so weak and huge where do i start

1) You are not 'taking' anyone's time. If we choose to read your post, it's our decision to spend it that way. There are a lot of people asking for advice here. You are not alone, so please do not feel that you are wasting our time or that your need for info is less important than someone else's.

2) Especially if you've had health issues, I'll tell you to make sure you get your doctor's okay before doing anything.

3) For exercise, I'd say just start with walking and body-weight exercises (wall push-ups, until you can do girly push-ups, until you can do full push-ups). Walking does a lot of good and can help improve your cardiovascular help-get a pedometer and start measuring your steps, find out your average then each week try to raise that average a little at a time.

Sometimes you need to take it slow and easy, but that doesn't mean you can't make progress. Keep it up and you'll get where you want to be.

Just remember, a little more every day. It will get easier and you'll begin to feel better and better.
And don't beat yourself up along the way, it took you years to get here, it will take some time, just a change at a time.

Find some good positive supporters on line and in life and lean all you need to!

You can do this.

Well, the good news is that you've already started! So congratulations for taking your first step and joining the community!

Next step - start tracking your food every day. This site is fantastic and really helps you stay on track. For the first few days, it will feel like work. But it gets easier really quickly. Even within the first couple of days, I found myself trading off foods - if I wanted a glass of wine, I'd figure out the calories and then find a way to cut those out of what I was planning to cook for supper. More veggies, less cheese = a glass of wine! Don't worry so much about planning at first. After the first couple of days, you'll see where your big calorie hits are. When you see it in black and white, it's hard to ignore!

Simultaneously, just promise yourself that every day you will do a little more than the day before. Whether it's doing a video at home (biggest loser has some great low-impact ones), or simply walking (the cheapest and easiest way to get in shape), start every day with a goal. Tomorrow, start with a 10 minute walk. Literally, go out your door, walk for 5 minutes, turn around, and come home. Stop as often as you need to rest, but don't count that time in your total. If that was tough, good. The following day, add a minute in each direction. If it was too easy, then do it 3 or four times during the day (ie. 30 - 40 minutes of activity still counts even if it's in 10 minute blocks). And the next day, just take one walk, but make it longer.

Just promise yourself that every day, you will strive to be healthier than the day before. It will take time to see all of the weight come off, but you'll see improvement quickly in your endurance (ie. your heart strength). Set those goals daily, and set a longer term goal (eg. once you can walk 30 minutes in a row, treat yourself to a manicure). Just make sure you're rewarding yourself with good stuff and not bad food!

And most of all, read the forums here. People are great, and you're sure to find fabulous ideas and friends!

Joanne

Walking! Walking is great, make an upbeat playlist and go for it. It's also a great way to clear your mind after a busy day. Agreed that you should check with your doctor before beginning any exercise program.

Also, keep a consistent food diary and a consistent calorie deficit - that combined with walking will help you lose weight.

Here's a link to get you started (courtesy of another MFP member who's posted some very helpful information on the forums.)

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/538381-in-place-of-a-road-map

Isn't it awful that starting this journey takes such a large leap of faith in your own self, when you are usually at one of the lowest points in your life and your faith in your own self is so shaky?! We have been there, many of us, more than once. (I lost 90lbs, only to let it slowly creep back on over the years, and now here I am again.)

It might seem like a daunting and impossible task, but remember, EVERYONE has to start out by saying, "Let's just see what happens when...". Don't get caught up in the big goal weight or the big goal measurements. Instead, set a goal that this week, you are going to take a 15-30 minute walk everyday. The scale might not move as quickly as you ever want it to (mine never does!), and you can't always control that part. However, you can control what you do to work towards it, you can push to be successful at small weekly goals. And it will feel so great when you are successful!

You don't have to have a lot of money to start this. There is so much information out there at our fingertips now. Of course, this site, YouTube tutorials for low impact exercises, websites, blogs and more.

The most important thing is...you are not alone in this, and you CAN do this!

Getting started is the hardest toughest part of this, so I applaud you for coming here and wanting to do better in your life

As for exercise, just get moving. Start walking more, even if you get winded easily now. Just keep moving. Try to find ways to incorporate more activity in your daily life. Examples would be walking to the corner store to get something instead of driving.

The real key is to get your eating under control. To me, this was much harder than exercise and activity. It's hard to control that, but just work as hard as you can. Remember to forgive yourself if you screw up as well. You're not perfect, and you will make mistakes along the way. What determines if you succeed or fail is whether you get up and get yourself back on track or not.

Don't ever give up! :flowerforyou:

If you have access to a pool walk in the water really good nonimpact and use your arms to push the water burns great calories and won't be as bad as walking on your knees. We can be friends and we can support one another befriend me. You have made the first leap of faith just believe in yourself.....

Nothing to add....except welcome. You've taken the first steps by being here. You can do this. Remember its a marathon, not a sprint. Take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself along the way. You CAN do this!