Hubby Isn't Supportive

Show him the success stories section with all the before and after pics.

Even if your hubby isn't supportive, just lean on the fact that you're doing this for yourself. I have a fantastic supportive husband, but he eats CRAP all day. He tries to help me, but doesn't always work (He's also wondering why I feel the need to lose weight as he likes the way I look)
My biggest support past him saying "good job" is fitting into my clothes again, seeing a much smaller number on the scale, not being ashamed of myself and looking into the mirror and being proud of what I see. (instead of avoiding mirrors)
If you are the type of person that needs support from others, lean on us!! We're a community of people who are all going through the exact same thing and will have no critical words for you!

Lead by example. He may be underweight, but is he a perfect picture of health and fitness? MFP isn't just about weight loss; it's a tool for all-round improved health (weight loss is just one of the effects!)
We'll be your cheer squad, and one day he'll turn around and wonder when his wife turned into a fit and confident goddess!

I would just do this with the support that you are happy with. It would be awesome if he was supportive but if he isnt right now he sure will be when he sees you sticking to it and getting fitter

i rely on my group of MFP buddies entirely for support...i feel that only people on this site will truly understand this struggle .
i dont talk about MFP with my family or friends . its just another website to them:laugh:

Oh I know how that is ... Mine thinks that drinking vodka every night Nd putting 3 hours a week at the gym is going to help him lose weight LOL.. he's super confused ... Add me if u want were all here to support ya

For whatever reason, your past efforts haven't succeeded. That doesn't mean they won't this time, but it does mean that you might have to cut your husband some slack. He's been down this road with you before. The fact is, he IS still supporting you. He knows you want it so he is offering advice. It may not be the kind of support you want from him, but do recognize that he isn't totally apathetic, isn't bashing you personally and he is in his own way trying to help. You may need a heart to heart to explain specfically how you would like him to support you and you may have to turn somewhere else for support if he isn't able to give you the kind of support you need, but do recognize that the man is supporting your efforts in his own way.

Also, part of this journey is learning more about ourselves. He may see the same issues come up repeatedly and maybe frustrated because he WANTS to help you but this is your journey and your learning process. You CAN do it. Part of it is going to have to entail thinking about why it is that you haven't been entirely successful in the past. Our mind is our most powerful tool. It could be that you just weren't ready yet and now you are.

Can you have some chocolate crisps. YES! I wouldn't make a diet of that kind of stuff but everything in moderation as long as you fit it in your calorie budget, go for it! Don't deprive yourself.

Are we married to the same man?

He sounds exactly like my husband. At a kids birthday party with other moms standing there he has walked up to me, taken a cupcake out of my hand and said, "Do you really think you need to be eating that?" then eats it in front of me. Yet, if I run (which is hard for me to do) and show him hey look...he shrugs and tells me any idiot can run. My husband is also small, and he is fit. He was the command fitness leader for a while and PT-ed with the other Spec Warfare guys.

SO yeah, I understand...add me. I'm Sherry.

Keep at it! A lot of us yo-yo around, trying new diets...losing some, gaining it back, losing again, gaining again. Give it your all and once he starts seeing a change not only in your body but also in your overall health and attitude, he'll come around. He'll see that you're serious about this and eventually support you.

My husband also isn't very supportive, but in a different way. For him, it's like "Why do you have to count calories? You look great to me!". I don't blame him for my weight problem, but when someone's always there telling me I'm perfect and sexy, it makes it hard to get/stay motivated. It starts to mess with my head, like he thinks I'm great so why do I need to change? Then my smarter side breaks into my thoughts and I remember how hard it is to zip my pants and just bend to tie a shoe and I get back on track ;-)

Wishing you all the best! I'm new(ish) to MFP, but if you'd like to add me as a friend that'd be great!

If you decide to talk with your husband about this, make sure you put "support" in terms he can understand. Let him know exactly what you need from him. And that you get that you were not successful before, but you really want to make a life change NOW. He may not be able to cheer you on every time you lose a couple of pounds. But maybe his support can come in the form of taking walks with you, or you both learning to cook new, healthier foods together. That would still be support, and beneficial to health for both of you, as well as strengthening your relationship. Sounds like the type of guy that as he sees you stick with it, he will become more supportive, because he will see it's not just a passing phase.

Tell him to remember "For better or for worse..." At least you are trying. You can't succeed of you don't fail at first, this is how we learn. Each time you learn something new and you can improve on it. If he cannot support you the way you need to be supported, then you need to go somewhere else. It sounds like there is a lot of people willing to take that position (me included) :happy: It also helps if you have someone close like a family member or friend that you can count on just to have someone in person.

We are here for you!

Tam