Negative-*****y-Unhappy-Complaining People
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Pot, meet kettle.
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You don't control other people's actions or behaviour, you can only control your reaction to it. People don't annoy you, you are annoyed by people. Think about it.0
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No, the people who complain about the complaining complainers complaining about the aforementioned complaining complainers are the worst....and now look who showed up
I'm tired of people complaining about people complaining who are complaining about the complainers....two more degrees and I'll reach Kevin Bacon \m/I'm tired of people complaining about people complaining...THAT is the worst.
The people who complain about the complainers complaining about complainers complaining are the worst.
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You can surround yourself with positive, carefree people. But in reality that's not easy to do. Too much negativity and complaining is not good....but realize that most people DO need a sounding board...even if it's just to vent. Otherwise pent up emotions can become pent up aggression and tha'ts not good for anyone. On the plus side (maybe) is the fact that people open up to you, or that you are a good listner.0
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My daily Carlton post has to go somewhere, so here ya go.....he makes everyone happier....
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Then you better either learn to live with it, or find a new fiancee, because guess what.... It's not going to get any better. That's a part of his personality and you need to either love it or leave it.0
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learn that you can't fix others problems and sometimes all they need to do is listen and move on... there are people who are not happy unless miserable - they find issues in everything... I have a sister that is like that, a best friend who is the same... I listen get a bit upset but then move one because it is up to them to do something about it...0
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Well I wouldn't get married until you can sort that out.0
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Okay all the people who are using this thread to call hypocrisy aside...
I had a friend that met that description to a T. Granted she had a bad home life which I witnessed more times than I ever wanted to, but she did have a tendency to be overly self-centered. I must've had a talk with her dozens of times over the years about it, just asking her to please be more considerate and to realize that my life wasn't rainbows and sunshine and maybe I'd need to vent too. Because, to me, friends are the ones you share the good and the bad with and if you can't share the bad, who can you share it with? Long story short 9 years into the friendship she tells me she is apathetic to everyone else's problems and every day cries on my shoulder about the same exact problems even after I do all but give her money and move her into my house. She wasn't going to change, she didn't want to change. She wanted the attention her problems brought her and the pity gifts it got her. In the end I ended the friendship because, while I loved her like a sister, she had become a toxic presence. She hated my boyfriend, she was somehow jealous of my life, and my overweight body was often used to make her look good in public.
People will complain, it's just the nature of the beast especially with the internet being a free-for-all. If their attitudes really bother you, either have a talk with them or sever your ties. As a therapist put it to me once, if their problems and their negativity are on your mind more than your own issues, big or small, then you don't need to be around them.0 -
My daily Carlton post has to go somewhere, so here ya go.....he makes everyone happier....
Yup, I for one feel better after seeing that.0 -
Oh, yes...I have someone in my life like that, too. I can't deal with her most days, but I have to. I'm trying to keep reminding myself that I am happy and she's not worthy of my anger.0
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I fart rainbows and roses :blushing:0
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Ok here is the deal, I have about had it with people in my life that complain, *****, carry on like no one else has problems but them. They expect the people around them to listen and be their sounding boards. It is dragging my down and I am sick of it! Does anyone else have this issue? and if so what do you do about it? Its not just as easy as stop talking to them or cut them out of my life either.
Sorry for the venting.
In the end, this is a fitness site :huh:
Actually, whenever forums are involved, it become more of an online community, and as with any community, you get ALL kinds. We either learn to smile and wave at the neighbors as we plot killing their dogs or we move out. I have a very active imagination, and plenty of yard space.
As for the OP, I make it a point to stop talking to the people whose pervasive negativity wears me down. If what is happening in your life makes me want to shoot myself in the eye more than what is happening in my life, then I don't need to be involved in yours. I, unfortunately, had to do that with my godmother, whom I love. Every time I would talk to her, everything was so wrong with the whole world that by the time our convo was done, I wanted to kick kittens. I now just send greetings via her daughter. I'm sorry to hear it's your fiance you're most upset about because that is a life decision that will affect how you are emotionally FOREVER! Good luck!0 -
Bit of an odd attitude. If you aren't willing to listen to people rant about their issues when they need your support (or a good old moan!), why should people be there for you when you need to let off steam?0
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My daily Carlton post has to go somewhere, so here ya go.....he makes everyone happier....
I so needed this today...TY :flowerforyou:0 -
I fart rainbows and roses :blushing:
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Hello,
I had a friend that did that to me and I just quit taking calls etc from her for awhile. She only called me when she wanted something and when I went all she did was complain. We are back to speaking now and she is doing for herself now. I know it is hard. If it is someone whom you can't just quit talking to you might try telling them how you feel and that they are not the only ones with problems. I am here for you and please feel free to check out my profile and add me if you would like. This is not an easy journey and we are all on it together. You will get nothing but positive friends, feedback, support, comments and encouragement.
Hugs to you,
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Kind of ironic post.0
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My daily Carlton post has to go somewhere, so here ya go.....he makes everyone happier....
I am now going to spend the next hour of work perfecting these sweet sweet moves so I can bust them out next weekend.0 -
You should read "The Secret" by Rhonda Burne...explains it all in a nutshell. We get back what we put out. (Law of Attraction) The whole universe is founded on this secret. Once you embrace it and focus on the positive, then positive things will come your way!
Cheers!0 -
Pot, meet kettle.0
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I posted a quote this morning that fits for this thread....
"You must constantly ask yourself these questions: Who am I around? What are they doing to me? What have they got me reading? What have they got me saying? Where do they have me going? What do they have me thinking? And most important, what do they have me becoming? Then ask yourself the big question: Is that okay? Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change." - Jim Rohn
I love this and I NEED to do this too. Thanks for posting!!!0 -
My daily Carlton post has to go somewhere, so here ya go.....he makes everyone happier....
I am now going to spend the next hour of work perfecting these sweet sweet moves so I can bust them out next weekend.
Just remember...video, or it didn't happen.0 -
My daily Carlton post has to go somewhere, so here ya go.....he makes everyone happier....
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I fart rainbows and roses :blushing:
You didn't have to point out I have chewy phlegm today. Damn.0 -
Bit of an odd attitude. If you aren't willing to listen to people rant about their issues when they need your support (or a good old moan!), why should people be there for you when you need to let off steam?
I think it depends on how excessive their "I need a shoulder" moments are. Myself for example I'm always willing to let people vent since I will listen but if the person is coming to me constantly and if they ask for advice and don't take it just to come back with the same problem, exactly what is getting accomplished? It's essentially a waste of everyone's time. Another thing would be is if they're not respecting you have things to do or you have your own problems at that moment. It's not going to do anyone anything if you're in a bad mood listening to their problems, right?
But I do agree, if right off the bat you can't or won't listen to others it's not fair that they should turn around and listen to you. I've lost plenty of "friends" because I became a free therapist's couch and the only contact we'd have is if they had a problem and either wanted a solution or just wanted to vent and when they were done they left, not even asking me how my day was. Stuff like that's give and take.0
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