Living with people who don't care about their health?
So i currently live with my parents in WA while my husband is deployed and my mother who at one point, lost 70lbs, now had gained it back and more and now her and my dad eat crap all the time. Yesterday my dad brought home a PLATTER of cookies, not a box or package, and platter, as if we were having a party. My mother now eats all kinds of things where i stop and think "goodness! Do you have a clue whats in that??". Of course im sure she knows. I guess its just hard for me because i can by all the healthy/great food i want, but there is still those things that they eat and buy and they are just staring at me... saying EAT ME! Im about to throw away that whole platter of cookies or put them in the garage. They are driving me nuts! Anyone else have a similar issue?
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my wife loves cookies and chocolate and there is always something in the cupboards. I can ask her not to buy them (to eliminate the temptation), but they keep showing up. Guess I just need to keep the will power and not look in the cupboards.0
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Yeah true, but when i saw that platter of cookies, i was about to snap. I just wanted to throw them out the door, lol. Sweets are my weakness, as you can tell
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::raises hand:: My fiancee eats anything and everything. He's not in the greatest health but he's skinny as hell so thinks he can just eat whatever he wants and have it be ok. I worry about his health! So i eat pineapple and he eats Oreos. :explode:0
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distraction distraction distraction!0
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Yeah. I live with my grandparents so every night it's red meat or some frozen dinner. A lot of fried foods. A lot of sodium & over processed junk.
I try to buy my own healthier foods, but it's hard to afford that when you're working a part time job trying to save up for college. :grumble:0 -
Every time I read a post about the troubles of trying to stay strong while living with other people I am SO glad I live alone!
It is not easy but it is easier for sure!
Unfortunately since you are living in their house, that is the way it is going to be and you'll have to be the strong one. Think of all the ugly clothes you'd have to buy if you gained weight. And think of how you'd still TRY to fit into the currently clothes and how bad you'd look like a stuffed sausage if you ate those cookies.
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oh em gee u described my family exactly!! my mom dad and fiance all eat crap! im trying so hard to stay in control!0
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My boyfriend is of the the type who can "eat whatever they want and not gain an ounce." So, he always buys frozen pizzas, icecream, cookies, CRAP. It makes me sad because I want him to be healthy, but I can't force him to. So I just buy my own food, and hope that one day he'll catch on to some of my healthy habits.
It's kinda funny when we check out at the grocery store...half the cart is full of health food, fresh vegetables, chicken, almonds, etc....the other is pop, pizza, cookies and garbage. LOL
It has definitely been a huge test of my "willpower" seeing all my favorite junk foods out in the open at home. I occasionally indulge, sometimes too much, but overall I've adjusted. I just think how important it is to me to be healthy and to have the body I've always wanted, to feel good about myself, and usually I'm able to overcome the temptation.
Good luck!! It's definitely not easy!!0 -
If you could get rid of the cookie platter without them getting pissed off, DO IT. Other than that you'll need to come to an agreement that if they are going to eat garbage than at least keep it NOT in a common area where its visible. Because that's just not fair... that would be like having alcohol and drinking around of a recovering alcoholic!0
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My parents lost a stone each on Slimming world, but have gained it back and still use the excuse that they lost weight. whenever I suggest helping them, or alternatives etc my step dad gets sore, and my mum says 'when im read' which she has been saying for years!
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Over eaters are similar to smokers, they don't care until they've got one foot in the grave, if they're lucky they can pull that foot out.0
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Oh, I couldn't do it. My dad is exactly this way. I would have thrown it out if it were me.0
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My husband doesn't care about his health. He is 360lbs and won't do anything about it no matter how much I ask him to. I know he has to want to do it for himself, but I just don't want him dropping dead from a heart attack. It's sad, scary, and frustrating. I'm hoping seeing me doing it will make him want to, as well.0
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You said that you are living with them so trying to keep to your goals and your own mindset is a challenge but can be done. Perhaps when they see how well you look they will take notice and be more attentive to what they are bringing home. Keep your focus and take care of yourself while your husband is away and everything else will fall into place :flowerforyou:0
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I too live in WA state with my parents and believe me...I know EXACTLY how u feel. If I dont go out and get the good food myself, then it doesnt exist. They are always buying chips, cookies, cakes and tons of other fattening foods. I sit there and watch what they put on their plates like...OMG....are u really going to eat all that? Its unbelievable! Willpower is about the only thing I got...and thats on my good days!!! Makes its hard for me sometimes but I know Im not going to hit my goal if I give in to half of what they eat.0
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With me it's more upsetting as I have a completely different diet to my parents, I'm a vegetarian. My dad has really high blood pressure and was told to lose weight, he managed this by skipping lunch. His daily diet is; Half a grapefruit for breakfast, maybe some snacking throughout the day, not more than a 200 calories then he doesn't have his evening meal until around 6-8 Which is usually chips or roast potatoes and a portion of red meat about 4 times a normal serving size. He starts drinking alcohol at about 3 in the afternoon. He doesn't get blind drunk but really with his problems he should be avoiding alcohol, red & processed meats, and salt, all things that seem to make the most of his diet. I just wish he had a healthier well rounded diet and ate more fish and poultry, less processed and red meats, cut down on drinking because at the moment it's everyday. My mum is better but she's not great even she thinks dad is a bit bonkers with his eating, we joked the other day that he had cut everything healthy of out of the diet and is eating everything he shouldn't.
For him he did what the doctor said but I just worry, he's 65.0 -
When my husband is lifting weights he eats about 3000 calories a day. It's tough to do when the majority of what we have in the house is fresh fruits and vegetables. (I'm having to eat that much right now because I'm breastfeeding and I never come close.) so he likes to have a lot of convenience foods in the house. At first, it was hard for me because I like that stuff too. But, being healthier and losing weight is more important to me. I love all the fresh foods we eat and I feel great after eating them. I don't feel great after eating frozen burritos. So it's not that difficult any more.
Sweets have been a bigger challenge and right now I'm glad that I need to much extra sugar in my diet. But, when I'm losing and I'm avoiding refined sugar I find that I don't want it, even if it's around. Like right now, we have super delicious chocolate cake with peanut butter filling and cream cheese frosting, strawberry cupcakes with kiwi frosting, and coconut cupcakes with lime frosting all in the refrigerator. They're leftovers from recent parties. No one, including me, is eating them. They're amazing, but I just don't want them. I broke my sugar addiction last year and now I'm able to have sweets in the house without devouring them.0 -
I'm the only one in my house that isn't overweight. All my family eats is crap.
The f'd up thing is they eat their crap food and snack all the time, and when their food inevitably runs out they sneak little bits of MY food, with no intention of replacing it.
Not only am I on a tight budget, but I only get paid once a month so the food I buy has to last the whole month, so when they eat mine as well as theirs, it makes me have to miss complete meals near the end of the month.
They don't touch my food with a ten foot pole ("ew, health food!" they say), but suddenly when they're hungry and they've eaten all of their crap, that "nasty healthy food" is gone in an instant. Ugh.0 -
I've been encouraging my mom to eat healthier in order to lose weight so she will have less pain in her knees. Last week I saw her eat (no joke) a butter and peanut butter sandwich.
WTF?!
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Sooo glad my husband is on board with a healthy lifestyle. I feel for you guys - that would be such a challenge to be living with someone who doesn't share your healthy values...Just keep modeling good habits and maybe some of it will rub off! :smooched:0
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I live with my grandfather and aunt, while wait until I can move to France (to be with my fiancé).
Not one family member cares about my health even after my heart attack. I have just learned to take care of myself .. and not worry about others that don't care about theirs.
For my birthday, I watch the whole family eat cake and pizza while I make my own meal.0 -
my kids and my husband eat all kinds of crap. What I did was I made a list of all the healthy foods that I love, sure I love alot of unhealthy foods but I want to concentrate on eating healthy. I have one section of the cupboard that is for my snacks and when I want something I go to my section I dont look at their junk. It is hard at first but it becomes easier.....0
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my kids and my husband eat all kinds of crap. What I did was I made a list of all the healthy foods that I love, sure I love alot of unhealthy foods but I want to concentrate on eating healthy. I have one section of the cupboard that is for my snacks and when I want something I go to my section I dont look at their junk. It is hard at first but it becomes easier.....
You let your kids "eat all kinds of crap" while you know how important it is to eat healthy foods?0 -
my kids and my husband eat all kinds of crap. What I did was I made a list of all the healthy foods that I love, sure I love alot of unhealthy foods but I want to concentrate on eating healthy. I have one section of the cupboard that is for my snacks and when I want something I go to my section I dont look at their junk. It is hard at first but it becomes easier.....
You let your kids "eat all kinds of crap" while you know how important it is to eat healthy foods?
As a mother i try my best to make sure my daughter eats as healthy as possible, but even more so, now that we are here, her grand parents are giving her all kinds of ****. I give her a good balance of good and bad. Sure she has chicken nuggets, but i make sure she has it with a fruit or steamed veggie, snack is almost always a banana or greek yogurt. She was under weight so i tried my best to let her eat whatever she will eat, but now that she's back on track, if im making a lifestyle change, so is she 0 -
Like living with someone with addiction problem :-( Sadder still because I care about hubby and would like him to be healthier and not suffer health issues that are probably related to food choices. Frustrating!0
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I've been encouraging my mom to eat healthier in order to lose weight so she will have less pain in her knees. Last week I saw her eat (no joke) a butter and peanut butter sandwich.
WTF?!
/I feel your pain
OMG! I died laughing when i read this...lol. love it. My mom had half a block of cream cheese covered in pepper jelly, eating with it with crackers. I just kept looking like "is that really half a block of cream cheese??" Yesterday she was eating ruffles by the handful, dipping them in ketchup (ketchup is not a dip!!!!) Also, she does quite a bit of gardening, which is great, but since she uses the riding lawn mower to get from point a to point b, shes getting 1/4th of the exercise she could be getting!!0 -
If you could get rid of the cookie platter without them getting pissed off, DO IT. Other than that you'll need to come to an agreement that if they are going to eat garbage than at least keep it NOT in a common area where its visible. Because that's just not fair... that would be like having alcohol and drinking around of a recovering alcoholic!
It's their house and they shouldn't have to hide their own food. It's great that she is trying to eat healthier but that doesn't mean her parents have to. At my house I decided to eat better, not my husband. I can't expect him to not put his food in the kitchen anymore than he can expect that from me.0 -
If you could get rid of the cookie platter without them getting pissed off, DO IT. Other than that you'll need to come to an agreement that if they are going to eat garbage than at least keep it NOT in a common area where its visible. Because that's just not fair... that would be like having alcohol and drinking around of a recovering alcoholic!
It's their house and they shouldn't have to hide their own food. It's great that she is trying to eat healthier but that doesn't mean her parents have to. At my house I decided to eat better, not my husband. I can't expect him to not put his food in the kitchen anymore than he can expect that from me.
This is true, which is why i just got a large ziplock and put all the cookies in there and away in a cabinet where i can see them (as often)0 -
If you could get rid of the cookie platter without them getting pissed off, DO IT. Other than that you'll need to come to an agreement that if they are going to eat garbage than at least keep it NOT in a common area where its visible. Because that's just not fair... that would be like having alcohol and drinking around of a recovering alcoholic!
It's their house and they shouldn't have to hide their own food. It's great that she is trying to eat healthier but that doesn't mean her parents have to. At my house I decided to eat better, not my husband. I can't expect him to not put his food in the kitchen anymore than he can expect that from me.
This is true, which is why i just got a large ziplock and put all the cookies in there and away in a cabinet where i can see them (as often)
That's a good idea! It does get easier. though. I hardly notice his food anymore and he'll sometimes eat what I make myself for dinner now.0 -
My mother lives with me and my two teenage daughters( 19 & 15 ) and it’s a 24/7 struggle with food & weight in our house. My mama is from the deep south Louisiana so healthy is not is her vocabulary at all !! God bless her heart and she does most of the cooking When I do try to cooking something healthy everyone turns their nose up at it and she will fried then up something on the side so they can have a real dinner uggg. She is baked 3 sweet potato pies for my nieces school and they only need 2 so she ate the WHOLE pie LOL.
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