Why do I always fall for

Slendermike
Slendermike Posts: 1,776 Member
edited December 18 in Chit-Chat
women with issues - where are all the good ones?

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  • Pengi81
    Pengi81 Posts: 336 Member
    I know the feeling!
  • Tourney3p0
    Tourney3p0 Posts: 290 Member
    It's possible you're not attracted to people without issues.
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 1,799 Member
    Do you have issues? If people empathize with you regarding those, they probably have issues of their own. I find people without issues to be just about boring as all hell. On the other hand, though, there's something to be said about people who don't bring any drama into your life.
  • hnpervert
    hnpervert Posts: 10
    You just want to take care of them. I have the same problem - i tend to go for women with baggage. Lots and lots of baggage.

    I'm thinking of getting a dog instead.
  • _Christine_
    _Christine_ Posts: 1,385 Member
    We got married at 20. LOL!


    Actually... we're all crazy, at least a little.
  • tmarie2715
    tmarie2715 Posts: 1,111 Member
    It's possible you're not attracted to people without issues.

    Yes. Reminds me of the Katt Williams bit where he talks about women who keep attracting $hitty guys. After several times, you should probably start wondering what it is about your $%^^& that keeps attracting $hitty guys. There is one common denominator in your relationships. That would be you.

    On the flip side, most people are downright terrible people. Keep looking! ;)
  • freyaandcorysmum
    freyaandcorysmum Posts: 70
    we dont all have issues....keep hunting !!! x
  • PapaverSomniferum
    PapaverSomniferum Posts: 2,670 Member
    It's possible you're not attracted to people without issues.



    On the flip side, most people are downright terrible people. Keep looking! ;)


    ^^^^ this

    humans are horrible horrible creatures.

    however, there's always http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/RealDoll
  • Nerdy_Rose
    Nerdy_Rose Posts: 1,277 Member
    You are 40. By this point in life, no human being, male, female or otherwise comes baggage-free.
    You just need to find someone with a matching luggage set.
  • elenathegreat
    elenathegreat Posts: 3,988 Member
    You are 40. By this point in life, no human being, male, female or otherwise comes baggage-free.
    You just need to find someone with a matching luggage set.

    Well said.
  • Newf77
    Newf77 Posts: 802 Member
    You are 40. By this point in life, no human being, male, female or otherwise comes baggage-free.
    You just need to find someone with a matching luggage set.

    Ouchie:cry:
  • RachFace1000
    RachFace1000 Posts: 154 Member
    I sincerely apologize on behalf of my gender. Females suck ha
  • bestbassist
    bestbassist Posts: 177 Member
    OP - you may find a lot of eye opening support and info on these sites.

    http://www.avoiceformen.com

    http://www.shrink4men.com
  • BeetleChe13
    BeetleChe13 Posts: 498 Member
    We got married at 20. LOL!


    Actually... we're all crazy, at least a little.

    ^^This. We all have issues. If you say you don't, you're either lying to yourself or have led a safe, boring life. There's also a difference between issues/baggage and drama. Stay away from the drama lovers.
  • Misiaxcore
    Misiaxcore Posts: 659 Member
    I thought everyone has their issues.
  • Cueball55
    Cueball55 Posts: 152 Member
    actually, this is timely. i was wondering the same myself.

    i keep putting myself thru the same tragedy, knowing the outcome is going to be ugly. but i can't stop it! haha
  • ttxqiu
    ttxqiu Posts: 27
    You are 40. By this point in life, no human being, male, female or otherwise comes baggage-free.
    You just need to find someone with a matching luggage set.
    Exactly. Besides, everyone I know -- including myself, and including my significant other WHOM I HAVE BEEN WITH FOR ALMOST THREE YEARS -- has issues. Issues don't mean a failed relationship or a failed friendship. Failure just means that someone was unwilling to put in the work to understand the other person, unwilling to put in the work to improve themselves, or both.
  • Nerdy_Rose
    Nerdy_Rose Posts: 1,277 Member
    You are 40. By this point in life, no human being, male, female or otherwise comes baggage-free.
    You just need to find someone with a matching luggage set.

    Ouchie:cry:

    Ouch? H*ll, I'm 26 and I have baggage. If you make it to middle-age unscathed, I'd be convinced you were a robot.
  • r1ghtpath
    r1ghtpath Posts: 701 Member
    everyone has baggage, it's how you HANDLE your OWN baggage that really matters!!! you can't expect someone else to "fix" or help you deal with your own stuff if they aren't dealing with their own, and vice versa!

    what do you consider "issues?"
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    Why? The reason is obvious.

    It's because you want to...the person making the choices here is you.
  • HorrorChix89
    HorrorChix89 Posts: 1,229 Member
    Everyone has issues. I haven't met an issue free person. It all depends on how they handle the issues and if you can handle your own without letting them clash with each other.
  • jaxxie
    jaxxie Posts: 576 Member
    Hmmmmm look at it one of 2 ways.......Co-dependancy or a love of adventure. I prefer the latter. Those with adventureous personalities tend to deal with 'baggage/issues' differently - both withinourselves and from our partners. Just a thought!
  • warmachinejt
    warmachinejt Posts: 2,162 Member
    cause the instinct is that we want to help the other get better
  • Sister_Someone
    Sister_Someone Posts: 567 Member
    I think it's the instinct - you see someone in distress, you want to make them feel better. It says a lot about you, though. Only truly good people have the instinct to help.

    Me, I always fall for guys who cheat and I end up getting hurt. Now, what's the excuse behind that?
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    Women aren't the only ones that has issues. Men have their share too.
  • ChristineMarie89
    ChristineMarie89 Posts: 1,079 Member
    everyone has issues!!! im sure you do too!!!! You just love someone issues and all or not at all. simple!
  • nikkiprickett
    nikkiprickett Posts: 412 Member
    I hate to tell you but men AND women have issues, it's finding the one worth working through them and who is willing to do the same for you.

    :)
  • ChasingSweatandTears
    ChasingSweatandTears Posts: 504 Member
    You are 40. By this point in life, no human being, male, female or otherwise comes baggage-free.
    You just need to find someone with a matching luggage set.

    Pretty much :)
  • sugarnspicere
    sugarnspicere Posts: 45 Member
    I have the same problem, except I fall for men that have issues. Some control issues, some psych issues. Even my hubby has issues.
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