Weight loss sabotage- do you hide your eating?

It sucks that some people do that, but they do. I lost a lot of weight the first time I was in college and my roommate was terrible. First class saboteur. Knowing I was losing weight and eating better, she'd go pick up fried potato wedges or fried chicken strips and bring back "extra" for me. She hadn't done that at all the entire semester until I started losing. I moved out after a while, realizing my health was way more important than what she thought of me. She was the worst-case though.

I think most people might not even necessarily realize they are doing it or making you feel bad. You have to have some great dedication and will-power to lose weight the right way. It's like subconsciously, they wish they had the same. Be ready for it. Stay strong and after a week or so, it will become normal, no one will even notice anymore.

I agree with all the other comments. But if it really does bother you, you could try to switch what you are eating. I eat a large volume of food at work and only have it come out to be 450 calories. Spinach/lettuce, etc have a very low amount of calories, good nutrition, but 1 cup is only 10 calories. Now people make comments to salads & losing weight, or fruits & veggies to losing weight - but all you have to say is I'm trying to get my servings in and they will pip down, cause most people don't get their fruit & veggies.

Anyway hope things get better for you. Also maybe say you are trying to eat healthier - get in calcium, iron, vitamins, and who knows? Maybe they will try to start eating healthier too. Some of my friends & coworkers did. :-)

Everyone's already said what I think! Isn't it sad, though, that you improving your health could be perceived in a negative way? It's when you dig deeper and realise why people (and, in my experience, it's women 99% of the time) are doing it that it becomes really sad.

I've said it in a post before, but if anyone gets rude I answer with a curt "I'm extending my life expectancy". That usually works.

I encounter "negative" people on a daily basis...and even the people that love you will try and throw you off track. I don't know if it's intentional, but it is so frustrating that you have to battle them on top of everything else! I mentioned added more "vegan" into my diet last week, and the man I live with immediately went out and loaded the house with meat and even worse, bags and bags of of tortilla chips and jars of salsa! WTH???? It has been a struggle this week, and I haven't won all the battles. And this is the week before my HM...which makes it even more frustrating.

But, I can't let it get me down....so I am getting back on track today!!!! Just logged my breakfast and workout and have a full day planned of healthy meals! You can do it....you are on the right track....and just remember, if you do get off track occasionally, you can get right back to it!!!

They always tease me because right after eating I immediately come and long my calories. They now have attempted to lock me out of my office or computer to make me stop. I don't understand their actions because I am doing this to make me healthy.

Wow. If my co-workers did something like that, I would ask them how old they are! That's just stupid, disrespectful and down-right childish!

Time for some supportive friends.. you will go further and faster in life with people around you who love you and support you than you ever will with just one toxic person hanging around your neck.....
you know whats right.. do it.

It's mind over matter. I don't mind because they don't matter, at least not where my food/diet is concerned. They never commented when I was stuffing my face with all kinds of crap, now that I'm eating food and practicing portion control they don't need to comment on it either. When they do I simply tell them, "Yes, yes I am measuring my food." If I feel particularly snarky, I ask them if they want to measure theirs as well and offer to look up calorie content (mostly reserved for the truly obnoxious).

If it were me, I wouldn't say anything unless they say something first. For example, if they DO make a comment about you eating smaller portion sizes, just say 'Oh I'm just trying to eat a bit more healthily' and leave it at that. If you say something like 'I'm trying to lose weight', it could open up a lecture from them about how you don't need to, if they are that way inclined, whereas making a general comment about overall health gives them less to go with. They may well not say anything though, so I wouldn't say anything unless they do first.

I don't know what is worse, the people/your friends commenting on your weight loss or when your friends don't comment at all, even after having lost 24 lbs. But even so, occasionally the comments would come up with my friends & when we'd go out I'm the kind of person who would never leave anything on my plate (to get my money's worth haha) and I would just a burger & fries without thinking twice.... So when I started ordering different things, leaving things on my plate, generally just eating healthier they'd ask and make a joke out of it "Are you on a diet or something?" and laugh... and then they'd get serious and ask "what diet are you doing" --- I kept everything very personal & just said "I am just trying to make better / healthier choices where I can and eating slightly smaller portion sizes". I figure they don't REALLY care about me & my weight loss etc. so I don't have to tell them everything I am doing! I didn't tell them about MFP and I never had a scale out for weighing my food etc. in front of them --- they key is for me, not to make it obvious, it's none of their business what I do with my body & put in my mouth.

Just ignore them and keep going, the only person you've got to worry about is yourself! Oh && try and surround yourself with positive people! I had a group of great friends from university also doing MFP and it's been very successful! xx

My family (not my immediate) but my family always makes fun of me, at any gathering, that is the first thing they do is make fun of my size....not caring how that makes me feel on the inside, hurting and crying while grinning and bearing it....but as you get older it gets eaiser to ignore the idoits that have no heart....keep pressing thru rather you eat good some days and have set backs on other days, just take one day at a time, and you will see in no time at all the weight is gone because you decided to make healthier choices and then you will see WHO LAUGH LAST!!! Keep doing your thing baby doll, we here on MFP.com GOT YOUR BACK!!!!!! ~~smilez~~~

i have a number of so called friends that in the past, when i have said i was trying to loose weight would offer me a biscuit or bring round a cake which of course you cant refuse. i am quite shy and dont like to offend!!! now at the age of 62 i still have the same problem and i have like you decided not to tell those friends that sabatage my good work. when they tell me i am looking ill and not to loose any more weight i just agree and wonder if they really are friends at all. i am really enjoying my dieting and looking after myself and excercising a bit more. i am really happy with how i have done even though i have about 20lbs more to loose.
keep it to yourself it will be our little secret. what fun!!!!

Quite frankly, it's NONE of their business. You do what makes you feel good about yourself. If you need to weigh or measure out your food, then do it. If they are your friends, they'll support you.

I agree. If they ask why just " why do you need to know?" or " Why are you eating what you are eating" or " my that is a personal question". Just play it back on them.

Oh, I misread this topic. I just saw the subject line so replied. I am at work so unable to spend time reading everything on here at times.
Well due to the topic, I agree that people should not judge others by what you eat. I like to view food diary on this site but it's only because I like to get new ideas for meals or snacks.
Unless you ask for opinions, I don't think anyone should offer unless they really have good intentions. Nutrition, Dieting, Healthy lifetstyle, whatever you want to call it, will always be a touchy subject. People will always judge whether you are trying to eat the right way or if you're not.

I understand completely. Sometimes you just need to protect your privacy. You can make up some story about intestinal problems or thinking you might have an allergy so you are cutting out certain foods. It is your business, but it is easier to avoid comments if you make up a brief, uninteresting story (lie).