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  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    I try really really hard to stay away from that edge! I pride myself on NOT being a typical bat**** crazy woman. I don't over-analyze, I'm not jealous and I believe in total honesty.

    But being in this situation makes me feel like I'm in high school again. Blah..... I guess I'll just have to dig deep and find a bit of ballsy and ask him!

    You already asked me out on the other thread, but im taken so please move on.
  • quink77
    quink77 Posts: 87 Member
    Dammit.



    Fine.
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    Dammit.



    Fine.

    We are both better off. How in the blue hell would we support 6 kids?
  • quink77
    quink77 Posts: 87 Member
    That'd be insane.

    Does a woman with children scare off guys? I realize baggage isn't sexy, but it is reality.
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    That'd be insane.

    Does a woman with children scare off guys? I realize baggage isn't sexy, but it is reality.

    No but I cant imagine a woman with a bunch of kids wanting a dude with a bunch of kids...wait, I can imagine that as women are gullible.
  • MrLeeParker
    MrLeeParker Posts: 49
    That'd be insane.

    Does a woman with children scare off guys? I realize baggage isn't sexy, but it is reality.

    Kids are fine with me as long as they aren't crazy hyper and breaking stuff. As immature as I can be I'm good with getting along with kids :)
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    That'd be insane.

    Does a woman with children scare off guys? I realize baggage isn't sexy, but it is reality.

    No...but that being said, it can cause major issues. One of the main reasons my last girlfriend and I split (I've 3 kids that live with me full time, she has 2), is because we had absolutely polar opposite parental belief systems. She is the 'let them do as they please, they can't develop if they aren't allowed to be individual little flowers!' type, and I'm the 'structured, disciplined, teach them responsibility and how to be good people, but loving' type.

    I will say, having three and finding a compatible partner is a challenge...I know from experience.
  • Stardiva37
    Stardiva37 Posts: 169 Member
    Just take the first step and ask him out on a date. He might be nevous and don't want to ask you because he is sacred you will freiend zone him and he never return. The rule of thumb is this. In the first 5 min. of meeting a guy women already know where we are going to place you, in the :"Friend Zone", The Friends with Benefits", or "Boyfriend Material" so you know where you placed him ask him out before some other girl does the you will be in the "Friend Zone":flowerforyou:
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    Just take the first step and ask him out on a date. He might be nevous and don't want to ask you because he is sacred you will freiend zone him and he never return. The rule of thumb is this. In the first 5 min. of meeting a guy women already know where we are going to place you, in the :"Friend Zone", The Friends with Benefits", or "Boyfriend Material" so you know where you placed him ask him out before some other girl does the you will be in the "Friend Zone":flowerforyou:

    Wise words.
  • wellbert
    wellbert Posts: 3,924 Member
    Get in the friends zone with him : )
    Make HIM be the one to break the ice.
    When he tries to get into the More Than Friends Zone, don't reject him.
    He'll know you're interested then :D

    boo for passive aggressive gender-role-sterotypical blerg.

    Just ask the dude out.
  • budhandy
    budhandy Posts: 305 Member
    Get in the friends zone with him : )
    Make HIM be the one to break the ice.
    When he tries to get into the More Than Friends Zone, don't reject him.
    He'll know you're interested then :D
    this sounds like games, and when games are played someone can end up losing. Like the other guys have said just hi and that will more then enough. Good luck1
  • Woolooloo
    Woolooloo Posts: 82
    A lot of guys like to have some clue that a woman is actually interested before they will put themselves out there and ask her out. It's tough to get rejected and you shy away from it after a while. I'd say if you want to show that interest, things that have worked for me in the past are touching (like reaching out and touching his arm while you guys laugh about something) or a cute wink (like after having a fun conversation with him, laugh and say something like "see you later hon" *wink* and walk off).

    I think these things would inspire enough confidence in him to ask you out, but can be perceived as just friendly so you are leaving the actual pursuit up to him, or if he doesn't happen to be interested in you (which I doubt would be the case).
  • Natx83
    Natx83 Posts: 1,298 Member
    Pretend sprain your ankle whilst doing some pad work with him and fall onto him.. If he catches you try to fall on top of him just like in the movies... If he lets you drop and laughs...move along lol.
  • Changing__Christina
    Changing__Christina Posts: 245 Member
    I know you were looking for a man's perspective on this, but I figured that I would throw my 2 cents in too. I think women need to stop with the coy act and start acting mature. I think if you are interested in this guy, you should just be open about it. If he isn't picking up on your subtle signals that you are into him, then you need to just tell him that you are going to get coffee or a bite to eat and ask him if he'd like to go along. If he says yes, initiate a conversation about exploring being more than friends. I don't know why the guy always has to be the one to persue the girl. I'm sure there are guys who would prefer to be the persued. Maybe he is one of those guys. OR maybe he is just really bad at dating and doesn't know how to start the conversation. Just jump in and see where it goes!!!
  • iwantniceabs
    iwantniceabs Posts: 357 Member
    A lot of guys like to have some clue that a woman is actually interested before they will put themselves out there and ask her out. It's tough to get rejected and you shy away from it after a while. I'd say if you want to show that interest, things that have worked for me in the past are touching (like reaching out and touching his arm while you guys laugh about something) or a cute wink (like after having a fun conversation with him, laugh and say something like "see you later hon" *wink* and walk off).

    I think these things would inspire enough confidence in him to ask you out, but can be perceived as just friendly so you are leaving the actual pursuit up to him, or if he doesn't happen to be interested in you (which I doubt would be the case).

    ooooh, I like the wink ;)
  • iwantniceabs
    iwantniceabs Posts: 357 Member
    Pretend sprain your ankle whilst doing some pad work with him and fall onto him.. If he catches you try to fall on top of him just like in the movies... If he lets you drop and laughs...move along lol.

    hahaha, nice
  • iwantniceabs
    iwantniceabs Posts: 357 Member
    Crazy Update for anyone still reading through this thread - I just got a call from a different guy asking me out. He works with my brother in law and wants to get to know me. Dun dun dun!

    but if this ^ doesn't work out, I will start trying all of your suggestions :)

    Thanks everyone!
  • Cameron_1969
    Cameron_1969 Posts: 2,855 Member
    Easy. . . eye contact and a big smile
    If he talks to you, turn toward him. . maintain eye contact and keep smiling.
  • iwantniceabs
    iwantniceabs Posts: 357 Member
    Easy. . . eye contact and a big smile
    If he talks to you, turn toward him. . maintain eye contact and keep smiling.

    well that's just too simple :) I'll try that :D
  • BodyPumpDaveInFL
    BodyPumpDaveInFL Posts: 30 Member
    Smile.

    Flirt. Touch his arm.

    Wink.

    Lick your lips.

    Tilt your head. Smile.

    Touch his other arm.

    Ask for "help" with simple thing - "could you grab my bag for me?" linger too long when he hands it to you. "Could you help me take off my gloves"

    He should get it.

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