Attention from younger members of the opposit sex. Halp?

Allie_71
Allie_71 Posts: 1,063 Member
edited December 2024 in Chit-Chat
I've never posted a topic in the forums before and I checked to see if this was a big time repeat. Was assured that it wasn't.


So.


Okay. I'm 40, and ever since I lost weight, I often get hit on by ridiculously young guys. Like, "I want to take you to the store and buy you an ice cream and pat your head" young. I feel creepy. When this happens I blurt out my age really quickly, and feel like a goof. Is it because I dress like a 17 year old girl? Because I'm maybe more confident? I dunno. I guess I'm flattered, but I can't say as I really am comfortable with it. Does this happen to anyone? How the heck do I deal with this without embarassing myself? Just politely say thanks and that I'm not interested? Or continue to stammer awkwardly and blurt out my age like I have a specialized form of tourettes?

What do you ladies/guys do?
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  • Bethie_B
    Bethie_B Posts: 292 Member
    Or continue to stammer awkwardly and blurt out my age like I have a specialized form of tourettes?

    What do you ladies/guys do?

    I don't have the problem you're having, so I can't offer any helpful advice, so instead, I'm going to sit back and just giggle at this sentence.
  • _Elemenopee_
    _Elemenopee_ Posts: 2,665 Member
    LMAO, I usually just say something along the lines of "How sweet! Thank you, but I'm married, with a child and old enough to beat your mother"..yes, beat, not be ;-)
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    The leetle cheeldren, they luff me too. I am not to make the sexy sexy weeth them, so I am telling them, "Eet ees flaterink to me that you are wanting to become Swanny injection port. But thees cannot happen. You are the leetle one. You are not made yet for my beeg one. You will come back to me on 18th birthday, yes? Then I teach you the sexy sexy many times boom boom."

    Then they just think I am nuts.

    I'd say, honestly, smile and ask them, "Do you have 'Never Mind the Bollocks' on vinyl?" If they say, "Uh, yeah, who doesn't? But it's not as good as 'Give 'Em Enough Rope'. What kinda turntable do you have?" then you must do them and damn the consequences. Otherwise, smile again and walk away.
  • _Elemenopee_
    _Elemenopee_ Posts: 2,665 Member
    The leetle cheeldren, they luff me too. I am not to make the sexy sexy weeth them, so I am telling them, "Eet ees flaterink to me that you are wanting to become Swanny injection port. But thees cannot happen. You are the leetle one. You are not made yet for my beeg one. You will come back to me on 18th birthday, yes? Then I teach you the sexy sexy many times boom boom."

    Then they just think I am nuts.

    I'd say, honestly, smile and ask them, "Do you have 'Never Mind the Bollocks' on vinyl?" If they say, "Uh, yeah, who doesn't? But it's not as good as 'Give 'Em Enough Rope'. What kinda turntable do you have?" then you must do them and damn the consequences. Otherwise, smile again and walk away.

    I think I just peed myself..a little
  • adrian_indy
    adrian_indy Posts: 1,444 Member
    If you are not married or in a relationship, and they are of legal age, go lick the cream of their cone. Could be fun.
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    1) You're hot
    2) You don't look 40
    3) You're hot
    4) Men (and man-boys) are observant enough to figure out #1, 2, and 3

    I don't normally get hit on by anyone (except in the biker bar last weekend), so I don't know how to tell you to handle it, except maybe to go ahead and offer them a piece of candy if they get in the back of your van?
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Maybe it's because you look 15 years younger than you are? Just treat them the same way you would treat any guy you aren't interested in. Take it as a compliment and move along. You don't have to tell them your age or why you aren't accepting their advances.
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
    After a careful review (and some alone time with) your pictures, it appears that your legs are the culprit.
  • KnottyJen
    KnottyJen Posts: 1,070 Member
    Maybe it's because you look 15 years younger than you are? Just treat them the same way you would treat any guy you aren't interested in. Take it as a compliment and move along. You don't have to tell them your age or why you aren't accepting their advances.

    THIS!
  • BondBomb
    BondBomb Posts: 1,781 Member
    I marry them.

    When I was 34 I married a 23 year old. Didnt work out but now that I am 38 I am looking to replace him with a nice 26 year old.
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    When i was 19 I dated a 38 year old lady.:glasses:

    To me it was a massive ego boost....her friends we’re a bit off at the beginning but soon came round to the idea....actually too much in one case.....:blushing:

    ..you forget what your dealing with: BOYS...we're stupid around women!

    You are a beautiful woman and any guy is going to think he's got a chance....as unlikely as it may be...so a younger guy is really going to try.

    Accept the compliment.....the rest is up to you:bigsmile:
  • GasMasterFlash
    GasMasterFlash Posts: 2,206 Member
    Is it because I dress like a 17 year old girl? Because I'm maybe more confident? I dunno.
    You're smokin' hot. Mystery solved. My easiest case yet.
  • 76tech
    76tech Posts: 1,455 Member
    1) You're hot
    2) You don't look 40
    3) You're hot
    4) Men (and man-boys) are observant enough to figure out #1, 2, and 3

    I don't normally get hit on by anyone (except in the biker bar last weekend), so I don't know how to tell you to handle it, except maybe to go ahead and offer them a piece of candy if they get in the back of your van?

    pretty sure this sums it up.

    it's ok to just say thank you, and leave it at that. no need to say why, or reveal your age, or any of that. but it is imperative that you smile, because it's kind of neat being hit on by someone younger.

    in fact, don't tell them your age. just say thank you. smile. let them wonder. if they pursue it, then simply say "sorry too old for you. but i'm flattered"

    :flowerforyou:
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    Seriously...relish in it and tell them...You're so cute. I'd love to put in a diaper.
  • _Elemenopee_
    _Elemenopee_ Posts: 2,665 Member
    When i was 19 I dated a 38 year old lady.:glasses:

    To me it was a massive ego boost....her friends we’re a bit off at the beginning but soon came round to the idea....actually too much in one case.....:blushing:

    ..you forget what your dealing with: BOYS...we're stupid around women!

    You are a beautiful woman and any guy is going to think he's got a chance....as unlikely as it may be...so a younger guy is really going to try.

    Accept the compliment.....the rest is up to you:bigsmile:

    :drinker:
  • Bronx_Montgomery
    Bronx_Montgomery Posts: 2,284 Member
    Wait your 40?! wow you look great for 40. Take it as a compliment to your amazing transformation. Plus have fun. Just as long as they are not under 18 of course LOL

    BTW they probably see MILF
  • WarriorMom2012
    WarriorMom2012 Posts: 621 Member
    It'll all catch up to you one day so enjoy it while you can.

    I don't look my age and the last couple of men in my life have been 5 - 8 yrs younger than me but as I slide through my 40's, at some point, I will stop getting carded and people will know I'm my daughter's mother, not her sister.

    Bask in the glow of young lovin. Men hit their sexual peak in their late teens and early twenties. Women hit theirs in their 30's...nuff said!
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
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  • IndyInk
    IndyInk Posts: 212
    Actions speak louder than words... and I'm deeply private about my love life, so I just smile and say nothing. If I know them, I will occasionally engage them in polite conversation in a public setting, but if they are strangers, I suddenly decide to shop in the makeup section instead of the produce section.

    If they try to pursue a serious relationship with me, I smile and tell them my age with a "gosh darnit, I hate missing out on you, but no" tone.

    (I love being 35.)
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    I am 32 and yes I do get hit on by youngsters just out of high school or just starting college. I just chat with them and make them feel good about themselves (awe that is so sweet, and I am flattered) and tell them in a nice way I am married but thank you. I don't want to be the one to make them feel self conscious about talking to a woman, and I am married.

    It happened a couple of times in front of my trainer at the gym, so not he calls me the cougar as a joke lol
  • boggsmeister
    boggsmeister Posts: 292 Member
    I'm not on the dating scene, but I am your age. Just by looking at your pictures I wouldn't likely ask you out (if I was dating) because I would think you were too young for me. I was a little surprised when I looked at your profile and saw that you were 40.
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
    I felt like a badass a couple of days ago when a hot girl who couldn't have been older than 23 flirted with me. Given that I'm 31, this makes an old man feel good.
  • sdrawkcabynot
    sdrawkcabynot Posts: 462 Member
    I marry them.

    When I was 34 I married a 23 year old. Didnt work out but now that I am 38 I am looking to replace him with a nice 26 year old.

    You my dear are a Puma. haha.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
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  • 1WorkoutAtATime
    1WorkoutAtATime Posts: 719
    guess you've never seen the movie "How Stella Got Her Grove Back"..lol
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    Bask in the glow of young lovin. Men hit their sexual peak in their late teens and early twenties. Women hit theirs in their 30's...nuff said!

    <cough> not allways <cough>

    :glasses:



    :laugh:
  • SwannySez
    SwannySez Posts: 5,860 Member
    Given that I'm 31, this makes an old man feel good.

    An old man at 31? Hell, at 31 I was still David Wooderson.

    I guess now at 42 I'm freakin' Methuselah.

    For the record, when I was the age I was in that photo right there in my profile, I was doing a lot of community theatre...and a lot of ladies who were right around your age, Allie. I had an awful lotta fun and I gained some friends who I am closer with to this day than I am with a lot of my own family. 'Course, I've always been told I was an old soul...until I'm now in my 40's and people keep telling me that I need to grow up! Age is just a number.
  • Cruz2Fit
    Cruz2Fit Posts: 159 Member
    Days ago I was followed around Target by a group of high school boys. They even approached me! At first I was offended thinking they could not be seriously pursuing me. Then, when it became obvious they didn't realize I'm old enough to be their mother, I simply ignored them and with a straight face made my way back to my car where hubby and kids were waiting. We all had a good laugh... Just enjoy it, but take it for what it is... Sooner or later age will catch up with us!
  • UponThisRock
    UponThisRock Posts: 4,519 Member
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    LOL!!!!!
  • Nopedotjpeg
    Nopedotjpeg Posts: 1,805 Member
    **** you don't look 40 at all. And is the ice cream offer still open (no innuendos. I want some ice cream!)?
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