How to deal with critics

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Cheval13
Cheval13 Posts: 350 Member
edited December 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
SO, this may be an exceptional case, but I am having issues. At five six (really five five and three quarters, but who's counting?) I am about 126 pounds with 20% fat. My fitness is really good, i.e. I can run eight miles in an hour etc. I would like to get my body fat down maybe two more percent to lose a little bulge around my middle... but I am actually fairly happy. Problem is, my mom isn't. She thinks I am "giving up" when I say I don't want to go to my original goal weight of 117 and she seems caught on the scale number. It's getting to the point where I don't even want to talk about my weight with her, and she seems to make it her business. How can I deal with this?. I hate to compare myself to what is a serious medical condition that I don't have (or trigger anyone), but I feel like she is being anorexic for me, but I don't know if maybe I am being the unrealistic one... Please help?

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  • Jules2Be
    Jules2Be Posts: 2,238 Member
    are you kidding me??? In one ear and out the other...i wouldnt bring it up with her if you dont have to.
    I think you are doing amazing...do whats best for you!

    AND if she asks, just tell her you arent going by the scale anymore, you are focusing on strength training.

    love ya girl!

    and i commend you for realizing that its not ALL about a number:smooched:
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    You are doing this for you. Not for her or anyone else. You lose the amount of weight you're happy with.

    If she keeps it up give it right back to her. Criticize her, see how she likes it. You don't need to put up with that.
  • iLose2Gain
    iLose2Gain Posts: 138 Member
    Only you would know how to deal with this because we do not know your mom but I would definitely let her know that it is affecting you! If she wants you to be happy (& most moms do), then she should be able to celebrate with you. If she can't tell her not to bring it up again for the sake of your relationship with her. And the moment she starts to bring it up, cut her off or change the subject. Hopefully one day she will get the hint!
  • ellie0213
    ellie0213 Posts: 516 Member
    I agree with Jules. You have to do what is right for you. In censor what I tell my mom because she latches onto it and I never hear the end of it: even if I have changed course or moved on. And I definitely say NOTHING about my diet or weight...saves me from getting my feelings hurt by some thoughtless negative comment.

    I work hard not to be that mom to my daughter.

    Sorry you're having this struggle, Hun! xxoo
  • lglg11
    lglg11 Posts: 344 Member
    Moms can be so loving yet sooo difficult .. Let her know how much you learned on the journey and that you now realize its not about the number on the scale . There are lots of other factors and BF% is one and thats what you want to go by now ... which, by the way, is awesome and I totally agree with !

    And then stop talking and don't ever start again :)
  • Tropical_Turtle
    Tropical_Turtle Posts: 2,236 Member
    Just remember this is your journey - you can decide where your journey takes a new path. She loves you and just wants to see you happy. Do this for you and only you. I am sorry you are having a hard time - just from here on out I would recommend not saying anything. And should the topic come up again I would change it to something else.

    *hugs* it is hard but only you can decide what is best for YOU!
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