What to do?

Can I be brutally honest? I don't want to offend you but I think you might need to hear it.

Okay, I'll be honest with you anyway. And make it less... brutal? Haha.

Anyway... After reading your entire post it looks like all you are doing is making excuses for yourself and your actions. "Well I was taught to always finish my food" "Im afraid of being hungry and binging". You should eat until you are no longer hungry. That is how you tell you are finished. You dont have to feel "full" or "stuffed". You also dont have to eat "4-5 meals a day". You stating that you are afraid of "being hungry" is ridiculous to me. If youre hungry and you have 300-400 calories for a meal go for it. You need to exercise self control and not eat the thousand calorie binge. People get hungry, they deal with it and make good choices. If you think even for a second that everyone here on MFP wouldn't LIKE to eat a 1000 calorie peice of cake or pie you're wrong!

We choose that eating said pie/cake/whateveritis is counter productive to our goals.


"I know another big problem i have is I don't exercise enough at all! That is all on me. It's just so boring. I would love to play basketball, tennis, volley ball but those are hard to play alone. I hate running, I can't roller skate because i just fall on my butt and rip up my clothes. I have a bike I want to start using but I need to get it fixed first, money is tight. Probably could save some if I ate less lol "

Here is the biggest joke ever. You dont work out because you don't want to. Plain and simple. You could go buy a basketball, do crunches, pushups, squats, lunges, a 5$ workout dvd if you want to. You don't want to do that.

I think what you need to do instead of looking for an appetite suppressant is some soul searching. Look at your goals. Reevaluate and see if this is something you really want to do. If you want to do it, Only you can decide to dedicate the hard work, effort, and time! You are the only person standing in the way of your success. You can absolutely change your lifestyle and get all of the results you want- but they aren't coming for free.

You will never suceed unless you have decided 100% that this is what you are going to do and you stick with it.

Best of luck!

You don't have to eat if you're not hungry, just because it's "time". Set your calorie goals properly and try to eat within reasonable limits. If you'll eat everything on your plate, put more on your plate. If you're hungry, reach for the healthier option. Drink lots of water. If this is a huge change, make smaller changes. It's easier to sustain small lifestyle changes than massive ones.

As for exercise. Do you like to swim? Do you enjoy nature? Go for a walk or a hike instead of running (I hate running too, but love to hike). There are lots of exercise videos and such available for free online - Youtube, bodyrock.tv etc.

You're not trying anywhere near hard enough and you're full of excuses. Bull**** excuses. Get up off your *kitten* and go for a walk for an hour. You will lap everyone still on the couch and you will never EVER regret doing a work out. You'll regret not working out though.
And stop blaming your parents for telling you to eat whats on your plate. You're big enough now to make your own decisions.


That's hardcore tough love there. BTW, all overweight people are full of bull**** excuses - that's how they got overweight. Especially me. I can bull**** with the best of them. If bull****ting was an Olympic sport I'd bring home all three medals... yadda yadda.

Stick around on here. Most people are more diplomatic than I am! :-)

(I'm not mean. Just kinda straightforward)

I am by no means an expert on dieting and fitness (although I have probably been at my perfect weight a hundred times

Here is what I try to do. I quit eating when I am no longer hungry. I don't wait until I'm full. I have only lost 25 lbs and that's only a third of what I need to lose, but it works for me.

As for exercise, I hate it, too, but it is really, really a necessary evil. Find something you can enjoy...nature walks, treadmill, water aerobics, just something that will get you moving. You might even find that you like it after a while!!!

Good luck. This is such an excellent forum to get advice and motivation from others; stick with it and you will be so proud of yourself!!!!

I too have bad habits from childhood that I have reinforced over the years. I still don't know how to listen to my body but it is changing after doing this for a while. Set reasonable goals, no starving yourself. Serve yourself serving sizes (measure everything) and get enough protein (1gm per kg of weight). Have snacks and don't deprive yourself. Stop thinking of this as a diet. Nothing is off limits, just work it in.

As for exercise, try walking. You will be surprised at how effective it is. Also thrift stores sell bikes dirt cheap.

What rainbowbow said!

Just tell the voice in your head to shut up, move away from the kitchen, open your front door and take a walk instead of eating. Walking's free, it's good for you and it clears your head. Even if you don't go very far, at least you've done SOMETHING and have left the fridge door closed. Keep in mind that no one is telling you to clean your plate now. And no one ever told you you had to put 1,000 calories on that plate to begin with.

Every little success (like taking a walk instead of eating that pie), leads to a bigger success. Stop getting in your own way -- you can do it!

No more excuses! :-)

Take a smaller plate of food, then when you finish it you didn't over eat.