do you struggle with this???

RocketsGirl
RocketsGirl Posts: 339 Member
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So my mind knows that I have lost weight and that I have to buy smaller clothes but when I try on clothes that fit my mind immediately wants to reject them. I think "oh no this doesn't work" and it is not because it is too small but because it doesn't hide me. I seriously used to hide in my clothes and now that I am buying things that fit I am having to mentally struggle just to make myself wear them.

The newest obstacle is shorts. I refuse to return them and I will make myself wear them.

Fake it til you make it?

So is this an issue with anyone else?
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  • TrophyWifeSass
    TrophyWifeSass Posts: 490 Member
    Yes. A constant struggle for me. I am trying every day to be comfortable in my own skin. My brain just hasn't caught up yet. Hope it does by summer:smile:

    You look fantastic btw.

    :heart: Sass
  • tig_ol_bitties
    tig_ol_bitties Posts: 561 Member
    I haven't worn shorts since high school. I'm completely ashamed in them. However, I have no problem wearing a mini-skirt. I wish I could explain my stupid logic. But looking at the sassy stems in your pic, you should DEFINITELY be okay wearing shorts!
  • morganhccstudent724
    morganhccstudent724 Posts: 1,261 Member
    Yes...I feel the same way. We just have to get over it.


    I don't believe in faking anything...:wink:
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    OMG yes! I just started tryiing to make an effort to dress better and buy clothes that fit better. I wore men's clothes before and just hid in the giant T shirts and baggy saggy jeans.

    Try to find clothes that you're comfortable in that are tailored or cut to your figure. You can always get your clothes fitted by a tailor also. The key is to find clothes that are cut properly so you can look good and be comfortable.

    And yes, fake it till you believe it for sure. Just focus on finding clothes that fit well for now and learn to accessorize.
  • acstansell
    acstansell Posts: 567 Member
    It's a struggle because you mind still sees the chubby person. I have this issue too. My shirts are a size to big because I don't want anything tight across my stomach pooch. My pants are at an inbetween size...

    I'm wearing shrugs as a comfort thing, but it's also a way to hide. I've had people tell me that I need to work on wearing clothes that fit me.

    I'm wearing a dress in May with one shoulder strap and hits my knees. I'm determined that even though I'm a size 18, I'm going to wear this dress without a jacket.
  • RocketsGirl
    RocketsGirl Posts: 339 Member
    I haven't worn shorts since high school. I'm completely ashamed in them. However, I have no problem wearing a mini-skirt. I wish I could explain my stupid logic. But looking at the sassy stems in your pic, you should DEFINITELY be okay wearing shorts!

    it is funny because I have become ok wearing short skirts too but something about shorts that fit just throws me.

    OY!
  • FlyeredUp
    FlyeredUp Posts: 632 Member
    Sort of, My mind still thinks i'm fat. I still were long sleeves and baggy sweats to the gym.
  • Mikelobov
    Mikelobov Posts: 44
    It happens to me whenever I take my clothes off at night. I feel better in the clothes, but I feel just as fat as ever when i lie down. My stomach just feels mushy still, and it makes me sad. Everyone tells me I look amazing, but i'm afraid to go new clothes shopping (still wearing the same ones from 245) because if they feel tight I could get bummed out over it.
  • MyFeistyEvolution
    MyFeistyEvolution Posts: 1,014 Member
    I made a huge step and just started wearing capris last year. :noway:

    One day....one day I want to be able to wear shorts...I've NEVER worn shorts.

    So yes....I struggle with the same issues you do. xo
  • hellosteph11
    hellosteph11 Posts: 33
    Own that outfit girl and don't fake anything!
  • roachhaley
    roachhaley Posts: 978 Member
    Yes :/

    Even though I'm below my ideal weight for my height and frame size, and even though I'm a completely good clothing size, I still feel like I shouldnt be wearing certain types of clothes yet.

    I have worn dresses 90% of the time for the past few years but ALWAYS with tights. I bought a pair of shaper shorts the other day so I might be able to go tight-less this summer. We'll see o_o
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    Mine is bras. I have what I classify as ginormoboobs. And losing any weight really won't change that, they are genetically huge. So I have ALWAYS worn "functional" bras. Just lately I decided EFF THAT. I went out and bought a bunch of pretty ones, with underwire and everything!

    They take some getting used to. They aren't quite as comfy as the functional ones, but they makes the girls look better!
  • KilikiMom
    KilikiMom Posts: 237 Member
    yes i struggle with how I see myself I am down just about 18lbs...my goal is 20lbs to loose but i still see the same person in the mirror i did 18lbs ago...even though i got everyone telling me that i look great yadda yadda *I* still dont see a big difference...
  • HelloSweetie4
    HelloSweetie4 Posts: 1,214 Member
    Mine was the dress I bought a few weeks ago. I feel so exposed because it's been so long since I could wear a dress or skirt. I know it will be a challenge when i start buying shorts. I've pretty much been sticking to capris in the summer the past few years.
  • roachhaley
    roachhaley Posts: 978 Member
    Mine is bras. I have what I classify as ginormoboobs. And losing any weight really won't change that, they are genetically huge. So I have ALWAYS worn "functional" bras. Just lately I decided EFF THAT. I went out and bought a bunch of pretty ones, with underwire and everything!

    They take some getting used to. They aren't quite as comfy as the functional ones, but they makes the girls look better!

    This is one of my downfalls as well. My boobs are big but not huge - 32D. I've worn a minimiser bra for the past couple years because I was around a group of people in high school who idolised tiny girls with tiny boobs.

    I've bought a few cute bras that aren't minimisers but I never wear them for more than 5 minutes because I feel like my boobs like 100000x bigger and saggier or something :(

    One day I'll wear cute lingerie. ONE DAY.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    I still buy pants and skirts way too big in the waist because that's where I store a lot of my fat, and I hate my muffin top. But then I walk around, constantly hiking them up. I just can't win.
  • ElleOQuent
    ElleOQuent Posts: 429 Member
    This.exact.same.thing. happened to me in the dressing room yesterday. I instinctively want to beeline my way to the plus size section, despite the fact that none of the clothes there fit me. I feel like I lost my security blanket and that I now have to brave the world in my new (much smaller) skin.

    It's a scary thought, but I'm slowly allowing myself to believe that all my hard work is, in fact, paying off.
  • darkheart
    darkheart Posts: 104 Member
    Up until 3 years ago, I hadn't worn shorts since I was 10 or 11. Since then, I live in them during the summer! I am reconsidering not wearing shorts again until my legs firm up! I really let them go these past 6 months haha. Too much flab!
  • downsizinghoss
    downsizinghoss Posts: 1,035 Member
    In college I only owned 4 pairs of long pants. Now I haven't worn shorts other than swimming in 15 years.
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member


    The newest obstacle is shorts. I refuse to return them and I will make myself wear them.

    And yea, I rarely do shorts, except around the house. But I will totally rock the capris and skirts. As long as they cover up my thighs, I'm good.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    I still buy pants and skirts way too big in the waist because that's where I store a lot of my fat, and I hate my muffin top. But then I walk around, constantly hiking them up. I just can't win.

    Get them tailored. Trust me, you will thank me later. Discovering that I could have jeans tailored was like finding the holy grail for me.
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member


    The newest obstacle is shorts. I refuse to return them and I will make myself wear them.

    And yea, I rarely do shorts, except around the house. But I will totally rock the capris and skirts. As long as they cover up my thighs, I'm good.

    I really hate shorts on me. Skirts (even short ones) look good on me but shorts rarely do. It's just the cut I think accentuates the worst part of my upper thighs and hips. Skirts hide it nicely and still look good.
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    oh god yes, I have to run around the house safely for weeks in certain kinds of clothing before I feel comfortable going in public in them. I spent the winter of 2010 in shorts in my livingroom practicing for last summer.
  • marywanoKC
    marywanoKC Posts: 176
    Yep, I do. But I've recently started saying "Screw it, I'm making all of the changes I can to myself, and if someone else doesn't like the way I dress, they can look away!" I started wearing tank tops to the gym and yoga because they're more comfortable, and I bought two sundresses this month. I'm still conscientious about the fit, because I WANT to look good, but I'm through with denying that I'm a smaller size!
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    Yep, I do. But I've recently started saying "Screw it, I'm making all of the changes I can to myself, and if someone else doesn't like the way I dress, they can look away!" I started wearing tank tops to the gym and yoga because they're more comfortable, and I bought two sundresses this month. I'm still conscientiousness about the fit, because I WANT to look good, but I'm through with denying that I'm a smaller size!

    That the key. Find clothes that fit well, and you'll look 10x better. I've recently discovered this myself. I actually look a lot smaller than I am when I take the time to dress well. Nobody sees the size tag but you, so as long as you rock it, who cares what size it is?
  • pat6250
    pat6250 Posts: 90
    I struggle with this, too. But I will tell you what helped. I went to Hawaii, and my mind was saying "I am not worthy to be on this beach with skinny girls in bikinis". But then I noticed all of the hefty folks like me, who clearly enjoy eating and drinking. So, I put my mind in that place. Yes, I am big, but I paid for this trip, I deserve to enjoy it, and if anyone doesn't approve, they can look elsewhere. I watched confident big people, and I decided to be like them. Yes, I am planning to lose weight, but in the mean time, I have every right to go swimming, sunning, snorkeling, and having fun without being ashamed. If I wait to have fun until I am the perfect size, I will have wasted my life waiting. So, wear what you want, enjoy each day, and enjoy each day of this journey we call life. If you are confident, you will be confident to eat the best foods and exercise each day. You might even find it easier to lose weight if you like yourself. Why would you want to take good care of a body you despise? Give yourself permission to love yourself enough to enjoy life, and taking great care of yourself will follow.:flowerforyou:
  • Twilightsunflower
    Twilightsunflower Posts: 324 Member
    i know how you feel. i hide in my clothes and behind my hair. my purse and even my daughter somedays.( she is super cute and loves attention so it is easy.)

    then i wear something that shows my body more i feel exposed like a deer in the headlights.

    i still feel the same inside no matter what the people around me or what the scales say.

    my clothing foe would have to be anything that falls above my knee,
  • ChristineMarie89
    ChristineMarie89 Posts: 1,079 Member
    my problem is my mind still thinks im 7 sizes bigger and i csant seem to wrap my mind around im not >.<
  • Elizabeth_C34
    Elizabeth_C34 Posts: 6,376 Member
    i know how you feel. i hide in my clothes and behind my hair. my purse and even my daughter somedays.( she is super cute and loves attention so it is easy.)

    then i wear something that shows my body more i feel exposed like a deer in the headlights.

    i still feel the same inside no matter what the people around me or what the scales say.

    my clothing foe would have to be anything that falls above my knee,

    I'd suggest that you look less at "revealing" clothes and cute fitted stuff instead. Remember that you don't have to be skimpy to be sexy and gorgeous. Always be comfortable in your clothes. :smile:
  • Twilightsunflower
    Twilightsunflower Posts: 324 Member
    i could have phrased that better.. the clothes arent more reveling in a sexual oh look at my anatomical parts way.. more in a fitted and here is the shape of my body kind of way...

    im use to dressing so there is little shape to my body so things like bulges and my big butt are covered

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