Does anyone else have a sassy mouth?
I have a 14 yr old daughter whose moth is out of control! She is the only child and it seems that taking away cell phones, punishments are not working! I love my child but there are times I really dont like her as a person I know thats terrible to say but if u met her you would see why! Everything I say she has to say somthing back, talking under her breath, rolling her eyes the list goes on, i know everyone keeps telling thats a teenage girl for you! But to me thats no excuse if my grarnadparents or parents were still alive her teeth would be down her throat they were old school! I'm at my wits end does anyone out there have this prob if so what do you DO?
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My daughter just turned 7 and has such a mouth I shutter to think what she may be like at 14yrs
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Out of control moth is the last thing you want.
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no but I was a teenager with a sassy mouth lol,I use to fight and argue with my mom all the time, we didnt see eye to eye on anything and one day she sat me down and asked me about my life outside of the home, these underlying issues made me realize why I was so angry at anyone and everyone that tried to talk to me! My mom is wonderful and we are best friends now0
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LOL @ Picola. Love it.
I don't have kids, so don't have any experience to share with the OP, but I used to be just like your daughter. I still have a sassy mouth, but I did lose some of the attitude as I got older. Couldn't even tell you how or when, but she will grow out of it eventually. Maybe there's something she's upset about that she needs to talk to someone about? I know a lot of my sass came from being angry at my situation (at that age).
Good luck to you though!0 -
Out of control moth is the last thing you want.
omg... hahahaha.0 -
My daughter is about to be 8, and she is pretty mouthy. We have tried many things to get her to stop being not only mouthy but whiny and etc. So we will take things away from her like you have stated you have, and we have even spanked her butt. My friend told me to give her the silent treatment but I'm not sure this will work in your case. Maybe try sitting down and talking to her like another person had said or maybe she needs to see a counselor or therapist. I'm at my wits end sometimes that I may be about to do the same thing because I can never get anything out of her. I don't understand her logic.
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Out of control moth is the last thing you want.
WIN.
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I have a potty mouth. Apparently. :bigsmile:0
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My 15 year old stepson does at times... and my 7 year old daughter does at times...lol0
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I have a 14yr boy who mouths sometimes..its that age...I shut him down quickly though lol..They're just trying to push the boundaries..not in my house.0
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I teach 12-14 year olds every day and this seems pretty typical to me. If they talk that way to me (and they do) I'm certain they're worse with their parents. I remember the things I said to my mom at that age and I cringe. But my mom DID slap my face a few times for it! Deservedly so, in my opinion.
I know it doesn't help you to hear "it's just how teenagers are" but...it's just how teenagers are. Unfortunately. :ohwell:0 -
Out of control moth is the last thing you want.
Holy crap ahahahah0 -
I have a 17 year old son with this issue. No one really hears it but me though...0
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I teach 12-14 year olds every day and this seems pretty typical to me. If they talk that way to me (and they do) I'm certain they're worse with their parents. I remember the things I said to my mom at that age and I cringe. But my mom DID slap my face a few times for it! Deservedly so, in my opinion.
I know it doesn't help you to hear "it's just how teenagers are" but...it's just how teenagers are. Unfortunately. :ohwell:
My daughter has made mouthy comments to me.
Twice.
That was the resolution.
And understand...my daughter and I love each other dearly...for over 13 of her 14yrs, I've been her only parent. That fact...combined with the abrupt shock of my immediate and unflinching response to her attempts at serious attitude, ended it.0 -
I'm a sassy mouth. Really badly. My parents used to just slap me in the mouth when I sassed them. I still, to this day, do not sass back to my parents. My parents didn't take me disrespecting them, and now I could never imagine blatantly being disrespectful/****ty to them. Ever.0
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My 12yo is the same way...her favorite phrase is "LeeMeeeLone!" or Leave me alone in regular speak...ugh!
I make her write bible verses about respecting your elders....and we have long talks about it afterwards. I wan't her to understand WHY her methods of rebelling are not working and what she can do to express herself in a more positive way.
She usually apologizes and this works for a few days (or hours) then Repeat the above!0 -
I'm a sassy mouth. Really badly. My parents used to just slap me in the mouth when I sassed them. I still, to this day, do not sass back to my parents. My parents didn't take me disrespecting them, and now I could never imagine blatantly being disrespectful/****ty to them. Ever.
See, it works lol.0 -
I teach 12-14 year olds every day and this seems pretty typical to me. If they talk that way to me (and they do) I'm certain they're worse with their parents. I remember the things I said to my mom at that age and I cringe. But my mom DID slap my face a few times for it! Deservedly so, in my opinion.
I know it doesn't help you to hear "it's just how teenagers are" but...it's just how teenagers are. Unfortunately. :ohwell:
My daughter has made mouthy comments to me.
Twice.
That was the resolution.
And understand...my daughter and I love each other dearly...for over 13 of her 14yrs, I've been her only parent. That fact...combined with the abrupt shock of my immediate and unflinching response to her attempts at serious attitude, ended it.
My granny would use the back of a comb and smack me upside the head if I sassed her (not too hard, but effective.) Southern women don't play. :laugh:0 -
^ agree with this southern women dont play but add to that my family is west indian, so sassy mouthed beatdowns were EPIC
i also have a sassy mouth. i was hit numerous times with whatever was handy... a wooden spoon my mom was stirring tea with, a house shoe, a flip flip, a hair brush, etc. eventually it got so bad i got the switch
if you've never had to endure that type of torture consider yourself lucky. needless to say, i'm stubborn but i eventually learned to keep my grumbles to myself after the switching.
oh and in my family, sass mouthing included ee rolling, side eyeing, foot stomping and door slamming0 -
It is not because "it's how the teenagers acts" that you should just give in....
Patience, it will pass hopefully but she needs to still know where the limits are even if she rolls her eyes.... just let her roll the eyes and you be the parent.... hold your ground, they are testing any weakness....
You should wonder how she is around other parents....0 -
Out of control moth is the last thing you want.
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That is how I was raised too.... I end up fine
However let the record show that I do not advocate child abuse and that the line between a slap and a beating is thin....I'm a sassy mouth. Really badly. My parents used to just slap me in the mouth when I sassed them. I still, to this day, do not sass back to my parents. My parents didn't take me disrespecting them, and now I could never imagine blatantly being disrespectful/****ty to them. Ever.
See, it works lol.0 -
I notice a lot of parents merely 'nag' their kids with empty threats of punishment, or poorly timed punishment.
Like Cris said, immediate, swift, just consequences are only part of the solution for respect from children. Too many parents want to be their kid's buddies.
OP - I hope you find an solution for you child.0 -
Maybe there is something goin on in her personal life and having an attitude is her way of flagging that out. You should sit down with her0
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I used to be a sassy mouth for a while, as a kid. My mama made me literally pull down my pants and whooped my *kitten* with a thick wooden stick thingy, then put me in the corner, and also had to go through counselling. Now, today, I'm very polite/well-mannered and have an amazing relationship with her!0
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I remember smarting off to my mom..ONE TIME. I was 14. My mother use to punish us for smartin off, by taking the tip of our tongue..and PINCHING it. I know, horrible!!
I was never on the receiving end of this abuse..I was the one who watched..and teased afterwards. One day, I was fighting with my older sister..and my mom decides to punish us both. She got my sister first...then she came at me..with those same two wet *kitten* fingers..had my sister's spit on em. I was like "I don't think so!".....and I stuck my tongue out and pinched it MYSELF!! As I turned to walk away..I mumbled "ole evil behind!" Under my breath.......she apparently heard. Because before I could take another step, I felt a thud upside the back of my head..and a "Swoosh" sound. I turned around just intime to see her flip flop fall from my head to the floor.
My daughter...now 13...apparently inherited my smart mouth. I don't throw shoes at her head tho.........I take away her phone, ipod, and computer. So much more efficient!!!0 -
I teach 12-14 year olds every day and this seems pretty typical to me. If they talk that way to me (and they do) I'm certain they're worse with their parents. I remember the things I said to my mom at that age and I cringe. But my mom DID slap my face a few times for it! Deservedly so, in my opinion.
I know it doesn't help you to hear "it's just how teenagers are" but...it's just how teenagers are. Unfortunately. :ohwell:
My daughter has made mouthy comments to me.
Twice.
That was the resolution.
And understand...my daughter and I love each other dearly...for over 13 of her 14yrs, I've been her only parent. That fact...combined with the abrupt shock of my immediate and unflinching response to her attempts at serious attitude, ended it.
My granny would use the back of a comb and smack me upside the head if I sassed her (not too hard, but effective.) Southern women don't play. :laugh:
You know, I still stand by the fact that other than the one major difference in opinion we've had, we'd get along wonderfully lol.
Also, I'm surprised it hasn't happened yet...but I know it will. We're going to get a whole group of 'OMG you BEAT your children?!?!' people in here, and the post will be locked.0 -
I got beat with a belt when I deserved it and I'm a better person for it today.
A little well-placed discipline goes a long way.0 -
My 13 year old son has a potty mouth, his father told him he can curse as long as it's not in front of me or his Grandmother. I have a potty mouth, but I don't swear in front of my kids.0
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,Def sum great advice out here I like the fact you make her write the bible verses I just told my daugter we will be in church next Sunday becuz it's going to take JESUS to get us back on track!My 12yo is the same way...her favorite phrase is "LeeMeeeLone!" or Leave me alone in regular speak...ugh!
I make her write bible verses about respecting your elders....and we have long talks about it afterwards. I wan't her to understand WHY her methods of rebelling are not working and what she can do to express herself in a more positive way.
She usually apologizes and this works for a few days (or hours) then Repeat the above!0
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