What do you tell people...

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  • holleysings
    holleysings Posts: 664 Member
    Salads are DELICIOUS. And losing weight, KEEPING IT OFF, and eating healthily are more important than eating one slice of mystery bread from a restaurant. I frequently say, "I didn't make it, so I don't know what's really in it and I don't want to put something weird in my body."
  • daniela_dimech
    daniela_dimech Posts: 26
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  • holleysings
    holleysings Posts: 664 Member
    In another note, the boss' daughter at the restaurant where I work thinks I'm losing weight by eating salads all the time. Right, because that's all people watching what they eat are eating. Salads. I have told her repeatedly that I eat lots of other things but she still doesn't get it so I've stopped replying. Sometimes you just have to ignore the dumb.
  • Il_DaniD_lI
    Il_DaniD_lI Posts: 1,593 Member
    Just tell them that what they are ordering would make your stomach upset as it is so used to you being kind to it and giving it healthy foods. That is what I say and it's usually true.
  • skybird455
    skybird455 Posts: 172 Member
    I usually just say that I have changed my lifestyle. If they get too in my face about it or pressure me I usually say, go ahead and eat your way and stay fat I dont care, this is the way I eat get over it.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I don't tell people anything, because the people who'd make those kinds of comments are the same people who'd make comments no matter what you ate. "Lucky you, being able to eat whatever you want..."

    No reason to stoop to their level being snide back at them. Live your life. Enjoy your food.
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    I had a conversation with a co-worker yesterday about my food choices that went something like this:

    Him: are you allowed to have that candy bar NayShel? (it was a chocolate mint protein bar)
    Me: sure, I can eat whatever I want
    Him: then why did you have only two tiny slivers of cake last week?
    Me: because I just wanted a taste
    Him: but I bet you really wanted more, right?
    Me: no, not really, I can't eat sweet like I used to - and frankly I don't care to
    Him: yeah, I guess you're right, I don't like eating so much it makes me ill either

    :) I love when coversations end in my favor

    Thankfully no one in my life really questions my choices on a regular basis. Hubby might from time to time but I'm always able to convince him it's what I really want to have for that meal/snack and not a sacrifice.

    If I had friends that asked me questions like that, I'd first give the honest answer of "this is what I feel like having" and then turn it around to them and ask "why are you choosing what you're ordering?". Turnabout is fair play!
  • mrsamy1
    mrsamy1 Posts: 10
    I get this all the time - it used to annoy me but I've learned that these people are just self conscious about what they are ordering for themselves. I usually ignore it, it's not their business what or why I eat certain things. If they really push me I pull out the gross FAT picture of myself that I keep in my phone. Good luck eating after that, kids.
  • dee492
    dee492 Posts: 28
    My FRIENDS, they dont ask me those types of things, because they are my friends and they know I have made huge strides in the past almost 3 years. My lifestyle changed, not my diet. I was huge and sat in front of the TV everynight eating, snacking etc....I watch very little TV now and am always on the go, I make poor food choices sometimes, somedays a lot of bad choices, but instead of giving up I know there is always tomorrow or the next meal or workout....my friends support me and sometimes when I make a poor choice they question me...even my co-workers are supportive. I know I am lucky to have that.
  • MinnieInMaine
    MinnieInMaine Posts: 6,400 Member
    I don't tell people anything, because the people who'd make those kinds of comments are the same people who'd make comments no matter what you ate. "Lucky you, being able to eat whatever you want..."

    No reason to stoop to their level being snide back at them. Live your life. Enjoy your food.

    You know, I used to think like that - like people who were skinny were lucky. I'd see them during the holidays or out to dinner and they'd be eating the same as me and I couldn't fathom how if they ate like me they could be thinner so I chalked it up to luck of the draw. Then I realized the difference is that most of them are that way because they are careful about their eating and are active during their day to day living, which allows them to go ahead and indulge a little now and then without being overweight. Whereas I was indulging on almost a daily basis! Maybe something to consider explaining to friends that give you that comment...
  • pamelak5
    pamelak5 Posts: 327 Member
    I would say something along the lines of, "why do you ask?" That way they can hear themselves explain how their question is rude, or you might find out they're genuinely curious. (This is great with all kinds of invasive/passive aggressive questions! "Did you breastfeed? Did you have a natural birth? How can you leave your baby at day care?? Why did you stop working just because you had a baby? How much did your car/house/ring cost?")
  • Forthe4
    Forthe4 Posts: 30 Member
    I had lunch recently with a group of guys from a different division in my agency that I hadn't eaten with lately. They were used to seeing me eat subs, burgers, sandwiches, etc. When the waiter brought out my salad, they all just sat quietly for a second and watched my reaction. One guy said, "you want me to dump some of my chili on it so at least you have some flavor?". Another said, "Did they get your order wrong?" (I ordered before they got there but told them to bring it out when the others got their food).

    I just laughed and said, "I'm trying to get in touch with my inner rabbit. I want to be able to do more of the things that rabbits do, running, jumping, and well....you know...."

    Of course I still get the tired old, "That isn't food. That's what food eats." But its all in good fun and not worth stressing over.
  • Kimmer2011
    Kimmer2011 Posts: 569 Member
    "Because it's delicious!"
  • mtaylor33557
    mtaylor33557 Posts: 542 Member
    My friends are generally supportive, so that is not an issue for me. My issue is with my in laws. My MIL and my husbands grandmother connect eating with emotions.

    If we come to visit there are cakes, cookies, fried foods, casseroles, everything they can think of that they think might make us happy. I try to explain that things like that don't make me happy, I enjoy getting to see them spend time with their grandson, I enjoy talking with them.. I could care less how many "treats" and huge meals they've planned for us.

    Especially with my MIL having diabetes, we plead with her not to stock her house with sugary treat just becuase she knows we're coming.. we know that she'll end up eating some, and its dangerous for her.

    But it's all emotional for them.. if we don't want to eat it there.. we MUST take it home with us.. if we don't want it.. "What's wrong with it, don't you like it? I made it for you..." "You have to eat more than THAT, you'll starve" , "You need to take this home for (husband), you're not feeding him enough" .. Almost like we are rejecting THEM because we don't want the food.

    I just have to try to be as nice as possible about it. I'm not like their 2 kids (and neither is my SIL's husband) we aren't tall and thin no matter what or how much we eat.. we have to be more careful. And I don't want my son to become hooked on tons of sweets. They'll eventually back down.. but it all starts over at the beginning of the next visit..
  • Jamie2007
    Jamie2007 Posts: 169
    "Obesessed" is just a word lazy people use for the dedicated. If your friends are that rude, they are either jealous, or just jers, so I'd drop them.

    Well said!!
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Huh. Nobody comments on what I eat. My friends must be awesome or something.
  • GasMasterFlash
    GasMasterFlash Posts: 2,206 Member
    Obviously, jealous saboteurs. DO NOT let them have access to your food before you eat it. If you get up to go to the bathroom, take your plate with you. They might try to toss some obesogens in there.
  • Shawn8216
    Shawn8216 Posts: 63 Member
    I have this problem currently because for about 3 years, I deprived myself in an unhealthy manner. However, I've gone from depriving myself to allowing myself to eat whatever. With that said, I was a little too kind of allowing myself to eat and now have about an extra 8-10 pds on myself that I'd like to lose the right way.

    Now that I'm working on eating healthy, portioning correctly, & exercising in moderation, people worry for me if they feel I am not eating enough according to what they believe I should eat. Anymore, I just answer that "I know what my body wants right now and this is all it can handle" Although it is out of concern, it can be annoying because then it can pressure me into eating more to make sure I keep them happy and disregard my own feelings.

    I think it definitely comes from being strong within and not letting people run your life as if they're running the remote control on a tv and change what they want to see. I know what I want to eat and learning to not listen if they challenge me into a piece of cake because "it won't hurt yo." But it can hinder you if you honestly do not want it. If you do, spurlge, but let it be because YOU WANT TO DO IT, not because you feel pressured.

    - shawn *
  • to_the_surface
    to_the_surface Posts: 38
    Depends, if the comment is made from people close to you, that perhaps in the not so distant past witnessed your "different" eating habits, i can see why a too drastic a change too soon might be a little of a concern.
    On the other hand, if the comment comes from a stranger, then don't even bother turning into a discussion. A courteous smile with a tight lipped face would be enough to shift the conversation to another topic. You won't convince them, they won't convince you, so why bother.
  • Grissay
    Grissay Posts: 112 Member
    Let them know it bothers you! That you find it as offensive as they would if you said they couldn't afford to eat a slice of bread. hahah!
  • jilliew
    jilliew Posts: 255 Member
    You know, I actually have not had this problem. My friends have been very supportive of me on this journey. A couple of them actually help me find healthy food to eat at restaurants, etc, and they are always good about me boycotting some eating establishments (fast food or some places that will be impossible to eat healthy at). They can all apreciate that my healthy eating habits and requirements actually benefit them, as well.

    The hardest part about this is my alcohol intake. I get more flack for not drinking as much as I did before I got serious about losing weight, a decision that is purely about calorie intake. At the end of the night, though, they are still appreciative that there's someone sober to drive their broke butts home, though.
  • farmers_daughter
    farmers_daughter Posts: 1,632 Member
    Since deciding to turn my life around last year, im now wishing i would have done it back in my late teens, however my daughter who was carrying a bit of weight at 14 yrs has seen my progress and off her own back she has lost weight by healthy eating shes now 15 yrs and is blooming in to a young woman

    My gripe...............Aimee (thats my daughter) goes to her grandmothers once a week for dinner (my mother in law) MIL knows that Aimee is healthy eating and fair play she makes salad or pasta for her which is good but then she goes in to the cupboard and brings out chocolate cake or chocolate biscuits telling Aimee "have some, cause im having some"

    I honestly have to bite my tongue when MIL does this as she then offers her the cake about 6 -7 times even though shes declined each time :explode: :mad: Rant over

    Oh gravy I am in the same boat, grandma feeds my girls crap,and she is by the grace of god a teeny weeny lady. Has no clue about health or metabolism or anything.... and doesn't understand that the girls have my genes and I really don't want to take any chances of them learning that junk and all the stuff I never learned obviously...isn't ok.
    She is my ex mother in law, and she is always right, and I have no clue what I'm talking about.

    I can only preach to my girls. They are young, I don't want them to be teased in school. Best of luck to you too.
  • russeljames
    russeljames Posts: 103 Member
    i tell them to fk off
  • cjmas
    cjmas Posts: 63
    I love the idea of "because it's delicious, why do you ask?" as a response! You're affirming your choice and making them consider why they'd ask/care you about your dietary choices.

    I don't think it's particularly helpful (to anyone) if you give a snarky or smug reply... but that's just my opinion. I know it can be tempting if someone is always bugging you, but making someone else feel bad rarely makes me feel good.
  • myfitnessnmhoy
    myfitnessnmhoy Posts: 2,105 Member
    Why do you feel the need to tell them anything? Do they control your choices or something?

    "Because this is what I ordered. I hope you enjoy your meal as much as I'm looking forward to mine."
  • suzikay12
    suzikay12 Posts: 150 Member
    Huh. Nobody comments on what I eat. My friends must be awesome or something.

    This is exactly what I was thinking! Why would anyone care what anyone else is eating?? Obviously from the comments I've determined apparently many people do care what other people eat. Who knew? *shrug*
  • myfitnessnmhoy
    myfitnessnmhoy Posts: 2,105 Member
    I just laughed and said, "I'm trying to get in touch with my inner rabbit. I want to be able to do more of the things that rabbits do, running, jumping, and well....you know...."

    Best. Comeback. Ever. I'm going to keep this one in mind. :)
  • JenAiMarres
    JenAiMarres Posts: 743 Member
    Honestly no one really comments on my food choices or ordering a house salad at a restaraunt...proof is in the pudding.....what can they say???? Youre too fit thin and healthy....stop ordering that?!?!

    Although I have had two seperate (heavier)women tell me that salads are just as bad as a cheeseburger...which I politely replied both times "does it look like I have a problem overeating salad?"

    Shut them up real quick.
  • michelleepotter
    michelleepotter Posts: 800 Member
    The only person who I have had make comments like that was my husband. He was trying to be supportive and keep me from "overdoing it," because, according to him, I have a tendency to overdo things and then burn out. Because of his comments, I backed off on tracking my calories for a while. When I did that, I noticed that I started feeling like CRAP physically. I realized that when I wasn't tracking, I wasn't making sure that I was getting enough nutrients from my food, and it was making me feel tired and sick. So finally I explained to my husband that I really DO need to track every bite, and make every bite count, because I don't have enough room in my diet for a bunch of empty calories. I mean, I still eat foods just because they taste good -- in moderation -- but it's important to make SURE I am getting enough vitamins and minerals.

    He also made comments about me drinking water when we went out, until I explained that, because I have gotten used to drinking water, it actually TASTES better than soda to me. I CRAVE water now. Once he understood that I wasn't doing it to torture myself, but that I really, really, honestly wanted water, he left it alone.
  • Sh0ewh0re7_BlingItOn
    Sh0ewh0re7_BlingItOn Posts: 501 Member
    Definitely a jealousy thing. Normally I say, well I don't look this way naturally, I look like this by not eating desserts and bread all the time. Unfortunately I actually have to WORK HARD and live a healthy lifestyle for it! If they still don't understand that, ignore them and bask in glory of being healthy and fit!!!

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