How do you stay on track when you live with temptation?

If getting him to join me doesn't work, what do you do to stay on track when people around you are pulling you down? I know I don't have to eat it but it is easier to say "just say no" than to actually say "no". I feel like food is a drug! I know where the problem is but I am not completely sure how to get away from it.

He is not pulling you down. You are making the choices for you, unless he has a gun to your head saying eat the bon-bons! You have to take ownership in that the food you put in your body is you putting it there. You don't have to eat something because you see someone doing it. I am not saying this is easy, but it certainly isn't someone else's fault that you are eating too many calories.

I read your post and completely understand where you are coming from. I tell my husband it's like being an alcoholic and your spouse keeping alcohol in the house. People that don't have a desire or a need to lose weight just don't understand that it's an addition like anything else. I have asked my husband to do me a favor and buy snacks that I don't crave or like so the temptation isn't there. Also I asked him if he does buy something I like to bring it to work with him and eat it there. I am a junk food junkie with the best of them so it's tough. For example if he wants ice cream which is my downfall I ask that he not buy it at the store and keep it in the house but rather go get some from an ice cream shop when he wants it eat it and then it's not in the house all the time. My husband also can eat whatever he wants, not work out and still be skinny. I feel your pain girl!

My husband works out of town 20 days a month so I'm lucky he's not here to do that but I have 3 teenage eating machines with me at all times.

In all honesty I just use willpower. I know what I want and how I want to look and just don't give in to their junk food!

I used to binge eat in the evenings out of boredom and lonliness. I now schedule exercise to fill in those gaps. I go for a 1 hr walk after dinner then I do an exercise dvd at around 9pm. I find this totally cuts the binging and temptation.

On the weekends when I first started I kept as busy as I could with shopping, visiting friends etc so the days flew by with no slow time to fall back into old habits.

It's taken 4 months but my relathionship with food has completely changed. I now use it as fuel for my body not comfort.

Keep at it, your husband will see you getting results and not want to feel left out resulting in him joining you on your journey!!!

My husband has been very supportive of my weight loss and has been exercising with me and encouraging me to keep going. But getting him on the "healthy eating" track was a bit more difficult. He liked his sweets, he likes his ribs, burgers, ect. And as long as he works out he can still eat them and lose. I found the trick was to find "healthy recipes" recipes that our whole family would like and I found that gradually changing them was easier. For example, my family loves spaghetti, making it with whole grain pasta and the sauce w/ground white turkey and having a small portion with a large tossed salad is the best. The first time I made it that way, they all turned up their noses, ate a small amount and then had a ton of junk food later. So the next time, I mixed half regular noodles and half whole wheat, and then half ground beef and half turkey . . . . they didn't even notice, then each time, I would add more and more of the whole grain, ground turkey and make the portions smaller and the salads larger, until now we are eating 100% whole grain pasta and using only ground turkey. I did the same thing with burgers, meatloaf. I even did pizza and now "pizza night" consists of whole grain pita pizzas made with reduced fat cheese, grilled chicken and lots of veggies as toppings. For sweets, I have baked apples w/cinnamon and nutmeg. Mixed fruit w/plain greek yogurt and frozen it slightly to make an awesome frozen treat. I make sugar free, fat free pudding and fill it with fruit, sometimes for a special treat, I will put it in a reduced fat graham cracker crust and call it a pie, they love that. The key is to find creative ways to make foods they like healthy. So they don't think you eating healthy means eating carrot sticks all day . . . because I don't have any idea how anyone could get their family to go for that. Take their favorite dishes and search the internet for healthier options.

1. I have no goals beyond today, never have.... The goal for today MOVE and EAT... If I stick to that goal, the bigger unwritten goals of losing weight, getting to a certain size, etc... will take care of themselves... FOCUS on today....

MOVE = Excercise, it is not dreaded, I crave it...
EAT = Don't eat what will screw with my moving


2. I eat chocolate. I keep a bowl of hershey kisses dark. I eat 3 or 4 and walk away.

3. Supreme Protein Bars = Like eating a million dollar bar... get a chocolate fix packed with protein and PROTEIN = LEAN

4. A natural bull dog mentality = I've locked on to the idea I will not be fat again.... 19 months since hitting getting to 175...

I think a combination of the suggestions might work best. Keep some treats that you enjoy, but find a serving portion that fits in your daily calorie goals. Budget for it. If you like Little Debbie's, for example, budget for ONE swiss cake roll and wrap the other one up for tomorrow.

Your other alternative is exercise. If you exercise, you can have a treat. Walk around your block a couple times for 30 minutes after supper and you have earned dessert or a tv snack for later.

The idea behind weight loss is (for the most part) calories in < calories out. The quality of those calories will affect how you feel. If you eat junk and deprive your body of nutrients, you won't feel well. But you CAN lose weight eating junk. Ideally, though, you want to work toward cutting down on the junk as much as possible.

If the time comes you can get hubby on board, then you can consider cutting it out completely. But in the meantime, if he isn't receptive, just work on controlling what you can. Cut the junk down, but not out completely. If you feel deprived you are more likely to give up on your diet altogether. Just cut it down and budget for it.

Over time, I think you may find that a big bowl of whole-grain cereal sounds more filling and more appetizing than a Little Debbie. That's what happened to me anyway. I'd look at the label of something I love (Butterscotch Krimpets!!!!) and say to myself "300 calories for THAT LITTLE THING? Nevermind. I don't want it that bad."

I struggle with this a lot too. Something that I have just recently started telling myself when it comes to sweets is, "Fat lasts longer than flavor!" I will just sip my water and repeat it over and over. lol

leave the room he is eating in. maybe lost time with is wife will deter him to eat less, at different times, etc.