I'm so angry at myself!

Definitely celebrate the little victories along the way!!! If we didn't we'd all fail at this!

I'm an emotional eater too, but I'm trying to become an emotional work-out-er...ok, that's not really a word, but you get my point! Whenever I start to get really stressed or something, I pick up an extra class at the gym, or I allow myself to eat something small and track it!! I enjoy ice cream, it makes me happy, so I eat it! But I track the calories and am accountable for it.

You can do this! Just remember, it's a marathon, not a sprint!

Thank you ladies...I know that I can't lose the weight over night and sometimes that is encouraging, but sometimes it makes it worse to think about how long this is going to take! I have also tried to become an emotional work-out-er, that should be a new word. I have a huge problem with anxiety and usually I just eat and eat and eat during my panic attacks, which obviously doesn't help. Lately, I've been getting anxious and hop onto my elliptical and not only does it save me calories, but I actually feel it helping to RELIEVE the anxiety, unlike with eating where I just have to eat nonstop to feel any better.

You should not even think about how long this is going to take, because it should take a lifetime. It isn't a diet. It's a lifestyle change.

Tuzzies,

I have been in your shoes!! I was on the Depo shot also and gained a lot of weight. I am an emotional and boredom eater. My highest weight was 317 and that was a few years ago. I felt so angry because I let that happen to myself and I really did not see it happening. In 2010, I got down to 234 and I was so excited because I had not been that weight since like 2000. I ended a relationship and began eating as a coping mechanism and shot up to 267. I knew that I had lost the weight doing what I should be doing and I was furious that I let it happen, AGAIN! I am now back to 232 and I feel like I should have just done it all along instead of wasting the last 2 years of my life going back and forth.

I have become a work-out-er now. I find that when I want to eat a lot or I am feeling emotional, a nice walk helps me. I am getting fresh air, alone time, and the chance to talk to myself with no one to interrupt me. I can cry, laugh, sing, or just look like a crazy person talking to myself. I feel happier and healthy. I know that we can all feel this way too, if we support each other. I know you can do it and I would love to be your friend to see your journey.

Hey hun. I know it' hard not to do, but try not to beat yourself up. It doesn't fix anything. If anything, it generates negative emotion and energy that makes things even harder. Try to look more at the journey than the end destination. Take pride in and motivation from doing better today than you did yesterday. Make weekly goals and focus on working toward those. I know that if I think about my ideal weight (which is still 40 pounds away) I tend to get discouraged. But, if I look at my goal for the week (to break into the 230's), that is much more achievable - hard enough that I can take pride in it when I achieve it, but definately reachable.

Sorry if I'm rambling! I hope this helps somewhat!

You have to take it day by day. You also need to feel accomplished at the little things. Lose 1 pound thats still an accomplishment. You should be commended just by the fact that you are trying again to loose the weight.

Also, if you are looking for support and motivation feel free to add me as a friend

I know exactly what youre going through. I too am an emotional eater, and have been since I was about 12. Yoyo dieting has been the norm for me for a long time. Ill readily admit what Im about to say is easier said than done, but first I want you to know what you're feeling is normal. Its okay to be upset and disappointed that you have to work hard AGAIN to get weight off that you already had gotten off. However, whats not normal is blaming yourself for all of this. You didnt gain 100 lbs cramming donuts in your face because you didnt care about your health or well being, you were pregnant! You had a depo shot which also didnt help things. You do not deserve sole blame here, and I find that is what makes us feel so angry at ourselves. You have to spread the blame around to where its due. You can be angry at yourself, but also be understanding that this isnt all your fault. Its a lot of factors that lead up to this so try to understand its okay to feel angry and frustrated but don't direct it all at yourself. Direct it at the situation, this is not as much about your character as it seems.

I used to get so pissed when people told me to workout instead of eat when I was upset, but I finally let my stubborness go and it works. It will change your brain chemistry just like food will if you work out hard enough to get the endorphins working. Yoga is also great for anxiety. Itll take some getting used to though and youll slide back and then move forward but youll be able to get a handle on it if you believe in yourself and the process.

I know im rambling a bit here, but the point is give yourself a break even though this situation sucks Im sure you are still beautiful and just remember you are just working towards being a better you, the person you are right now is still great as well. If you think like that, the sense of urgency drops away. Youll get there when you get there because you're great right now and soon youll even be a healthier version of you. The weeks will pass and youll get to where you want to go. What also helps it setting rewards for every 5 to 10 lbs, like getting your nails or hair done in a special way or going to the spa.

Good luck with your efforts!

I've been there too. I had no issue with weight until my son, and then I found myself with a 2 year old weighing the same thing as the day I went in to deliver!

It was hard to celebrate the little victories at first, like .. "yeah, I lost 2 lbs, but I still weight 200 lbs" but I pushed on and thought.. well, I guess that's 2 lbs closer.. and they started to add up over the weeks.. now I'm at 24 lbs and while I still have a ways to go, I can see the difference in how I look and how I feel!


Just keep at it, and don't get depressed.. you can do it!!

When I get discouraged I like to remeber that I am closer to the goal then if I never even started. It is so easy to beat yourself up and then just fall into you old ways; then two months later you look and say "where would I have been if I hadn't given up last time?" I really wanted to get fit by May starting in January. I did really well in March and then went back to my old self in April, but now it is May. I have learned something, am picking myself up by the boot straps, and am going to keep going. Each success is closer to the finish line and each failure is a lesson. Learn from it and move on. I am so glad that you are starting to trade stress eating for exercise! WTG! That in itself is a success everytime you do it! Make a list of mini things you struggle with, cravings, things you want to be doing, and keep record of where you have come from and where you are going. Sometimes our greatest success is nowhere near the scale! Good luck!

"Never too late, never too old, never too bad, and never too sick to start from scratch once again." -Bikram Choudhury

The past does not matter. Just focus on starting again. You can do it! Feel free to add me for support.