In you opinion, can men and woman every be JUST friends

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  • kayleesays
    kayleesays Posts: 564 Member
    Pretty much all of my friends are male, and believe me, I definitely have no plans to ever be with any of them.
  • LButterfly201
    LButterfly201 Posts: 164
    Friends, sure.

    Best friends? Something more to it..


    ^^ got to agree on this one
  • krystina_letitia9
    krystina_letitia9 Posts: 697 Member
    Ughhh. I used to think so. Then one of my *best* male friends wanted more. This also happened with another guy friend. Then another guy friend tried to kiss me. Yowch. I'm still friends with all of them, but not close like we used to be. That being said, when I met my husband 5 years ago, we became best friends and are still best friends :heart:
  • DeckerDoll
    DeckerDoll Posts: 201
    Of course. As long as he doesn't try to steal my husband.
  • krystina_letitia9
    krystina_letitia9 Posts: 697 Member
    Pretty much all of my friends are male, and believe me, I definitely have no plans to ever be with any of them.

    So lucky.
  • mariapuhl
    mariapuhl Posts: 529 Member
    Yep, 100%.

    Personally, my best friend is a gay man... and then my other main group are mostly gay men and a few straight ones.

    I hate girls... I can think of one female friend I have. Haha.

    But yes, they can obviously be friends, especially in the one person being gay case - since that gets rid of the romantic possibility.

    But OP, your case, it sounds like he wants you.
  • shaybethxo
    shaybethxo Posts: 153 Member
    yes, they can. but in my experience one person will develop feelings the other can't reciprocate, generally speaking. not in all cases, but in mine. :)
  • lickmybaconcakes
    lickmybaconcakes Posts: 1,063 Member
    Yes in some cases but if the physical attraction is what made one them friends with the other in the first place I don't think that's going to work out that well.

    im not physical attracted to him nessisarily... we became friends because i used to copy his chem homework haha. but idk what he thinks about me

    Well if his feelings tend more toward that direction then probably not.
  • Taylerr88
    Taylerr88 Posts: 320 Member
    unless gay.. or the "woman" is quote on quote ugly... NO chance
  • bumbledust
    bumbledust Posts: 22
    It's completely possible to be friends -- even close friends -- with a member of the gender you are attracted to. Sometimes this type of friendship happens after flirting, or after a relationship (or relationship attempt). Sometimes it just happens on its own. Adult relationships are very complex webs, but not all of them have to include a sexual element.
  • sherrybaby81
    sherrybaby81 Posts: 257 Member
    Why not? One of my best friends was a guy. We dated in college (met in grade 7), realized we were not meant to be a couple, and wound up becoming very friends again. I met my husband through him, and they got along great! My husband had no problems with me being alone with him (as long as he knew about it, I would never hide that).

    My friend passed away in 2008 and I miss him terribly. :( I am so happy that we were able to become great friends again.
  • frootcat
    frootcat Posts: 194 Member
    Of course. As long as he doesn't try to steal my husband.
    Hehe. No longer married, but that's about my thought on it as well.
  • jaimrlx
    jaimrlx Posts: 426 Member
    My roommate is male, we were childhood friends and have been for 12 years now. I have a boyfriend, roommate is now single. Our relationship is 100% platonic, we're more like brother and sister so anything more just wouldn't make sense to us. We've never had any sort of romantic encounter, nor a crush on the other. He's been with me through all of my relationships as I've been there through his. We game together, drink together, see movies.. just like my female friends and I. Honestly, there is no difference. I'm not sure if my friendship isn't the norm but I hate the stigma. Friends are friends, regardless of whether they are 'best friends' or not. I don't put a gender label on it, and that's probably why my friendship has worked out so well.
  • JulieH3art
    JulieH3art Posts: 293 Member
    That video someone posted was really brilliant :)
  • XXXMinnieXXX
    XXXMinnieXXX Posts: 3,459 Member
    This sounds soooo big headed, and I'm really not! Every guy I've been best friends with has decided to fall head over heels in love with me. I haven't felt the same way and its ruined the friendship. Its sad because I really get along with guys, but from my experience I've learnt I can't just be friends with them. My partners friends are very much his friends, because I'd hate to encourage anything. Male friends has just never worked out for me! Wish it would x
  • jandk09
    jandk09 Posts: 99 Member
    in my opinion not if there was ever any chemistry or attraction
  • bluefox9er
    bluefox9er Posts: 2,917 Member
    it's all about boundaries,and people usually have differing idea about how to define them.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    yes.....forever? probably not....I believe that the friendship more likely involves attraction on one side and not the other......\m/
  • FitSuga
    FitSuga Posts: 259 Member
    Of course! I get along with men way better than women. Based on interest etc. always been that way. It's not a big deal. :-) I'm married now, but even before when I was single i had guy friends. Some yes, just want something more but you can usually tell.
  • tashaa1992
    tashaa1992 Posts: 658 Member
    I think men and women can just be friends. Most of my best friends are guys because I generally get on better with guys, most girls just don't really like me for some reason. One of my oldest friends is a guy and we have never been romantically involved, we don't see each other like that so yeah I believe it can happen:).
  • epoeraven
    epoeraven Posts: 458 Member
    "A woman has a close male friend. This means that he is probably interested in her, which is why he hangs around so much. She sees him strictly as a friend. This always starts out with, you're a great guy, but I don't like you in that way. This is roughly the equivalent for the guy of going to a job interview and the company saying, You have a great resume, you have all the qualifications we are looking for, but we're not going to hire you. We will, however, use your resume as the basis for comparison for all other applicants. But, we're going to hire somebody who is far less qualified and is probably an alcoholic. And if he doesn't work out, we'll hire somebody else, but still not you. In fact, we will never hire you. But we will call you from time to time to complain about the person that we hired."

    Very well said.....
  • JulieH3art
    JulieH3art Posts: 293 Member
    This may cause some anger but, is it possible that when a woman says she "gets along so great with guys" or she "really gets along with guys" and that she doesn't like girls, what she REALLY means is...

    That she loves the attention?

    Just a thought.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I've had several guys who were really and truly just my friends.

    (For the record, I also have plenty of very close female friends, so I'm not one of those women who hates other women.)
  • tmarie2715
    tmarie2715 Posts: 1,111 Member
    This may cause some anger but, is it possible that when a woman says she "gets along so great with guys" or she "really gets along with guys" and that she doesn't like girls, what she REALLY means is...

    That she loves the attention?

    Just a thought.

    I also love the responses that went along the lines of "oh, woe is me that I am cursed with such beauty all my male friends want to bone me."

    Thanks for sharing.

    I guess it is possible, but there are a lot of variables, as have been suggested by other posters. Are the friends single? Do they have a romantic history? Do they put themselves in "bad" situations (involving liquor, sharing grievances about partners, under stress or whatever other cheating reasons there are out there)...
  • george29223
    george29223 Posts: 556 Member
    yeah i made a move on my friend very akward then she handed me a box of twinkies i then went nom nom nom nom and didnt worry about it again.....but now iam on a diet cant eat twinkies so iam back at wanting to nom nom nom nom her
  • shamr0ck
    shamr0ck Posts: 296 Member
    Absolutely.

    But you might have to bonk *once* just to get it out of the way. :P

    Seriously, i have several male friends that have been my buddy for 20 years or more, and we're fine.
  • foodfight247
    foodfight247 Posts: 767 Member
    Yes they can - I have a few male friends I've known since school.

    There was once a male friend of mine that I actually fell for...and stupidly told him. Let's just say it ruined our friendship. He was upset I ever mentioned it and confided in another friend that he thought it was nice to have had a female friend he'd been do close to without the ties....I will forever regret that night. :-(

    Otherwise, I certainly think you can. I also think you can look at male friends in a different light at different stages/circumstances of your life.

    Sometimes male/female friendships are just as hard work as "couple" relationships.....or it seemed like that to me in previous years.
  • ChrisStoney
    ChrisStoney Posts: 479 Member
    yes they can for sure... I don't know if having been intimate in the past helps or hurts the friendship though, LOL

    for me it is a different kind of friendship than one's that I have with a male...
  • sa11yjane
    sa11yjane Posts: 491 Member
    I do believe that it is possible to be 'just friends' with someone of the opposite sex. Of course sometimes it might actually be something more, but other times why can't you just have a brother/sister or friend relationship? However, maybe imagine how you would feel if he got a serious girlfriend, would you maybe wish that that was you, would you maybe be jealous? I guess that only you know deep down how you really feel about this man.....x.
  • vade43113
    vade43113 Posts: 836 Member
    I am friends with .... last count... 20 women... it could be more.... I am not attracted to any of them. Never dated one of them ether...

    I feel bad that they can remember my name all the time, and I have trouble remembering theirs, if we haven't spoken in a few months...
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