Have a Question and need to vent

It's not easy, I know. My husband, while he eats pretty healthily, has never had a weight problem, so he's always up for dessert. It's been hard to let him eat it alone But I'm working on it.

Also, if you cook, the magazine (or website) Cooking Light has great recipes that taste great. Tweaks to classics, some easy meals, etc. I've had some meals from there become standards.

I agree with most eveyone on her you can do it! However you have to be ready to make the change for yourself. My family are very picky eaters and my husband has to eat 3 peanut butter sandwiches a day on top of regular meals just to keep weight on!!! (OMG what a problem to have - right?) But it doesn't sound like your family and extended family are giving you much support wich is critical with your journey. You can't remove all the "bad food" from the house but you CAN add "good food" choices. My hardest part of the day is between 3pm - 6pm bc the kids come home from school and they are munching and we are somewhat idol (either waiting to go to a practice or to early to start dinner) so I find myself craving all the high cal foods like the kids. Thats when I turn to a 90cal bar like Fiber One bc it has all the "junk" food cravings covered and its only 90cal. If I drink lots of water between bites it deff fills me up and I can make it till dinner. Now for the meals..... make the same for you and them but try to make your healither by leaving off the butter or pulling out your portion b4 adding high cal items. Like pull out a helping of pasta b4 you add the sauce and on yours add a low sodium no sugar sauce then you now have the same looking meal as the fam but yours is only about 170 cals. You get the point I'm sure but get the fam involved and they might just enjoy helping you reach your goal.

I feel like if you are the one cooking, they eat what you prepare or make their own. Your whole family would benefit from eating healthier, not just you. Personally, if I had someone cooking for me every night and I didn't have to do it, I wouldn't complain, regardless of what they made.

this is a hard spot to be in but you can do it :flowerforyou:
Make playing with your kids an option--if you have a Wii or Xbox get one of those dance games and make it a family thing, even teenagers like those games....get a workout DVD you may even be able to check one out at your local library (even the walking DVD's are good)...
Also sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your kids, let them know what you expect from them food wise and that you know its not easy with a lot of different meals/food around. Kids do understand--mine are 6 &8 and they help keep me on track and love to dance with me. Maynot be a workout dance--but dancing still keeps all of us moving and laughing..

Maybe suggest that you all take turns cooking that way some days you will have better choices for you

I wish I could eat anything I want without worry. It takes so much mental work to lose weight. I wish it was subconsious for me but its not. I struggle everyday, every meal, every snack with what I should and shouldnt put in my mouth. I worry if I will be over my caloric intake for the day. I try to plan my meals, but My family and I live with my parents and they WONT eat the things I need to eat. Not trying to make excusess but if I make something different my children want what they want to eat. And I am NOT making 3 different meals. Also I cannot eliminate the junk food thats in the house. (some people dont have to worry about their weight or just dont care) I have cut down on my protions and added healthier snack and eliminated alot of junk. But when I wanna eat that cookie I worry.

This leads me to a question. Can weight be lost with a little exercise and a slight change of diet? Until I can move out of my parents house I am afraid I will not loose the weight.

You can lose weight without much exercise but you have to change your diet. I understand the frustration of being in an environment in which you are surrounded by food you aren't supposed to eat. I would suggest doing something that may help shift the focus from food, like Intermittent Fasting (IF). You eat all the calories you're supposed to, but in a limited window.

That is hard cause to lose weight it is 70%Diet and 30%exercise. what I try to do is when no one is cooking go and pre make your meals that your going to have or want. I do my meals at times to last me 3 days, so I can just grab and go. But you can also try portion control where you don't eat as much.

This is kind of how I got started actually. I was an eater and by that I mean I was an EATER!! At first, I just lowered my cals enough for 1/2 lb per week which at my starting weight was PLENTY of food. You would thing anyway. I was still hungry! I started to move more just to earn more food to eat. This was my way for several weeks then just like magic....when I wasn't even thinking about it.... a shift started occurring. I started moving more and more even when I wasn't eating back the calories....the more I lost the easier it became to move..... even more magic..... my body kept adjusting to fewer and fewer calories until ...... some very magical days....... I had to give thought to how to get UP TO my calories for the day!!

My point.... just in my own experience..... it's not worth a total shock to your system.... it WILL REBEL! Take baby steps..... move a little..... lower you calories just a tad.....move a little more.... lower your calories some more.....

This is not a race......... First we just have to put the brakes on so we're not racing to an early grave....... then we creep along...or even limp through the side roads until we reach the road we are supposed to be on. Then before you know it, you have the cruise control on and you are rolling along at a pretty good clip. There will be obstacles in the road but as you go, you will learn to weave around those. Even when we take detours, there is a way back to the main road. I don't plan on crossing the finish line for a LOT of years!

Good luck in your journey!

It can be hard especially when you have children - I have two that are fussy eaters ( they have asd) and other two with food allergies. I still cook the same meals - just smaller portions and check what I'm putting it ( changing lean mince for extra lean) or in casseroles I'm using slightly less meat and more veggies.

Have a look at my food diary and you will see that we dont go without but in the last 3 weeks i have lost 11 pounds. Also my main exercise is walking - just 20 minutes extra a day can make such a difference.