Is your Partner or spouse supportive?

Sounds just like my husband! he even said to me the other day..."your just going to leave me anyways" when I asked him if it made him happy that i was trying to get into shape and if he has noticed any differences. He is insecure and depending on what has happened between you and your spouse, in the past, he may feel that way also.

My wife is supportive and has lost weight with me. She doesn't work out but is accepting of me prioritizing my workouts into our daily routine. We eat healthy together but she has admitted she doesn't eat as healthy sometimes when she eats with her brothers for her lunch. I don't badger her to be like me and she doesn't ask me to do less. Works for us.

My husband is extremely supportive. I never had an over weight problem, but I was a underweight, smoking couch potato for as long as I'd know him (at least I cooked healthy though ). He is very much into fitness, we were pole opposites, so it was a shock for him when I finally got off my butt and said I was finally ready to change, I think he honestly thought "here we go again", but it has been 4 months of not smoking, 2 months of MFP, 6lbs gained and I have gone from a girl who absolutely hated exercise (never understood the point of it frankly) to heavy lifting 3 times a week (with him as my spotter) and just about to start the butt bible with complete and utter excitement. I think he is just as excited as I am to see the changes in my body, from weak and wimpy to progressively stronger, and getting baby muscles!, As the saying goes, "Skinny girls may look good in clothing, but fit girls look good naked"!

To say he is impressed would be an understatement, so yes he is very supportive!

As to your husbands statement, I guess it would depend on his tone, but unfortunately he does sound a little passive aggressive....I could be like that befor with my man, I suppose I was jealous of his interest and ability with fitness, so I would make small shizy remarks like that. That's my take at least.

I am extremely lucky. My husband is very supportive. So much so that when I was struggling to get back on track he joined Weight Watchers so he could go to the meetings with me and understand the program a bit better. He was my "trainer" when I started running and ran with me three mornings a week until I was confident enough to run with a mutual friend or on my own.

He was very overweight before I met him, but he was one of those guys that decided to lose weight and did it by "eating less, moving more" and lost 60 pounds on his own, another 10-15 when he started running, and additional 15-20 with Weight Watchers.

As supportive as he is, he still doesn't get the whole "emotional eating" aspect. But I love him for all the support he has given me. Never pushy and never condescending. Praises me when I do well but knows enough to keep his mouth shut when I go off track (had to explain to him in the beginning that I know when I'm not doing well and him pointing it out only makes it worse!).

My husband is my biggest supporter. We hit a bit of a rough patch around the holidays and were trying to be more supportive of each other. At the NY he decided to eat cleaner to lean down with a buddy and I decided to join him since I'm the cook and shopper and it's easier as a team. Plus I had some unwanted weight. We never imagined we'd be where we are today. Our relationship is 1000 times healthier bc my stress is gone bc my workout time is my me time and I can let go of all the crap from school, work, whatever. He use to be my sounding board for going off you could say; poor guy. I make the time for it and he's so supportive bc I use to be resentful of his gym time bc I felt I never could do it with everything else going on. We do abs or box with each other at least every night and go to the gym frequently togethor. He constantly cheers me on, will send texts during my runs encouraging me and is always expressing to me how proud and I love hearing that from the one person that matters. I do the same for him. I'm a very lucky girl bc I know of I didn't have him pushing me sometimes; I may have given up on something's.

It sounds like there is a deeper issue than you working out and getting healthy. He doesn't sound very secure in the relationship if he says "who for" and other things like that. I've found that if my hubs and I are fighting about ANYTHING, the working out thing can be thrown into the mix. He is supportive but also wants attention, its that terrible word "balance". Can you involve him or workout when he isn't around/up/in the mix?


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My husband is supportive of me but I kinda wish he would do something for his own health. He is obese (like me) but doesn't have the desire to eat healthier or to work out at all. I try to make a healthy dinner and he will eat that and then instantly go scrounging in the kitchen for snacks. Moderation is not in his vocabulary right now. It is frustrating but I hope that I can set a good example and he will join me in his own time and when he is ready for the change.

mine won't even eat everything i prepare.. and there is always a sugar soda, chips or icecream in his hand.. mine said that if i lost 20 pounds he would join me... i did, he didn't .. then he changed it to if i lost 30 pounds he would join me.. i did.. he didn't.. i have just given up on him.. i just want to focus on makeing sure my kids eat healthy..

I hope to inspire him to make healthy changes.

I think you'll find this sentence might be behind it, he might feel that you will stop him doing or eating what he wants.

Us male types are as funny as you female types when it comes to be edged into a direction we don't want to go or haven't chosen to go :-)

Andy

Both my fiance and I are on here and try to keep eachother motivated. Since we both are working towards a healthy life style we can approch it as a team.

I have been on my weightloss journey for almost a year. It will be a year on June 6th. I started MFP in July 2011. Anyways I have lost a total of 103 lbs. I received my one and only compliment from my husband on Christmas Eve. Other than that he just says I take too much time when I go work out at the gym. When I told him I can't wear my wedding ring anymore cuz its so big, and that I need to get it fitted again; His exact words were "you probably shouldn't cuz WHEN you gain weight again it won't fit again"


on the positive side our love life has dramatically gotten better!!:happy: :blushing:

Maybe he feels you are taking time away from being with him? If that's not the case, then just ignore the comments. I got most of my support from my (female) friend who dieted and exercised with me a couple of years ago. Use your MFP friends for support.

I tell my DH his main benefit from me exercising is that I do a ***LOT*** of yard & house work (as exercise and because I can do more - as a result of other exercise). So he doesn't have to do the yard work, or wash windows, or sweep the deck, etc, etc, Who could argue with that?

He was mainly unhappy because I quit baking cookies/cake/bread and buying ice cream. He learned he had to go buy those things himself and to please buy a flavor that was lower down on my favorites list and hide them on the top shelf of the pantry or the back of the freezer. Really, that's not too much to ask.

My husband is supportive just as I am with him.

It sounds like many on here have spouses who are insecure about their relationships and worry that they will be left behind if he/she succeeds. That stinks and must be really hard to live with.

My husband loves that I workout, but is really unsupportive when it comes to eating healthy. He is 6'5" and naturally thin. He works out - but not as hard or as often as I do. He gives me a hard time about weighing my food, often refuses to eat healthy stuff I prepare (so I wind up eating differently than he and the kids) and he literally ignores me out if I start talking to him about weight issues! I don't get any feedback positive or negative to indicate that he notices results of my work at the gym. grrrr.

Thank goodness we have people on MFP that get it and are supportive!

My husband is supportive in a way of not really saying anything, nothing negative but nothing positive...to me.

He tells his mom that I work out and all that, but says nothing to me except "wouldn't it just be easier to stop eating all togther" or "you should start smoking".

2 of my favourites have been when he asked me how much I wanted to lose and I said 35 and he asked "why not 50?" and when he asked why all his friends back home have wives that have had kids and they are super skinny.

:huh:

Mind you, this is coming from someone who if he wants to drop 5 lbs just doesn't drink beer that weekend.