You don't need to lose weight!

Everyone I have known, apart from my partner, that have known me at my heaviest say this all the time now! My partner knows it annoys me because I have another 16lbs to lose, so therefore not helpful! I know he thinks it in his head though. :P

Tell them to stop gaining weight.

I don't mention to any of my friends that I want to lose weight. Especially as someone who wants to go from the top of the healthy BMI range to the bottom of it - it can be a bit demotivating to be told all the time that you don't need to lose weight. I've never come up with a good come back (I'm not quick enough!) but I'm going to use the one in the OP from now on!

Yup, my work colleagues have been particularly vocal the last couple of weeks saying how stick thin I sm, how I can possibly need to lose more etc etc. No one said oh you're getting pretty fat lose some weight, so why is it ok to have a whine now I am getting healthier? I had an obese BMI and am now in the healthy range but want to lose a few more pounds and tone up.
Oh I was told not to get "silly" with my weight loss and go too skinny...... Whatever that means

From my fiance i get "i would really like if you could loose some weight, so you get the sexy body i want you to have".
My fiances perants: "you dont need to loose any more weight, you are going to become annerexic".
My mum: "dont be silly you dont need to loose weight".
My dad: "wow, you look like your pregnant. When did you grow that belly?"

So i cant rely on the people around me.. The people who are honest, it just sounds like there being mean. And the people who lie, and try to make me feel better, hurt me long run. Because if i listened to them, one day i would wake up huge..

I have one friend who tells me I've lost weight everytime I see her!! Its so annoying because she's also the friend who would tell me I look good in a binliner so even if I have lost a lot since I last saw her the compliment is kinda backhanded and fake anyways.
Plus, my friends are all natural size 8-10 petite where I am more amazonian girl so they wouldnt have a clue what its like.

Does anyone else also get "your tall so you carry it".....wtf is that supposed to mean?!?! I don't want to carry it, I might be tall but that doesnt mean I am allowed to have a jiggly tum or thunder thighs and I am smack bang in the middle of my bmi range but seriously naked I would put me closer to overweight

My DH used to say that to me constantly. Well, I have gone from 310 pounds to 115 in just over two years. Just last week he was going through his hard drive and deleting lots of old pics and he said to me - he was completly blind to the fact that I was ever that size and it was only comparing the before and after shots that brought it to his attention.

It is good to know that he has loved me no matter what size I am, but it would still have been nice if he had realised that I needed a little push to get some of my excess weight off instead of me waiting until it became a major health issue. Having said that, back then I would have probably have run to the food cupboard if he had told me I needed to lose weight - that was my coping stratergy.

Truthfully, don't listen to what other people say. We have to take responsibility for our weight and fitness and we should learn to know our bodies better than outsiders. x

Yup, all the time. From family and others. I wish people would just mind their business. I think it's because they're not used to seeing me smaller. I'm going to continue doing my thing and not listen to them because I'm the one who has to like my body. I've said the "naked" thing too or a variation of it. It's so true though. I'm an expert at hiding things.

Tell them to stop gaining weight.

tahaha

People don't believe I'm in the overweight zone, and I get this a lot. I tell them it's not about the number, it's about my health. And that right now, I'm not at a healthy weight.

I understand when someone is trying to say "You look good the way you are!" But I don't think they can fight with you when you tell them you know you look ok, but that you want to be healthy, too!

A lot of my friends from college are really into the fat acceptance movement. Reclaiming the word "fat" and trying to take away the negative stigmatization of it. I'm all for the movement. There are people who are naturally larger framed who get called "fat" and really need to be reminded and have it stick that there's nothing WRONG with being larger. It doesn't make you a bad person.

That being said, I'm frightened to tell these college friends that I'm working on losing weight. I feel that they'll think I'm just buying into popular notions of beauty and the **** that girly magazines and pop stars sell us. And I don't know how to explain to them that that's NOT it. I don't want to look like a super model. I want to be able to, eventually, do the whole friggin' week of RAGBRAI. I want to bike to work and not even break a sweat. I want clothing to flatter my body rather than just cover it up.

I hear it a lot.. "Why do you log your food? You don't need to worry about calories.."

No one seems to understand "Skinny Fat". I tell them they wouldn't want to see me in a bikini yet. :P

Far too much to the point where I abandoned working out and eating healthy, and gained back 10 pounds. I know it wasn't a sensible thing to do but I was tired of the constant 'You're too skinny', 'You look old now', 'Stop dieting!' etc etc. It was really difficult to hear it but now I'm back on track - thankfully.

I would hear this all the time when people knew that I was losing weight, so I just stopped telling them. I'm trying to get in shape more than lose weight, but people don't understand that. They equate eating healthy as "dieting," not a lifestyle change. Being healthy and trying to lose weight can be two very different things.

I wonder how much of this perception is due to the generally skewed public perception. A third of Americans are obese, and another third are overweight. This means that only one third of us, the minority, are actually at a healthy weight. I'm not saying that all people who say "you don't need to lose weight" do so out of jealousy, but I think that the majority of people can no longer accurately assess weight. Our idea of a normal, healthy weight has been skewed not just by the media but especially by our own sizes. If you look around and most people are overweight, then it only makes sense that people who are a healthy weight seem, in comparison, to be too small.