Women & Weddings (from a guy's point of view)

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  • Ali_TSO
    Ali_TSO Posts: 1,172 Member
    I remember it was the description of your wife on your profile that made me send you a friend request in the first place. This exemplefies it even more. :happy:
  • TheGoblinRoad
    TheGoblinRoad Posts: 835 Member
    I remember it was the description of your wife on your profile that made me send you a friend request in the first place. This exemplefies it even more. :happy:

    You're sweet! Thanks :bigsmile:
  • AnninStPaul
    AnninStPaul Posts: 1,372 Member

    I must add that it shouldn't be so much about the wedding (though I myself had a lovely one), it is about the marriage, and it sounds like you sir have a wonderful one!

    ^^THIS
  • kjerstenkipp
    kjerstenkipp Posts: 139 Member
    This is for the women on MFP getting married.

    If you're about to get married, please trust me: the guy is thrilled, unless it's a shotgun wedding, literally (with dear old dad standing nearby with his double gauge shotgun, fully loaded)

    I understand that people want to "look their best" for their weddings, including the guys, so I'm not opposed to the concept of trying to lose weight in advance, BUT...

    1. Your guy's going to think you're hot. That's just how it is.
    2. Your guy wants you happy, not stressed about losing the weight.
    3. How much better will your wedding be if you acknowledge yourself for every good habit you made to be healthier without spending half the time feeling lousy if you didn't reach the ultimate goal you set (which might've been unrealistic)

    Writing this because I've noticed how people resort to methods that seem unhealthy. I'm not going to get into specifics about which methods, since people don't agree, and most of us aren't doctors anyway.

    So be kind to yourself. Do what feels right, do what feels healthy, pursue health without putting yourself at risk, and appreciate yourself as much as you can on your wedding day!

    ----From a happily married guy who weighed more on his wedding day than he does now, whose wife wasn't slim at the wedding but nevertheless was the most beautiful he had ever seen her. (and 11 years later, thinks she's even more lovely on a regular day)
    Word!
  • bekinator
    bekinator Posts: 103
    thanks so much for your post; it's really encouraging! getting ready for my august wedding, i've heard how some chicks are doing drastic things- on the news last night they had a blurb about bridal hunger games. wow. and the chicks on tv were half my size already. some days i want to shed my bulges like there's no tomorrow, honestly, but it is encouraging to know that he's marrying me for me already, and to snap out of it.
  • msudaisy28
    msudaisy28 Posts: 267 Member
    Well said! I dieted before my wedding and never did meet my goal weight. But after my dress alterations I didn't want to lose anything more (that dress needed to fit me like a glove!), so I focused on maintaining and on our honeymoon there were no rules to follow!
  • Bosbes
    Bosbes Posts: 55 Member
    You should put this in a blog! So more people will read it.
  • TheGoblinRoad
    TheGoblinRoad Posts: 835 Member
    You should put this in a blog! So more people will read it.

    Done, though I don't know if MORE would read it. In any case, here's the link:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/TheGoblinRoad/view/women-and-weddings-from-a-guy-s-point-of-view-244070
  • Jaimehathcock
    Jaimehathcock Posts: 9 Member
    God bless you!!!! I am getting married this summer. With my highest weight in my life I am trying to loose while he is away for army training so he can come back to a slimer, more beautiful me. I know he love me and thinks I am beautiful, however I always thought I could be better....
  • Patty_Petz
    Patty_Petz Posts: 91
    I love, LOVE, luuuuuurve your blog....read it all the time! This post reinforces why! Great post :flowerforyou:
  • Kirabelly
    Kirabelly Posts: 60
    I wish there were more guys out there like you, OP.
  • Danielle_2013
    Danielle_2013 Posts: 806 Member
    Nice original post! I kind of love that you assume most brides-to-be haven't completely lost their minds and are getting married with their man in mind and not their big fantastic princess day that they've been planning since they were 12. :laugh:

    Or maybe it is just me surrounded by bridezillas? Anyway.. I am a bridesmaid trying to lose weight before two weddings.. though of course that is not my only or main reason.

    Anyway - for the ladies - some very sarcastic, very funny reading on this very topic - http://jezebel.com/5901880/lets-get-skinny-for-our-weddings-with-nose-tubes-and-desperation?tag=i-thee-dread

    Probably don't read if you don't appreciate wicked sarcasm.
  • Krissy366
    Krissy366 Posts: 458 Member
    So true. I was heavy on my wedding day (still am, but working on it) and it didn't keep us from being happy, celebrating with family/friends and having a wonderful time.

    I read an article recently about women getting feeding tubes before their weddings in order to lose weight. I think that's sad, and just a little pathetic.

    Same here and it's more than a little pathetic. As someone recovered from anorexia, who spent at least a solid year refusing to eat enough food to stay alive and with a tube down her nose to replace those missing calories, it's insulting, disgusting, worrying, and absolutely unacceptable on every level. This makes a mockery of the extremes that some people have to rely on to LIVE. Whether an eating disorder or cancer that makes it hard to get the nutrition you need, an NG tube is the LAST resort for any doctor. Anyone who would prescribe this should have their licenses pulled immediately. Seriously. And can you imagine her little girl, whose mom doesn't pick her up at school because she has a tube stuck down her nose for vanity reasons? She doesn't deserve to be a mother.

    In the article I read the doctor was charging $1500 for 10 days on this "diet". It disgusted me. When I got married, my weight wasn't even a thought in my mind. My husband loves me, wants me to be healthy, but if I never shed a pound he'd still love me.
  • TNAJackson
    TNAJackson Posts: 686 Member
    Amazing! Thanks for writing this! Although I got married 5 years ago, this is great!
  • TheGoblinRoad
    TheGoblinRoad Posts: 835 Member
    Nice original post! I kind of love that you assume most brides-to-be haven't completely lost their minds and are getting married with their man in mind and not their big fantastic princess day that they've been planning since they were 12. :laugh:

    One can hope there's a way to get through-- not to pop the bubble of a daydream, but perhaps project a little reality with laser beams into the bubble. :) Good good intentions, of course!

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