new here but starting to wonder.....

readyforchange
readyforchange Posts: 34 Member
edited September 20 in Introduce Yourself
I have recently (over this past year) lost 70 or so pounds. Im really proud of myself but also wonder if I will ever truly be happy in my skin. I am within my healthy weight range (145 lbs and 5'9) but I still look in the mirror and see a overweight person. Anyone else still have the "fat person" mentality? And if so when does one finally start feeling good in their own skin?:sad:

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  • Phoenix_Rising
    Phoenix_Rising Posts: 11,417 Member
    That sounds like body dysmorphia. Maybe not severe but still.... You might want to read up on it and see if you think yours is severe enough to warrant counselling. :flowerforyou:

    (I mean that in SUCH a nice way, please don't take it in a mean fashion!!)
  • pniana
    pniana Posts: 254 Member
    There was a whole string of messages on this just last week. Let me see if I can find them.
  • Jovialation
    Jovialation Posts: 7,632 Member
    I have recently (over this past year) lost 70 or so pounds. Im really proud of myself but also wonder if I will ever truly be happy in my skin. I am within my healthy weight range (145 lbs and 5'9) but I still look in the mirror and see a overweight person. Anyone else still have the "fat person" mentality? And if so when does one finally start feeling good in their own skin?:sad:
    I just figure Im a woman when that happens. When I was 110 pounds I wanted to be 105, when I got down to 100 I thought my legs were still too big.
    I figure once youve got body image issues it takes a LOT to get past em
  • maurierose
    maurierose Posts: 574 Member
    WOW, great for you!!!!!

    I don't have much advice - I'm still a overweight person with a realistic overweight-person-mentality. LOL Mine fits :bigsmile: :laugh:

    Just wanted to tell you congratulations, that's a fantastic move you've made and held onto.

    :drinker: :flowerforyou:
  • Saudimom
    Saudimom Posts: 136
    Girley you must look good I am 5'9 and my best look is 165....I don't want to be under 160 I would look sick!!! But I have a large frame It makes me sad that you think you are still big!!!
  • 1Corinthians13
    1Corinthians13 Posts: 5,296 Member
    I have recently (over this past year) lost 70 or so pounds. Im really proud of myself but also wonder if I will ever truly be happy in my skin. I am within my healthy weight range (145 lbs and 5'9) but I still look in the mirror and see a overweight person. Anyone else still have the "fat person" mentality? And if so when does one finally start feeling good in their own skin?:sad:
    I just figure Im a woman when that happens. When I was 110 pounds I wanted to be 105, when I got down to 100 I thought my legs were still too big.
    I figure once youve got body image issues it takes a LOT to get past em

    I get this. I'm the same way. I know I'm healthy, but for some reason, on some days, I step on the scale, and it' snot enough.
  • Jellishearts
    Jellishearts Posts: 13
    I think it's normal to feel that way about yourself. I mean, you are your own worst critic. If you see yourself that way, It might help if you ask others how they see you. That might help to hear it from others to reassure your mind that you do look good and you are not overweight. It's not your body that needs work, it's your though process.

    "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who matter, don't mind, and those that mind, don't matter." -Dr. Seuss

    Just by looking at your pic, I think you look great. If you're still not happy, try some weight training and muscle toning, maybe that'll help.
  • 12carver
    12carver Posts: 4
    Hi, it is very common to still see the old person in the mirror. I don't know how long that lasts though.
    It is mind over matter (or mirror in this case). You know that you are the weight you want to be. Maybe looking at old pictures of yourself before you lost the weight and then looking in the mirror will show you how different you look. Anyways, don't give up. I did because I couldn't see any difference and I had lost over 40 pounds. Guess what? I ended up gaining it all back and then some. Now, I am working on it again but this time I am looking at it from a different perspective. I am going to get healthy and I will know that I am losing weight when I have to start buying smaller sized clothes. I think your health is the most important. I wish you the best.
  • butterfly25
    butterfly25 Posts: 186 Member
    I have recently (over this past year) lost 70 or so pounds. Im really proud of myself but also wonder if I will ever truly be happy in my skin. I am within my healthy weight range (145 lbs and 5'9) but I still look in the mirror and see a overweight person. Anyone else still have the "fat person" mentality? And if so when does one finally start feeling good in their own skin?:sad:


    i feel the same way..i'm at my goal weight but when i look at myself..i still look fat and i hate it..but i just keep my head up and keep on working at it...
  • Jovialation
    Jovialation Posts: 7,632 Member
    I get this. I'm the same way. I know I'm healthy, but for some reason, on some days, I step on the scale, and it' snot enough.
    sometimes when I was skinny I would just wear things that would show off how skinny Id gotten so people would say something while I was out and about then I didnt have to worry about how I feltq
  • readyforchange
    readyforchange Posts: 34 Member
    Thankyou to everyone for your replies!! Its good to know that Im not the only one feeling this way! Dont get me wrong because I do like the way I look in clothing, but when the clothes come off thats when I feel upset!! I guess I just need to accept me for me and learn how to embrace my new body!! It may take time but Im hopeful it will happen!! Thanx again,eh!!
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