels....so it is a hormone thing. hth
  • Bunnehface
    Bunnehface Posts: 129 Member
    Every time I talk about my goals for losing weight, he says he'll support me 100% as long as I don't lose my bum lol. He has a teeny tiny bum so the least I can do is keep mine so he has one to look at! XD
    I've been the smaller one in relationships in the past before, and that was strange for me to have a guy who was self-conscious about his size, no matter how much reassurance you give, they never believe you when you say that they are sexy and attractive. Must be the same for our men...maybe we should learn to take a compliment - at least they're trying! :)))
  • doinitforme2012
    doinitforme2012 Posts: 98 Member
    i'm 5' and about 160 and hubby is 6' and about 120. i would kill for that metabolism.
  • Reeny1_8
    Reeny1_8 Posts: 277
    Yes!! I'm 4"7 and 209lbs and he is 5"9 and 170lbs. He is muscular and I am jiggly :(
  • kbogart1996
    kbogart1996 Posts: 55 Member
    My husband is the thin one that can eat whatever he wants. He has also taken up running in the last few years and is a natural. He just ran 10 miles in 70 minutes.
  • angieleighbyrd
    angieleighbyrd Posts: 989 Member
    My husband is a twig
  • UpEarly
    UpEarly Posts: 2,555 Member
    When my husband and I started dating I was 237 pounds at 5'9". He was 5'11" tall and barely 130 pounds soaking wet! Shortly after we got together, I started dieting/exercising and ended up losing 100 pounds. I was actually a little too thin for my height and frame size. After we got married, I got lazy and the pounds crept on for both of us! It's amazing how 3-4 pound gains add up over the years!

    Nowadays, I'm back to where I should be and weigh about 145 pounds and he's around 200 (slight overweight). I'm still crazy about him and he's crazy about me. Weight has never mattered to either of us. :-)
  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
    Yep, well we're not really a couple, but we were about 40 years ago. After being divorced for about 35 years, my ex husband became disabled with COPD and more recently, has cancer that's spread through his body. I moved here, (about 100 miles from where I was before), over 7 years ago to take care of him. The cranky old fart ain't going easy; he'll probably outlive me (not exactly how I imagined spending my "golden years". Anyway, he has to eat high calorie meals to maintain/gain weight because of the cancer being everywhere and draining his body. Too late for chemo or radiation. So, I cook for him, then cook for me. We can seldom eat the same foods. So, anyway, he's skinny and I'm fat.
  • sollyn
    sollyn Posts: 179
    My hubby is naturally thin and comes from a stick shaped family, I come from a stocky shortish family that needs a high exercise ratio just to stay healthy, I think we weigh about the same, but he is about 6" taller than me. He says really unhelpful things like "are you sure you need that?" I don't think he has yet said well done or shown an interest. As long as his tea is on the table and it doesn't stop his football coaching he doesn't really seem to have noticed! But he will soon cos I got checked out by a hottie the other day! first time in a couple of years! :laugh:
  • Mazzyx
    Mazzyx Posts: 131
    Oh yes! My other half can eat and eat and eat and hardly puts any weight on! It really is unfair! However he really is supportive of me and even joins in my exercises to keep me motivated. :smile:
  • icemaiden17_uk
    icemaiden17_uk Posts: 463 Member
    Wow!! I'm not the only one!! Woo hoo!! At my goal weight I will be heavier than my other half as well! He is underweight and trying to gain while I am losing!! It's well annoying! The more crap he eats the thinner he gets as well!! Git!! Thank goodness I am not the only one in a realationship like this!! He loves me and I love him but I sometimes think that when people look at us they see a fat cow who eats all her other halves food!! Lol!!
  • TheKidsDidIt
    TheKidsDidIt Posts: 2
    My husband is 5"11" and about 155lbs. He want to gain 20lbs.

    I'm 5'3" and 176 (Goal Weight 135). We make jokes that he can have mine. Sucks, because he, too has really poor eating habits (he tried to make to packages of ramen noodles for lunch, for HIMSELF) with a huge sweet tooth.

    Neither one of us knows how to eat right, but it has different effects on us. Hoping it will even out when we start being healthy together!
  • ThisisMiss
    ThisisMiss Posts: 187 Member
    Yes!!! I am thick of thick&thin. Even at my goal weight, I, too, will weight more than my guy. He is super skinny with a ridiculously high metabolism. His whole family is very athletic too. He loves me just as I am, but is happy that I am trying to lose weight because it is healthier and he knows it will make me feel better about my appearance. I can't wait to get to my goal weight. I hate when people give us looks when they realize we are a couple.
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    I am now the thin of us. We used to both be big, and not that I have lost 112lbs I am the thin one. It was very hard and even after I stopped losing our relationship suffered because he kept thinking I would leave him and stuff. We are still together and going strong and even though we are still working on stuff, I am proud to say life is getting better than it was before I lost the weight and my dreams have started to come true.
    I wish you the best and I do remember how hard it was to lose when he was eating all that I wanted but chose not to have so I could lose.
  • albinogorilla
    albinogorilla Posts: 1,056 Member
    My wife mentioned this the other day actually, when we got married I was 260 @ 5'7" and she was 180 @ 5'2". Now we are both 185, but carry it much differently. She says preferred me when I was fatter...........but she is getting used to it, it does make her a bit self conscious though......
  • xxslvrxwngsxx
    xxslvrxwngsxx Posts: 195 Member
    My husband is a twig. 6'2'' and may be like 150 at the most. I am 5'6'' and was 244 at my heaviest. He was trying to gain weight as I am trying to lose weight :) I told him he can have all of mine <3
  • Kay2405
    Kay2405 Posts: 54
    I don't actually know what Alex weighs, but you know what he looks like. I am insanely jealous. He's just as supportive of me losing weight as Dave is for you, but sometimes my silly little brain says that it's not enough and wants some sort of magic pill to instantly make me lose weight. I can dream, right? x
  • Bunnehface
    Bunnehface Posts: 129 Member
    Bless him, Dave keeps saying he'll eat whatever I put in front of him but he has a fast metabolism - it's bad enough that I won't allow any snack or junk foods WHATSOEVER in the house, I'm not about to feed him salad too! He's a man, he needs meat lol XD
    Does drive me a bit crazy though...like the other night, when he had an oven pizza and I had a Weight Watchers meal, which wasn't very tasty. But I was hungry so scoffed it all down and then sat there shooting him dirty looks while he took FOREVER to finish his damn pizza! Lol x

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