How can I get my Hubby on board?

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  • bigdogc23
    bigdogc23 Posts: 66
    IDK the dynamics of your household but if you are the one that does the shopping then you don't have to stop him from eating junk food but DON'T bring it in the house at all.... There is only so much effort he will give to go out and get the junk food he THINKS he needs. Even if he plays like he is hard headed and goes out at first don't sweat it. eventually it will come to a time that he will be too busy or finaly give in and be too lazy to go out and get that junk food. Then he will get hungry and eat what you have placed in the cubbord.

    If you really want to push him.... Go on strike. Stop givng him the booty. Use it as an incentiive. For every 5 pounds he loses he gets to get SOME.

    I know that may sound cruel or shallow to some people but ladies use the VAJAYJAY control for much lesser reasons, why not use it to promote healthy wellness...

    I have a feeling I'm about to get a lot of hate mail from some guys....
  • hamiltonba
    hamiltonba Posts: 474 Member
    bigdogc23 - he never wants it!! Heck - When he does want to - there is NO way that I am going to say no!!
  • MelWelch
    MelWelch Posts: 2
    That is perfect! I will keep it in my back pocket for the "right time"!
  • minnousche
    minnousche Posts: 3
    After years of being treated for diabetes and cholesterol, my husband finally made the decision to start focusing on his health on his own. No amount of nagging/guilt-tripping from me or his doctors or even his mother could have made him change his ways. When our local YMCA moved two minutes down the street, though, he admitted that he really had no excuse to not at least try. At that point, it was like a switch flipped. He works out three mornings a week with a buddy, and their healthy competitive thing motivates him to work even harder. He's still on meds, but his A1C dropped from 12 to 7, and he's been told his diabetes is now considered controlled. He has also entered a Spartan Sprint this fall, so he's even more motivated to lose the gut.

    His eating is still spotty - he's a meat-and-potatoes guy - but he has made improvements. At home, he's fine because I do the groceries and cooking. When he's not home, he goes out and doesn't always make the best choices. But I'm thrilled with all the progress he has made, and it's part of what motivated me to be more consistent about my own choices.

    It's hard and frustrating, but focus on yourself and the positive changes you are making.
  • rachelmorgan77
    rachelmorgan77 Posts: 131 Member
    It has to be their decision - I was the spouse that was slow to get on board. Just be patient, no guilt trips, no fighting, etc. If you cook, you can start changing the way he eats just be cooking healthier foods. Invite him to go with you for a walk, bike ride, etc. This is a journey we all have to do for ourselves, and we decide for ourself when to start it.
  • Wonderwoman2677
    Wonderwoman2677 Posts: 428 Member
    I really appreciate all the replies... I had come to the same conclusion... I just need to wait and hope and try to lead by example. He does most of the shopping and does not like the foods I cook. I try to use a lot of veggies and there are only a few he'll eat. I told him awhile ago that he was on his own if he didn't like what I was cooking and he said "ok", but he didn't mean it and now he feels unloved. We take turns cooking. I usually end up eating at least some of what he cooks, so then he feels hurt that I make foods he won't eat.

    I'm not sure I could hold out long enough to use sex as a motivator ;) But the post had me cracking up :laugh:
  • Wonderwoman2677
    Wonderwoman2677 Posts: 428 Member
    IDK the dynamics of your household but if you are the one that does the shopping then you don't have to stop him from eating junk food but DON'T bring it in the house at all.... There is only so much effort he will give to go out and get the junk food he THINKS he needs. Even if he plays like he is hard headed and goes out at first don't sweat it. eventually it will come to a time that he will be too busy or finaly give in and be too lazy to go out and get that junk food. Then he will get hungry and eat what you have placed in the cubbord.

    If you really want to push him.... Go on strike. Stop givng him the booty. Use it as an incentiive. For every 5 pounds he loses he gets to get SOME.

    I know that may sound cruel or shallow to some people but ladies use the VAJAYJAY control for much lesser reasons, why not use it to promote healthy wellness...

    I have a feeling I'm about to get a lot of hate mail from some guys....

    This made me laugh, but I would hate him for trying to pressure me like this...I couldn't do it to him.
  • Wonderwoman2677
    Wonderwoman2677 Posts: 428 Member
    This worked for mine! LOL

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/bjohs/view/sex-weight-loss-117390
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    bjohs...I love this idea... I'll see if it will work. With a 2yo and 4 older kids, we don't have much time together either. We could definitely use some motivation for that too!

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