I need some help!!! making me soo mad..

Unfortunately, you can't help someone that won't help themselves. You've given her plenty of opprotunities to join you, but if she doesn't want to do it then she won't. I would say, at this point, just focus on youself. Hopefully she will see your progress and something in her head will click. If not, at least you didn't suffer because of her laziness.
I was the same way as your sister actually. My husband was getting out and active and he kept inviting me along but I was lazy and would always say no. After seeing significant results from my husband it finally clicked in my head that I needed to get off my butt and exercise! Thats when I joined MFP :bigsmile: As the old saying goes "you can bring a horse to water but you can't make them drink"

ranting is good.. this is a place for you to rant! let out the frustration and then.......... go back to your focus. you.. are your focus. im sorry, but your sister is not your responsibility. she makes her own decisions. and YOU make your own decisions.. im new on here but i have been around the block a few times with this weight loss thing.. im going to be 55 this august and thru the last few years ive gained back about 60 of the 90 pounds that i lost. i have come to the conclusion and the truth that only I can change my life. its always been said, but now i understand it. i have a daughter who is 35. shes is very pretty and very smart. we try to make life changes together but it doesnt always work. i know we are each responsible for our own decisions. we are starting weight watchers again... in a week or so. we are going together to the meetings and im sure we will support each other with food and exercise choices, but at the end of the day, we do it for ourselves.. you too are young and pretty and i can see that you have passion. my suggestion to you is to follow that passion... go for it! do it for yourself! if your sister is to get motivated, she will see your changes and maybe want to join in. please... do it for yourself. you are number one. you deserve to feel better, be healthier and look better all for yourself! take care.

Rant away… if/when it helps. Did it help? I hope so.

You didn't ask for advice… so I'm about to do exactly what I'm suggesting you don't do. :happy:

Now, step back… Much as you love and worry about your sister, it's her weight and her decision. Not yours. I know you know that. Pestering her when she's not ready and she has not made that decision, may just push her away from doing it. It's that kind of "I won't and you can't make me!" resistance that some of us have. The more people push us, the more we push back. So step away, give her the space to decide to do it for herself.

In the meantime, do what you can for yourself. Learn to deal with the stress of worrying about her and whatever other family pressures and habits you may both have. Set a good example, but do it for yourself, not to show her up. Take a meditation, yoga, anger management or stress reduction class to help you deal with your feelings. Vent here as often as necessary.

When she's ready, she'll do what she needs to do, and she may even ask for your help again. Most of us have to make a few of our own mistakes. Babies fall a lot before they can walk on their own; it's not constructive and may even slow their learning if we yell at them each time they fall.

If you absolutely feel you need to say something, try saying how it hurts you, not what you want from/for her. Something like, "I was hoping to have your support and help as I did this." or "I worry about how this will affect your health because I was hoping to have you with me into our long, healthy old age." not "You need to get into better shape for your health."

Be kind to yourself and her. Please forgive my unrequested advice, and feel free to ignore it. Best wishes to both of you!

It is so good that you got that off your chest here so you don't blow up at her. I have started and quit so many times when I wasn't ready- this must have been one of those times for her. That said- it is not fair for her to want your help and emotional investment in her fitness if she isn't going to do the work. It may help if you just tell her that you are not going to check in with her about it until she's ready. If she decides to butt-in about your hard work, I'd be sure to tell her to zip-it until she decides to join you at the gym.

Ive been working out for over a year a a couple of months where I went off track. Started up again when I became a stay at home mom. Plan was to workout with my sister once a week she lives about an hour away. Last minute she would cancel. Then my mom wanted to take Zumba with me at 10 am I figured great since we only have one car. Well slowly but surely I started getting those I cant make it calls so I just talked to my significant other if he can make it before 8 pm every night so if my mom bails I still go to 830 pmZumba. Also started if she doesn't call me about going I just go for a 2.5 mile walk push my girls in their stroller so I don't just sit around waiting.

Sorry for rambling but point is you be proud of what your doing and keep doing. You can't make anyone do anything unless they want to.

Let your sister know that the invitation to join you is always open. Then just back off and let her decide when she's ready. Don't keep banging your head against the wall over this. The added stress isn't good for you. Good luck !