Are people telling you to not lose anymore weight?

People have been telling me that for months now but I still NEED to lose another 20Lbs. I'm not sure if their trying to be nice by saying that I dont look like I need to lose any more weight or what but it gets really annoying.

I say as long as your goal weight is within your BMI index go for it!!! And, tell people exactly that when they make comments about your weight - all you have to say is, " I am shooting to hit the middle of my healthy weight range" and then leave it at that. I have found that when I throw numbers at people they tend back down. If that doesn't work - when you go in for your yearly physical ask your doctor if your goal is reasonable. That way when someone says something to you, just tell them that your doctor said it was okay. It is hard to argue with doctor's approval.

You mention getting into shape and feeling better. While I am sure you may have heard this before.....Part of your slow weight loss may be due to when you exercise muscle weighs more than fat. Since you are noticing that you are toning up but not losing much weight you are probably losing "fat" weight but gaining "muscle" weight at the same time.

That's pretty much a standard response. I would say that just about everyone on this site who has lost significant weight has heard that at one point.

Some of it is just being polite (another way of them saying how good they think you look), some of it is some vague feeling of resentment that you have lost weight and they can't.

But I think a lot of it is simply the fact that we have become so overweight as a nation, we just don't know what a "healthy weight' body looks like anymore.

I know from extensive testing in my graduate school days what my average lean body mass is. Even though I am now 25 years older, that LBM would most likely go down, rather than up, so any strength training I do (and I don't do a huge amount) is pretty much going to keep me in the same place. So I know from past experience what my weight should be if I am in the 15%-16% body fat range, which is a healthy place to be--and that is still another 25-30 pounds less than where I am now.

But I don't even bother to mention that anymore, because it freaks people out so much.

And, yes, I have found that it has slowed down my efforts to have this constant barrage of "don't lose any more weight" comments. It has affected me more than I ever would have expected.

We know what you are talking about--stick to your guns and go after your goal--it's a good one!

That's pretty much a standard response. I would say that just about everyone on this site who has lost significant weight has heard that at one point.

Some of it is just being polite (another way of them saying how good they think you look), some of it is some vague feeling of resentment that you have lost weight and they can't.

But I think a lot of it is simply the fact that we have become so overweight as a nation, we just don't know what a "healthy weight' body looks like anymore.

I know from extensive testing in my graduate school days what my average lean body mass is. Even though I am now 25 years older, that LBM would most likely go down, rather than up, so any strength training I do (and I don't do a huge amount) is pretty much going to keep me in the same place. So I know from past experience what my weight should be if I am in the 15%-16% body fat range, which is a healthy place to be--and that is still another 25-30 pounds less than where I am now.

But I don't even bother to mention that anymore, because it freaks people out so much.

And, yes, I have found that it has slowed down my efforts to have this constant barrage of "don't lose any more weight" comments. It has affected me more than I ever would have expected.

We know what you are talking about--stick to your guns and go after your goal--it's a good one!

thanks for saying what I edited 2x and then just deleted because it came out wrong.

I have had 1 person say to me.......so what are you going to lose, another 8-10 pounds?? It was from a healthy person who has always been into exercise.

Most ppl havent the foggiest idea of how much one should weigh. I was appaled (sp) at my body fat% last week. I was informed that I was 90 pounds lean mass and 45 pounds of fat?:noway:

She did explain that unless I am entering into a competition, I should only lose 20 more at tops.

How bout you and your doctor discuss it? That's what I did, and with that I have the confidence to ingore second geussers. let's face it. We are the people who know our own bodies the best.

I have wondered about the muscle/fat thing. When I say I was down to 102#, I was doing aerobics but not much strength training and this time I am. I want to still have bones when I am 80! :laugh:

Also, I agree, I don't think we do know what a healthy body looks like. In our society we see a lot of either super-model thin or obese. Neither are healthy.

Thanks again!!

my trainer is petite........tiny really......but when I saw her push up 700 pounds on the weight bench my eyes popped outta my head. She is 5"2" and weighs close to 130 is all she would tell me ........not an ounce of fat on her body and she is HOT.

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my trainer is petite........tiny really......but when I saw her push up 700 pounds on the weight bench my eyes popped outta my head. She is 5"2" and weighs close to 130 is all she would tell me ........not an ounce of fat on her body and she is HOT.
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your post made lol as it took me back to the days when I passed out at the gym and my trainer also 5ft 2"
picked me up 5ft 7" sweaty and floppy and at the time about 28 lbs over weight like I was nothing :laugh:

my trainer is petite........tiny really......but when I saw her push up 700 pounds on the weight bench my eyes popped outta my head. She is 5"2" and weighs close to 130 is all she would tell me ........not an ounce of fat on her body and she is HOT.
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your post made lol as it took me back to the days when I passed out at the gym and my trainer also 5ft 2"
picked me up 5ft 7" sweaty and floppy and at the time about 28 lbs over weight like I was nothing :laugh:
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:laugh:

Arewethereyet:...How did you find out your body fat/lean muscle?

OH I just thought of something.

If you belong to a gym tell them you are thinking about getting a trainer and would like to know your body fat...................or set up an appt for a walk thru and discussion at a new gym. Tell them you would like to know your body fat % on THIS visit.

OMG I hate that when I tell people how much Ive lost and I have 34lbs to go they say no you look great just like that ugh....Thats fustrates me:grumble: :grumble: :grumble: :mad:

I agree, my family thinks i shouldnt lose any weight because I look ok, for having 3 kids. I am doing this for myself and no one else. I dont want to lose wieght just to look good but for Health factors as well. I want to avoid all the diseases out there or lower my chances of getting some of them by eating right and working out. I even encourage my kids to excersise and stay healthy.