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I always had an issue with "starting" diets until one day during work, our of the blue, I decided, I'm not eating THAT for lunch. Instead I grabbed a healthy lunch from the grocery store on break and stumbled upon this website during the same lunch break. Everyone here is amazing and supportive. I log everything I eat, good and bad, and seeing what I'm consuming really turned things around for me. Also, don't start on a Monday. That's the worst! Try a Wednesday like I did. You get started, feel good and carry it through the weekend. If you want cake have cake. Just remember portion sizes and health. But always log. It's truely and eye opener. Feel free to add me, I'm always dishing out support as without this site I'd be 18lbs heavier!0
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i say treat it like you are about to go into a freezing cold swimming pool. Don't dip your toes in to feel the temperature...dont walk in slowly..it just keeps your anxiety up. Just freakin' jump in the pool and get it over with! Once you are in, you will feel less anxiety and you will be glad you did it. Good luck!0
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I did the same thing, it as because I was putting pressure on myself, had a start day and told myself I had to lose x amount of weight by a certain day. Now I try to take it day by day. Its impossible for me to workout everyday with my schedule. Just try to be the best you can everyday, you can do it. And if you have a bad day no worries, the next day will be better!!0
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\Don't say you'll start "today". Tell yourself today that you will start after memorial day weekend. Then, you have time to mentally prepare, get rid of any junk, etc. I do this anytime I need to "restart" or get back on track.
I'll start next week.. no no, I'll start next month, wait, it'll be my 2013 New Years resolution.
Stop NOT starting, and be the change. Today.
Throw away your excuses0 -
If you can log all of your food then do so - simply because staring the cold facts in the face it may jolt you into doing something about it.
Also, baby steps!!! Try adding a 30 minutes walk in every day (or as often as you can). Try skipping the condiments at lunchtime/dinner and replacing non-water beverages with water.
Good luck to you!0 -
First of all, you have to WANT too....people make all the excuses not in the world not to - too much money for healthy food, not enough time, etc.
I have been overweight my whole life (I know I am only 28), but I was even overweight in highschool despite playing sports and being active. I literally woke up one day in Sept 2010, and I said to myself, Beth you need to do this not only for yourself but for your babies. You are the only parent they have left, and you need to be around a very long time for them. It didn't help that I saw 200 lb on the scale for the very first time (on a 5'3" frame - that isn't healthy). So, I took baby steps: For the first 5 months, I just focused on my diet. I would eat literally every 2-3 hrs. I didn't deprive myself of anything. If I wanted a candy bar, I would only eat half of it and save the other half for a different day. I also wouldn't allow myself to snack after I ate dinner (which was around 6:30). After I got my eating under control (and losing almost 25 lbs), I started incorperating exercise - I did 30-day shred, Turbojam, Ripped in 30, and go for walks with my babies. With being a single mom (at the time), I didn't have the money or time for a gym membership so I compromised. I would do my workout dvd either before my babies got up or after they went down. I got amazing results for those. Also a few months later, I started drinking more water - I hate plain water, so I add a flavor to it. I still have my diet soda like once a day. This past Feb, I joined a gym for the first time because they have a daycare for my babies to play.
Remember, it doesn't happen overnight. I took me over a year to get to where I am. You have to want it though. If you aren't ready, then you will never start. Willpower and determination is your friend during this process and for the rest of your life.0 -
\Don't say you'll start "today". Tell yourself today that you will start after memorial day weekend. Then, you have time to mentally prepare, get rid of any junk, etc. I do this anytime I need to "restart" or get back on track.
I'll start next week.. no no, I'll start next month, wait, it'll be my 2013 New Years resolution.
Stop NOT starting, and be the change. Today.
Throw away your excuses
^^this. you've run out of tomorrows.0 -
If someone told you they could guarantee you would get to the body you've always wanted and all you have to do is follow some instructions...
I was first in line!!! I am a few lbs away from my goal weight.
Read this book.
The Diet Docs'® Guide to Permanent Weight Loss: Secrets to Metabolic Transformation
Joe Klemczewski (Author), J. Scott Uloth (Author)
While i didn't read the book til recently, My trainer gave me the guidelines 11 months ago, which are the same as in the book. It takes dedication and will power but after the first month or two you feel like a pro. Amazing results.0 -
OP, I hope you read this...I will be blunt and to the point.
90% of your journey is mental. You know you want a healthier lifestyle. You know the choices before you. You already make the choice to do it. But that is NOT enough. You have to ACT upon the choice every day. Until you do, you will not succeed.
You have to WANT it - Define what it is you Want
You have to Visual it - How do you see yourself now versus what you WANT?
You have to REALIZE it - See the choices - Eat better, or eat like crap
You have to CHOOSE it - Make the choices that bring you to your goals
You have to ACT upon the choices - Until you take action to live healthier, you are only acting to not be.
When you do this...YOU WILL SUCCEED.0 -
You'll start when you actually want to. True Story.
If you don't want it, you won'd do it.
Just like if you don't want that cookie, you won't eat it. But if you do want that cookie, you will eat it.
If you won't start, then you might not have had that day yet where you wake up and know wha determination really is.
No one can convince you.
"Motivate yourself or be miserable. Either way, it's your choice."0 -
I know a lot of people are saying, "JUST DO IT!", but the reality is that there are so many steps to it that it can be daunting. My husband always remarks that I get into these fits where I'll say I'm going to eat this way, and workout that way, and do all kinds of stuff at once. Start with one thing and work your way to other things. It might not all come to you at once. The more you overload yourself with expectations (just like with ANYTHING in life, be it school, work, family, etc.), the more likely you are to want to give up or fail. Like some people said...baby steps. It's not all or nothing. Go at your own pace.0
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What do you want to do? What are your goals? Do you have any friends wanting to get fit too? I have eaten some tasty things while being on a diet and have lost weight not eating like i am on a diet. When i started my goals were to ruin faster, throw harder, jump higher, last longer, etc. looking better were the perks. I just wanted to be healthy .0
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I know a lot of people are saying, "JUST DO IT!", but the reality is that there are so many steps to it that it can be daunting. My husband always remarks that I get into these fits where I'll say I'm going to eat this way, and workout that way, and do all kinds of stuff at once. Start with one thing and work your way to other things. It might not all come to you at once. The more you overload yourself with expectations (just like with ANYTHING in life, be it school, work, family, etc.), the more likely you are to want to give up or fail. Like some people said...baby steps. It's not all or nothing. Go at your own pace.
1st- you are still cute. lol
now that thats out of the way and Ive embarrassed you.... when i say just do it, I'm not saying do the perfect diet and start deadlifting a billion pounds. I just mean, do SOMETHING. I got the impression from the 1st post that she isn't doing anything but mentally torturing herself. She should start doing one of her goals...even if it is a small goal, today.0 -
I agree with everyone that said start with logging everything. The good, bad and the ugly. Even if you are 3000 calories over. Log it. You can't fix what you can't see.0
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ok, tough love here. :smokin:
like lovely said, either you're IN, or you're OUT. i will ask one thing of you, LOG EVERYTHING!!!!! keep your diary closed, who cares. but if you do not log, you are only lying to YOURSELF!! MFP community can't make you log. the reason i say this, you will see how much you are putting down your throat. this was HUGE for me, and almost made me sick. i was taking in almost or over 3k per day and sitting at a desk all day long. this will get things into perspective for you.
you are not alone, this just didn't happen to "you", it's happened to thousands of us on here. make today, be the first day, of the rest of YOUR life......... :flowerforyou:0 -
Change takes effort. No one ever lost a pound wishing them away. They started doing something to change it.
Get motivated and get moving if you want your life to improve. The people telling you "Oh honey start another time, just work on thinking positive thoughts" aren't doing you any favors. It isn't easy. It takes hard work and determination. Every damn day. But you can do it! You just have to.. you know.. actually do it!0 -
Just like if you don't want that cookie, you won't eat it. But if you do want that cookie, you will eat it.
Nonsense. I want EVERY cookie but I somehow manage to not eat them.0 -
Wake up and choose yourself for once. It's liberating.0
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I used to do this all the time, make excuses to not work out, to eat like crap, etc. I just started reminding myself how disappointed in myself I felt when I gave in. It's the saying "You never regret the workout you did"0
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Don't say you'll start "today". Tell yourself today that you will start after memorial day weekend. Then, you have time to mentally prepare, get rid of any junk, etc. I do this anytime I need to "restart" or get back on track.
This really helped me- I did the same thing, set a date, got myself prepared by having GOOD food in the house, and stuck to my guns on the day! TELL OTHER PEOPLE that you SEE- face to face, like your family, to keep you on track. When they say, "hey Mom, did you start today?", you will want to be able to tell them yes!
Also- FIGURE OUT WHAT MOTIVATES YOU!!! Don't listen to the "be motivated or be miserable" crowd! Everyone has SOMETHING that motivates them....not just "You have to decide"! People decide for a reason! They want something! What do you want? What do you want in the next 3 months? A swim suit 3 sizes smaller? A weekend get-away at your favorite beach with your loved one, or your best friend? FIND THAT CARROT AND DANGLE IT!!!!0 -
I just want to say.......every morning when my alarm goes off I think "*kitten* it, I don't want to get up! I just want to sleep some more". Then, I think about the reasons I started this journey in the first place........1) my daughter and husband, 2) tired of feeling like *kitten*, 3) I wanna look and feel better, etc, etc. I don't know......maybe that's my "mantra" each morning - but WHATEVER it takes to get myself out of that bed and to the gym! Then, you know what? The next morning I fight the same battle! What I'm trying to say is........a lot of us (I'm not going to say ALL because I'll get hammered) fight the same battle you are fighting right now EVERY DAY too! The WANT has got to win over the DONT! Good luck girl!!0
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I understand, this is my 2nd week and I'm feeling like that. But one day at a time, I started the gym first and then logging my food. My problem is that I'm not eating enough and I know I have to eat. But working on doing better, you can do. Just do it!0
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Really? You would rather sit there and complain about wanting to get fit and healthy than actually getting off your bottom and doing something about it?
Life is not a spectator sport.
Don't talk about it; be about it.0 -
Really? You would rather sit there and complain about wanting to get fit and healthy than actually getting off your bottom and doing something about it?
Life is not a spectator sport.
Don't talk about it; be about it.
Sometimes I like to watch...0 -
Really? You would rather sit there and complain about wanting to get fit and healthy than actually getting off your bottom and doing something about it?
Life is not a spectator sport.
Don't talk about it; be about it.
Sometimes I like to watch...
Sometimes I like being watched.0 -
Really? You would rather sit there and complain about wanting to get fit and healthy than actually getting off your bottom and doing something about it?
Life is not a spectator sport.
Don't talk about it; be about it.
Sometimes I like to watch...
Sometimes I like being watched.
Party in my pants.0 -
setting a starting line implies there is a finish line.
Just do a little more than you did yesterday and eat a little less.0 -
zomg is your username downsizing hos?0
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zomg is your username downsizing hos?
lol DownsizingHoss. HOSS, not Hos! You can just call me Hoss LOL (stupid site cuttin off the name)0 -
I don't have a smart phone, so i know it is darn near impossible to log EVERYTHING you eat! I try to keep a tally of my calories (roughly) and put that in at the end of the day, or even the next day if you have to (you can edit previous days). Also, in terms of getting started, i had to actually write the entire day down, make SURE that i have time to work out, and clean one cabinet out and only put the food for that day in it. Yes, it is only one day, but once you do that for one day it is a ton easier to keep it up! Also, if you can, make the food before the day and have it ready to eat. This is not a science and there is no end all be all for getting started, anyway you do it is still really HARD! But you can do it! Best Wishes!
I have been logging my food since before there were smart phones and never had a problem logging everything. If you are using the lack of a smart phone as an excuse not to do this right, you don't really want it that badly.0
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