Husband wants to gain, Wife wants to lose... WHAT TO COOK!?

You can eat health fats and protein and lose weight.

In fact, that is a fantastic idea.

Cook the same for each of you, you eat a small portion, he eats a large one. Just watch your portion sizes to fit your calorie goal and you are set.

Portion control will be the best advice. I know it'll suck for you but you're portion controlling anyways. He will like whatever you cook, let him have his seconds while you gnaw on your salad

Also, don't forget that even if you overate a bit, you can always burn those calories by working out. Sorry not the best advice but thats all I got

he eats more, you eat less...

^ It really is this simple.

EDIT: Have him mix a whey protein shake with 1c of dry quick oats and 2tbs of peanut butter and mix it with full fat milk instead of water. Should be about (I'm estimating) 590 calories per shake. Have him take one or two per day as needed if he's having an issue eating enough (LOL).

Keep making the main dishes that you have found work for you and have different sides available for him.

A baked potato, pasta, rice, fresh bread...those are things that helped 'round out' a meal for my ex, and I was able to but I was able to enjoy an awesome side salad or other veggies instead!

big juicy burger for him, and minus the bun and sauces plus a handful of lettus for you and viola! you have yourself a hearty salad. I also found a great recipe for healthy baked onion rings (he'll never know they are low cal, but you will!)
http://www.skinnytaste.com/2011/03/low-fat-baked-onion-rings.html

theres always pinterest:)

ok all my teenage boys are pretty thin for the most part. they are not trying to diet at all. so what I do is cook a regular meal for us, lets say hubby grills chicken, I grill asparagus with oil and garlic salt, then I add some mashed potatoes, velveeta shells and cheese and crescent rolls for the kids. then hubby can pick what he wants and I only eat the chicken and asparagus and add a salad for myself. I dont like the mashed potatoes or shells and cheese or for the most part the crescents, sometimes I eat one. but if you need to, add in something with cheese or nuts, something with higher calories or keep some sweets on hand that you dont like that he does, like the kids like skittles, I dont, the kids like ice cream with candies on the top, I dont, just dont bring anything in the house that you would want to eat the entire package of. go to the store with hubby and find some things together that he likes that wont be a problem for you!

Glad I'm not the only one with a split household.
One thing we already did before he left was add pasta to his soups and stuff since he likes more "substance" than broth. I would just eat regular soup, he added an extra serving of pasta to his. I finally got him to start eating guacamole too, which is another source.

I guess I'll look into what people have said - just cooking a little more of the same food and letting him eat his fill, but avoiding the second helping myself.

I think the WORST part is when he decides he wants ice cream or fudge brownies or chocolate chip cookies. I have the HARDEST time saying no in times like that. Lately, i've fallen in love with TCBY's fro-yo (the White Chocolate Mousse flavor is to die for, and 98% fat free!). I keep trying to talk him into it, but he always wants some gargantuan concoction from ColdStone! Oh, marriage and the art of compromise!

do not bring it into the house! go there, have one serving of whatever you want, count it, and be done! that would be the death of me. i could not control myself. i eat the skinny cow ice cream sandwiches, and we have some ww desserts or I make jello. but he has to understand that you need to be able to control what comes in the house at least in the beginning. I thought I had things under control myself. we bought some fudge a couple weekends ago, who ate most of it? me!

Does he have a fridge nearby his "work" lunches, or is he in the field? I'm thinking if he sticks an 1100 calorie protein shake into the middle of his day, maybe he won't be quite as hungry at night? If there's no fridge, make the smoothie the night before, put it in a shaker bottle, freeze it and it'll thaw by lunch (might need an insulated bag... he'd have to play with timing).

And instead of peanut butter, you could use nutella, or they make flavored peanut butters. Or just add a little more protein powder + some whole honey to sweeten it a bit. Or try almond or cashew butter.

If you can get him to eat 3/4-7/8 of an avocado in his soup to thicken it up, you can keep the other portion as a topper for a side salad for you. Add frozen garlic bread to his meals to up his calories and give him something that feels filling. That way there's not a lot of prep time for you... just stick it in the over or toaster oven while you're making the main portions.

Sides like potatoes, pasta and rice mixes (think Uncle Ben's, Rice-a-Roni, etc) also sound like a good option that would be quick and relatively easy to add. Also, if he doesn't object to left overs, you could just make a big batch of mashed potatoes or rice at the beginning of the week and he could have it as a side all week long.

Baked sweet potatoes are good too... my boyfriend eats a whole one with butter, cinnamon and sugar and I eat half of one with just the tiniest sliver of butter + salt and pepper, then take the other half for lunch the next day. You can bake a bunch of those ahead of time too. Or... throw them on the grill and you've got an hour or so to get the rest of dinner ready. If it doesn't take that long, sit down and relax for a few, then start cooking!

Hope that helps :-)
Good luck to both of you!
Jen

I feel your pain. My husband is tall and thin and I am short and well...not thin. It is so hard to stuff his face and not mine. I eat smaller portions of whatevewr is made for dinner. I have found that I can still lose weight if I keep everything in moderation.

My husband eats a lot more than me, but not 3 times in one sitting as much, so I can see why that would be a tough one for you!

I usually cook the same thing for dinner for us, but I give him a bigger helping of whatever meat I use. I will usually throw something high cal into his and not mine, like cheese or whatever is appropriate for the dish.
He usually get something breadish, garlic toast, a roll or crusty bread and also eats dessert and I don't, that's a big one.
Dessert doesn't have to be 'bad' either. I mix up peanut butter and Greek yoghurt with some honey and put it in a chocolate cookie crust then freeze it pre-sliced. Its higher cal and easy for him to grab.

He does a really high cal/high protein smoothie for breakfast after his workout and has a protein shake on his break at work. Then a sandwich and fruit for lunch, or a frozen pizza, or something else higher carb/calorie.

His job is very physically demanding and he does a heavy duty work out or run every morning, so he needs a lot more than I do!