girls and texting....

stayxtrue
stayxtrue Posts: 1,186 Member
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Okay so this is something i just do not understand.... I have a lot of friends that text me who are girls... However if I don't text them straight away or for a few days, they think I am annoyed at them.. some thinking I hate them

I work all day and I do have a life and sometimes I Just cannot be bothered texting thats the truth

Are all girls like this?? and why?? it drives me up the wall sometimes
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  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
    yeah if i don't return texts right away I've had some think i was rude.
  • nursedb
    nursedb Posts: 297 Member
    It takes two seconds to say ...hey, busy day today...thinking of you! Some girls are needy....I am one of those girls and that's all that it would take to make me happy...just my very smart opinion...lol!
  • xonashwaox
    xonashwaox Posts: 108
    Not ALL girls are like that but I guess the rule of thumb now is that just like returning a phone call its appropriate to return a text within the same day?? Maybe some of these ladies have a more vested interest in you so when you do not return the texts they are afraid you no longer have the same interest in them? I think when it comes to non verbal communication and the use of technology a lot of things can become misconstrued. NOW WHY HAVENT YOU TEXTED ME BACK YET!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Just Kidding!!:wink:
  • shammxo
    shammxo Posts: 1,432 Member
    I wonder this about men, too. I'm always forgetting to text people back. It's not me trying to be rude... I'm just busy and lose track of my phone :P
  • royalty_mind_1me
    royalty_mind_1me Posts: 278 Member
    this might be true cause you said it right...GIRLS! real WOMAN don't have time for mess like that, we have a life and don't sit by our cells waiting for a "response"! lol

    another note....at least they just friends...if it was more than that, I say move on:explode: or thats what will happen!

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  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    It takes two seconds to say ...hey, busy day today...thinking of you!

    This or..."I am very busy today" <--- That would be good just to say for 2 seconds....But then again, sometimes I forget to text back..maybe for 30 minutes to 2 hours....but never a few days....That can be rude lol especially if we were in the middle of a conversation.
  • CaseRat
    CaseRat Posts: 377 Member
    Haha, sadly a lot of girls are like this from (my experience, anyway)
    Not much you can do about it.

    There is one good thing about it though; they clearly like you enough that they get thoughts in their head about you being annoyed at them or hating them simply because you didn't reply to a text.
  • momma2Lulu
    momma2Lulu Posts: 74
    my theory is if i send someone a text and don't hear back i assume they are busy but if i had hoped to hang out and knew they didn't have plans i would wonder if they didn't want to hang with me and why...
  • stayxtrue
    stayxtrue Posts: 1,186 Member
    Yea but its more to the point I cant be bothered typing a text.... my fat fingers struggle and it takes me time to write a simple text if I am not paying enough attention...
  • taryn_09
    taryn_09 Posts: 196 Member
    i think it just depends on the girl. i think it could be a security thing to some getting that text back. for me if a guy doesnt respond i assume he is busy like you said working or having a life. i wouldnt think he "hated" me or anything unless i had a valid reason in thinking that. i just wait i mean when you have time you have time. it shouldnt be such a big issue, but i definitely know for some of my friends it is. they always assume the whole he hates me line and such.

    not to change the subject though, why do guys semi do the same thing!? they text you and if you dont respond they send another text sometimes 3 more as if you didnt get the text blowing up your phone!? im busy at times too, so i also cant respond right away!
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
    Haha well some people are devoted to constantly texting, and can't understand that others have no desire to be constantly connected. You could tell them to call instead, or give them some time limits, like "these are my office hours where I don't have time to take personal calls or texts" then try to get back to them within a day. A few days seems like you're trying to get rid of them entirely. It if they really annoy you, maybe they aren't as close to you as originally thought.
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  • sugarandspice27
    sugarandspice27 Posts: 521 Member
    Sorry but guys do the SAME THING! 2 examples in the last month: I didn't respond to a guy for 2 days because my phone was being a piece and when I finally did he told me he thought I was ignoring him. A few days ago someone else texted me and when I didn't respond he FB stalked me and asked me why I didn't want to hang out with him. So yeah, NOT JUST GIRLS!
  • nursedb
    nursedb Posts: 297 Member
    It takes two seconds to say ...hey, busy day today...thinking of you!

    This or..."I am very busy today" <--- That would be good just to say for 2 seconds....But then again, sometimes I forget to text back..maybe for 30 minutes to 2 hours....but never a few days....That can be rude lol especially if we were in the middle of a conversation.
    EXACTLY....!!!!
  • nursedb
    nursedb Posts: 297 Member
    Yea but its more to the point I cant be bothered typing a text.... my fat fingers struggle and it takes me time to write a simple text if I am not paying enough attention...
    Hmm...do ya WANT to keep a girl interested or no? If you're interested you'll struggle with those fingers and send a darn text!! LOL
  • Jersey_Devil
    Jersey_Devil Posts: 4,142 Member
    I wonder this about men, too. I'm always forgetting to text people back. It's not me trying to be rude... I'm just busy and lose track of my phone :P

    exactly this
  • Nu_Mel
    Nu_Mel Posts: 48
    I wonder this about men, too. I'm always forgetting to text people back. It's not me trying to be rude... I'm just busy and lose track of my phone :P

    ^^^ this.

    My friends have learnt not to text me, but call instead. In my house it 's my husband who gets uptight if no-one texts him back, including me, just as bad if you don't answer the phone :laugh:
  • kimberly0416
    kimberly0416 Posts: 123 Member
    Okay so this is something i just do not understand.... I have a lot of friends that text me who are girls... However if I don't text them straight away or for a few days, they think I am annoyed at them.. some thinking I hate them

    I work all day and I do have a life and sometimes I Just cannot be bothered texting thats the truth

    Are all girls like this?? and why?? it drives me up the wall sometimes

    Females can multitask, men not so much and some women don't understand this.
  • mznisaelaine
    mznisaelaine Posts: 2,262 Member
    Sorry but guys do the SAME THING! 2 examples in the last month: I didn't respond to a guy for 2 days because my phone was being a piece and when I finally did he told me he thought I was ignoring him. A few days ago someone else texted me and when I didn't respond he FB stalked me and asked me why I didn't want to hang out with him. So yeah, NOT JUST GIRLS!

    True True...Guys the same too :laugh:
  • ZugTheMegasaurus
    ZugTheMegasaurus Posts: 801 Member
    Jumping to the conclusion that you hate them is pretty outrageous, but I think it's basic courtesy to respond in some way, at least within the day. It's the same as if they called and left you a message, they're expecting that you'll respond. My solution was to just make a quick message in my "Notes" app (this is assuming you have a smartphone of some kind) that says, "Hey, I'm really busy today. I'll give you a call this evening." I just copy and paste it into a reply text and it's taken care of.
  • NocturnalGirl
    NocturnalGirl Posts: 1,762
    I genuinely forget to text people back cause I simply lose track. Honestly, guys are the same. And no not all girls are like that, it depends on your relationship with them. If the girl likes you enough to think about you or wait for your reply in the meantime then they probably just think that maybe something's wrong. They're insecure I guess. It'd be the same for guys, if I don't reply and they like me 'more than just a friend', they'd get a little weird on me. If it's just the usual friendship then that shouldn't be the case. I can relate to you, I just can't be bothered to reply sometimes. Uhh what can we do hahaha.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I get a few hours but days? Are you that busy to not be able to respond in days? Just saying!
  • asia_hanebach
    asia_hanebach Posts: 275 Member
    I have to admit, I am definitely one of these girls. My best guy friend does this to me alll the time, and it drives me insane. I feel like I'm relatively reasonable. I don't expect a text back instantaneously. I'm also not one of those people who sends a million texts out after not getting a response. I know he might be in class, at a movie, out for dinner, etc. However since we live in a society where everyone has their phones on them essentially always, I feel like there's no reason to not text someone back by the next day. Obviously you've seen the message, and made conscious decision to ignore it, so I consider that to be rude. I'll send my friend a text asking to him to grab a coffee, and then a week or two later get a "So when did you want to grab coffee?" Um, a week ago.
  • RahBuhBuh
    RahBuhBuh Posts: 585 Member
    I think its a little too emotionally needy to expect someone to text back right away.

    Do you really want someone to do that while driving? (and risk their life to acknowledge they got your cat joke)
    Do you want them to interrupt their dinner to text you back? (because you wouldn't want them doing it if they were dining with you)
    Do you want them to jump up off the pooper to reply to you that they are busy? (ewww gross, you sicko)

    If you answered yes to any of these then maybe you are the one who is being rude.
  • patiencexgracexstrength
    patiencexgracexstrength Posts: 27
    Not all girls are like that - I like being the one that's texted last in an sms conversation!
    I think it really depends on the type of texts and the type of friendship you have with that person.

    I can understand getting annoyed if you're trying to make plans with someone for in a few hours times and you don't hear from them for a while and as a result you're left unsure about when you need to leave or something but if the convo is along the lines of

    What are you up to?
    Not much, just dinner you?
    Mmm same, what are you having?
    Pizza
    Cool!
    :)

    And then there's no more responses.... get over it! haha
  • ChristineMarie89
    ChristineMarie89 Posts: 1,079 Member
    because even if ur busy then eventually u will c the msg in the same day and can say your busy doing whatever. its just polite to respond lol
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    To be honest, all this crap is getting way out of hand. Why is a text more important than any other form of communication?

    Answer: it's not.
  • patiencexgracexstrength
    patiencexgracexstrength Posts: 27
    because even if ur busy then eventually u will c the msg in the same day and can say your busy doing whatever. its just polite to respond lol
    yeah but sometimes you just go on and on about boring stuff! someone has to end it! you don't have a non stop text conversation from when you meet them until you're not friends with them anymore :P

    personal example :

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    it's a good friend and I have NOTHING against them at all, but for about three days straight this one semi boring conversation has been going on and when I try to say bye and end it they keep going! so eventually you HAVE to be rude and just not reply.
  • roy987
    roy987 Posts: 11 Member
    I think a lot of people do consider it rude if you don't reply to their texts. I forget sometimes too. Afterall it's not just texts but facebook , gtalk pings and whatsapp and everything else on the phone. But I do make it a point to reply later with an apology that I was busy or something.

    And if you've got enough time to post about it here, surely you can take a second to reply! :-)

    Type too slow? Try Siri. Although I once told it to send a text to my mom saying "I'm driving". She got "I'm dying".
  • stayxtrue
    stayxtrue Posts: 1,186 Member
    Not all girls are like that - I like being the one that's texted last in an sms conversation!
    I think it really depends on the type of texts and the type of friendship you have with that person.

    I can understand getting annoyed if you're trying to make plans with someone for in a few hours times and you don't hear from them for a while and as a result you're left unsure about when you need to leave or something but if the convo is along the lines of

    What are you up to?
    Not much, just dinner you?
    Mmm same, what are you having?
    Pizza
    Cool!
    :)

    And then there's no more responses.... get over it! haha

    this is one thing a love about texting you Claire! hahaha you always end it with something and I never reply back haha!
  • ksizzle911
    ksizzle911 Posts: 130 Member
    So many females are irritating like that. Makes me mad cuz I'm the exact opposite. People tend to get upset with me when I don't text back, sometimes even for a couple days. I don't always have time to deal with stuff because of a very busy schedule and extremely stressful job. And females who do act like that give the rest of us a bad name!!!

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