Starting over.

djkymba
djkymba Posts: 174
edited December 18 in Introduce Yourself
Well, MFP, I started this account last year, really picked up some steam and started getting fit...then what happened? I dunno, but I fell off the wagon HARD. I gained even more weight and now instead of the 30 I originally came here to lose, it's 50.

I keep trying to find that place within myself that is just so fed up (no pun intended) with being fat and out of shape that I can't do anything but change. I think I found it. I promise myself that this is not a diet. I'm not trying to lose weight, I never want to find it again. I'm letting go of my unhealthy habits and lifestyle and embracing myself and valuing my well-being, as I do for others.

I could use some supportive friends. Wish me luck. My time has come.

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  • Slendermike
    Slendermike Posts: 1,776 Member
    I have had luck with the site, it is wonderful! - Feel free to add me - I can help support you
  • jenngarza
    jenngarza Posts: 54 Member
    Hi there same thing happen to me and it sucks!!!!! Good luck and feel free to add me :)
  • ShawnaRaeDunn
    ShawnaRaeDunn Posts: 59 Member
    Right there with ya chica! I will send you a fr!
  • gwenmf
    gwenmf Posts: 888 Member
    Well, MFP, I started this account last year, really picked up some steam and started getting fit...then what happened? I dunno, but I fell off the wagon HARD. I gained even more weight and now instead of the 30 I originally came here to lose, it's 50.

    I keep trying to find that place within myself that is just so fed up (no pun intended) with being fat and out of shape that I can't do anything but change. I think I found it. I promise myself that this is not a diet. I'm not trying to lose weight, I never want to find it again. I'm letting go of my unhealthy habits and lifestyle and embracing myself and valuing my well-being, as I do for others.

    I could use some supportive friends. Wish me luck. My time has come.

    I hate to say this...........but I'm so glad you posted this. It really helps to know I'm not the only one....Misery loves company....and like you, I don't know how I fell off so hard -- but the important thing is we are BACK~!! And we're here TOGETHER. And we will DO THIS - AGAIN - and learn from our previous falling~! Good luck. Pls add me as a friend. I could use you!
  • pjamac
    pjamac Posts: 1
    I'm starting over also!! Need encouragement and less snacking; more activity.
  • lstnlondry
    lstnlondry Posts: 1,794 Member
    Anyone can add me, I start over often!
  • I was right where you were at just three short weeks ago. Every day is the beginning of the rest of your life. You can do this!!! Congratulations on choosing you! Feel free to add me if you like! :)
  • mandapanda001
    mandapanda001 Posts: 370 Member
    I am sending you a friend request! As long as you never give up, you don't fail and yes you had a setback but that doesn't mean that all is lost. You are saying to yourself that you need that motivation and support from others because believe me I do too and without my MFP friends I could not have made it as far as I have! Good luck!
  • nshannon14
    nshannon14 Posts: 36 Member
    Welcome back! Feel free to add me for support as well. That goes for anyone.
  • BalenciaLynn
    BalenciaLynn Posts: 411 Member
    Im starting over as well...

    When i first started with MFP i was doing great the first month and then i fell off the wagon and started making excuses for why i couldnt go exercise.

    When i first started i wasnt eating too healthy but i was exercising3 times a week.

    When i fell off the wagon i was eating extreamly healthy but i wasnt exercising at all.

    Now im using this weekend to get everything ready ( clean my house, prepare my home so i can work out in it, add more drop in sessionst o my gym card, fill my fridge with healthy food, etc)
    Because i find if i dont get that done then i wont workout until it is done, doesnt make a lot of sense but its an excuse ive found myself using these past two months.

    I decided that instead of trying to see the end goal im going to just focus on the day that im in this way i dont get stressed out.

    AND i also decided im not going to go out and tell people that im trying to lose weight as i find when i do end up failing i wont feel as if i have a ton of people thinking that they knew this was going to happen.
  • BalenciaLynn
    BalenciaLynn Posts: 411 Member
    Anyone can add me, I start over often!

    If thats the case then lets work together so were not starting over ever again :)
  • TangledUp_InBlue
    TangledUp_InBlue Posts: 397 Member
    Right with you. I’ve got to get it right this time. Getting too old to carry this much weight! Feel free to add me as well.
  • xcharysma
    xcharysma Posts: 35 Member
    I know how you feel. I also started last year and fell off the wagon but I've been back for a few months and kept at it. I read health/fitness magazines, online exercise articles and listen to fitness podcasts to keep me motivated. I lost the 10lbs that I gained after quitting. Now I'm back to my starting point and always tell myself that this is the best thing I can do for myself. I'll love myself more and more each day for the right choices I make. Keep at your goal! The benefits outweighs any thing else! :flowerforyou:
  • clj1977
    clj1977 Posts: 1 Member
    I agree, it is a lifestyle change not a diet. Diets don't work. You have to find something that you can stick with for the rest of your life! Good luck!
  • Jrzgirl71
    Jrzgirl71 Posts: 1 Member
    I am right there with you and need all the help I can get. I have been looking at different weight loss programs online all morning trying to figure out how to get this weight off once and for all. I have a loooooooooong way to go and at this point, don't even know how or where to begin. I'll take all the help, support, and encouragement I can get!
  • Hi Djkymba,
    Good job on getting back on the wagon.
    I think you have the right attitude; it’s not necessarily about "losing weight." It’s about changing lifestyles from unhealthy to a vibrant, healthy, and energetic lifestyle. The weight loss will be the result, the proof of your health new lifestyle. That's the way I am looking at it.

    Goal -- Health lifestyle
    Result -- Weight loss.

    Good luck and feel free to add me as a friend for support and motivation.

    Daryl
  • dschavers
    dschavers Posts: 55 Member
    You have taken the best step you can take!! Changing your life from that DIET world to the HEALTHY world will get you places. A diet will not last long but a healthy lifestyle will carry you a long way. You can do this!!!!Just make little changes along the way and they become habits. You will get results.....sometimes fast and sometimes slow.....but if you keep trying you can do it. Feel free to add me as a friend if you like. Good luck on your journey.
  • Laura80111
    Laura80111 Posts: 958 Member
    :flowerforyou: I totally know how you are feeling.

    In 2010 I started on MFP reached my goal by Sept, kept it off until April 2011, then it crept back a small amount at a time:sad: I could say that I have no idea how that happened but I know better than that. By the time Jan 2012 arrived I realized I had gained back 30 of what I'd lost...but I reached into my closet pulled out some of my cutest clothes and said they will be mine to wear again by Summer.

    I'm approaching it different this time too, I'm really going for cooking better meals and getting the HEALTH part of MFP into my life this time as well as more exercise...because I want to be a healthy wife, mother and grandma:wink:

    You can do this:drinker: take it one day at a time and together we can make this change once and for all:smile:
  • I'm eligible for adding, too!

    You can do this! Sometimes it takes an absolute low point to realize that you are worth so much more...and guess what?

    YOU ARE! :flowerforyou:
  • Looks like there are a lot of us in the same boat! My promise to myself is to not enter my thirties as out of shape as I am. I have just under six months to get things going in the right direction. It is time for a fresh start. As a veteran of the US Navy I know I can do it. Hey, if I can survive Boot Camp I can do anything, right? I'll take all the help I can get, so if anyone has it in their heart to add me please do. This is my first day on my new path.
    Good Luck to All!
  • tlynnclemmons
    tlynnclemmons Posts: 79 Member
    wow - i thought it was just me - i joined well over a year ago - had a little luck & then things at home got hectic - was taking care of my dad who developed cancer & once he moved into our home, there was no time for me to take care of me anymore. He passed last May & I promised him that I was going to get healthy and fit. As of now I still hadn't even started. i've been back to the site the last several days just to log my food and see how bad I was actually doing - not only did I gain back the weight I initially lost before he got sick but gained about an extra 20. Then last october my husband lost his job so we were down to 1 income -EXTREMELY stressful. As if that wasn't bad enough, in December (4 days before Christmas) I was forced to go the ER by my family physician because i went to the doctor thinking I had pneumonia and they would give me some meds and I would be all better. Little did I know -After x-rays and CT scans it was determined that I had 4 blood clots in my lungs & my heart had become enlarged and surrounded by fluid. I was told another 2 days and I would've probably dropped dead. (Just to note, the blood clots were determined to have been caused by my birth control (Nuvaring) and have since almost resolved at this point) Doctors orders were NO EXERCISE other than normal pace walking for 3 months because the blood clots were so large, they were afraid that one would break off and go to my brain. I wasn't able to work for almost a month after being released from the hospital. I've now received the OK to start exercising. The week I spent in the hospital, I lost 13 lbs - HOW? because they had me on low sodium diet & fluids to flush out my system plus they were feeding me all healthy foods. Well right now, the only person I have on my friends list is my sister, and while she is great support - it's obviously not enough. Today I am starting over too. To anyone and everyone who reads this and especially you, the initial poster of this thread, please add me because I too need all the help I can get. We will get there. I have 150 lbs to lose but right now i'm only going to focus on the first 10 - then once i hit that I'll focus on the next 10, etc. I think I look at 150 lbs as sooooooo overwhelming that I give up. My heart is there with you as you start over and know that I am joining you every time.
  • DIANEB2
    DIANEB2 Posts: 5 Member
    Welcome back I to know what it is to fall off the wagon but I think I got on the right wagon with friends to keep me from falling off .
    If you like add me as a friend.
  • auntamama
    auntamama Posts: 43 Member
    I am in the same boat, except 75 pounds to loose. I was doing really good last year and just quit too. I have been at it for 5 days now, and feel like this is the time that I am changing my life. I also just turned 35 and the milestone made me want to loose even more. I told my husband last night that instead of just focusing on loosing numbers on the scale like I normally obsess over when trying to loose, my first small goal is just to get into one size smaller. Anyway, you can add me if you want to. We can do this.
  • lainglesita
    lainglesita Posts: 90 Member
    Me too.... I was on this site for a year and I fell off the wagon over xmas. But like you, here i am again. Please add me as a friend or anyone else in the same predicament as I am struggling at the moment to stay on track.
  • djkymba
    djkymba Posts: 174
    I just want to say thank you to everybody who offered kind and encouraging words to me. I kind of felt embarrassed to be starting over and even heavier than I was before, but we all have to start somewhere, right? This is really a great community! I was shocked at how many people responded who were at their own personal goal or close to it, an still found the time to reach out to someone just getting on the path. I'm truly grateful.
  • CosmicBella
    CosmicBella Posts: 195 Member
    You've got this girlfriend!!!... :flowerforyou:
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