Frustrating

I don't really hear any of that. It's pretty much just the opposite. Maybe it's depends on where you work. Is this work peers or who that are saying there things?

That's why I never discuss my getting healthier attempts with others. If they take notice and ask me, I'll answer their questions. Because if they notice a change and ask me about it, they see what I'm doing is working.. rather than having them watch me like a hawk and give me unwanted commentary of my food choices.

Deep down, they're jealous you have enough self-control to deny the bad foods.

You're succeeding while they're most likely getting nowhere.

Deep down, they're jealous you have enough self-control to deny the bad foods.

You're succeeding while they're most likely getting nowhere.

^^ this for sure....everyone wants the magic pill that will make you thin, fit and happy...when they realize that you've worked your *kitten* off (literally!) to get here, not so interested... It doesn't come free!

I don't really hear any of that. It's pretty much just the opposite. Maybe it's depends on where you work. Is this work peers or who that are saying there things?

Truthfully, I think this is because you are man. I hear it too, and quite frankly, I used to think the same thing of people who were dieting. However, I find if you explain it's a lifestyle change, you will be fine.

Yesterday, my office made cinnamon rolls. I went back there, interacted with everyone, and my friend was like, you know, if you have one, it isn't going to kill you. And I just said, "It's a slippery slope my friend", and she got it. I then looked at the package, and decided that well, this has the same amount of calories as my usual snack, and I know it won't be as filling, but I will still be on track. So I had one. HAHA!

I don't know if that helped. I guess the moral of the story is YOU are the only person who can figure out what is best for you.

i so know how u feel, at my job, i get offered cakes, biscuits, muffins, sweets each day...i say briefly ' no thanks'... then i have to give a reason (god knows why!) then they say ' come on, you need to treat yourself' - this is the funniest part - they will leave a couple of cakes on my desk. then i get that pissed, i bin them. this happens at least once a week, the majority in my office are over weight also - funny that......now i just laugh it off, else i would throw it in their faces

I just tried to read each situation individually the last time I was going through this. I knew there were certain people I would have to be blunt with; really let them know that constantly turning them down was exasperating and that I would appreciate it if they would be more supportive. And then others I knew that it was best to decline, but do so with an appreciative smile and an off hand comment like "oh, man, those cookies smell great... but i really am trying to lose weight so I have to pass... thanks though." I think some people get offended when you turn them down, so tempering your response with a compliment or gratitude for the involving you can help. But then again some people are just dense and really have to be told "i have these goals... i want to accomplish them... your constant temptation and nagging is hurting me. Please be more supportive."

Deep down, they're jealous you have enough self-control to deny the bad foods.

You're succeeding while they're most likely getting nowhere.

I've learned this to be almost 100% of the case! You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. Jealousy causes people to do or say really hurtful things. You just need to let it go in one ear and out the other. And if people are constantly asking for help, and then blowing you off, do what I do. Next time they ask you to help them, say "what about the last 4 times we tried this and it didn't work?". It'll get them thinking.

You can't motivate people who can't/won't motivate themselves. My husband wants to get down to 200#. I told him a lot of it would come off if he started logging his food which is what got my first 20# off, but he feels if he forgets to log once, he'll keep forgetting. Starting to log food is hard because you have to log everything all the time. That's one reason I stopped in 2011.

When people off me food, which is pretty rare, I tell them no and that's that. May be my friends take it at face value or they think I still am too fat. I have said that if I eat one piece, all eat them all. It's like offering heroine to a recovering addict. Just one piece is all it takes.

The best thing you can do is be an example. People are going to offer you food that isn't particulary healthy out of kindness or etiquette. What they say is true, one piece of any given junk food will not hurt your diet. However, it is a slippery slope. I would put some of the responsibility on them. Tell them you have not achieved your goal and they can help you stay on track by not continuing to ask after you politely decline. Including them in your process may give them a sense of responsibility in helping you get to your health goals. Would rather them exclude you and become the proverbial black sheep? It doesn't sound like a conspiracy to get you unhealthy.

I understand how people want help but don't want to help themselves. There are numerous reasons for this. Some are too embarrassed to go to a gym. Others may think they aren't healthy enough to even begin. The best thing you can do is encourage, follow up, and be available when they take action.

Also, losing weight is difficult. Often people try losing weight and usually do it wrong. They cut calories by simply not eating or trying a fad diet. When those "diets" don't work they develop the mindset "diets don't work for me". People may want to follow your example but may think you are too advanced or a very strict dieter. Either way, people may be afraid to work with you. Let them know how easy it is and you eat the way eat because you are on a mission.

We all started some where with a goal to get healthy. Continue what you are doing and be supportive and you will eventually have people come to you that are ready to take action.

I don't believe you can't motivate other people or people are jealous. I look at before and after pics every day that inspire me to continue reaching for a healthier lifestyle. So, thanks to all the people that continue to be positive and motivate those around them. Charisma baby!

One of my favorite quotes - "If it were easy, everyone would be doing it!"

I've been doing VERY good at working out and eating right. I however am beginning to get frustrated with people. I eat healthy and the majority of people give me slack for it. Just have a bite, one slice of pizza won't kill you. They seem to get offended if I say no. It's honestly annoying. Then I have a few friends who are constantly complaining about their weight but do nothing. Then when they ask me to motivate them, ask them to walk, workout, ect.....they always decline. It's just Sooo darn frustrating. I want to kick them in the rear. This may sound harsh but I'm venting it out on here. How do you KINDLY handle this situation? They are good friends just bad at the healthy lifestyle.

When your friends behave like food pushers, saying things like "just one won't kill you..." I'd just politely, but consistently say things like "No thank you" or "I already ate" or "I'm not hungry" or "I just don't want one." There is no rational reason for anyone to push the conversation any further. If they do anyway, maybe say "No thanks, I'll just enjoy one vicarously through you," -- with a smile on your face, of course!

When they ask you to motivate them, and you invite them to walk or workout with you, but they decline, I'd just drop it after that. Keep inviting them for a few weeks, but if they ALWAYS say no, then maybe I'd ask if they want you to keep inviting them. Otherwise, I'd just stop inviting them and do your own thing.

I guess you could send them MFP invites too, and then they'd see how hard you're working for your results. Maybe it would inspire them, maybe not, but if you think they really want to make a change, it can't hurt.

Deep down, they're jealous you have enough self-control to deny the bad foods.

Sadly, I have to agree with this.

It makes me appreciate my friends, though. The typical reaction I get is admiration and support. If anything, they react as if to say "geez, maybe I shouldn't eat this either."

I have a custom of going on the Januwagon each year in an attempt to offset some of the excesses of the holidays. The first year I did this, I had a good friend who wanted to do it with me. Her partner was an alcoholic and completely blew a fuse at the idea that their partying would be affected by this "totally selfish" lark of giving up alcohol for a month. My friends reacted the complete opposite, and I got nothing but support and understanding. I remember one who got right online and researched the best places in Seattle for non-alcoholic cocktails so I could still hang out while sticking with my plan. The stature of my friends went way up in my mind, and I realized how lucky I was. It also made me see the value of travelling light-- I'm far more inclined to jettison the toxic and unsupportive people in my life.

Unfortunately, I am going through something similar to this. I work at a middle school, where there are constant parties, snacks, pizza, pastries and such. Most teachers are not on board with eating healthy or having a healthy lifestyle, so when they have cake for birthdays and other occasions, they say things like, "you don't need to diet" and "just one piece isn't going to hurt you." So.....I feel your pain hun. It is annoying. Family members are proud of what I do, but it is harder to go to family events because I have to create a healthy meal out of what they are having.

I have the same problem at work, everyday there are about 50 pizza boxes in the the office because of some customer lunch and learn. The smell permeates the entire office and drives me up a wall. At home my wife and kids have super fast metabolisms so they can eat whatever they want and I have to exercise extreme will power not to dive into the junk. Its hardest on the weekend but unfortunately I do not have an answer for you. All I do is grit my teeth and try to avoid.

People are either out to TEST your abilities for whatever reason, or take YOU down with them for THIER bad choices in life... Its definitely uncalled for. I get if every day as well...