Un related...

marriage was never particularly important to me and my hubby either. i've never held this particular institution in very high esteem. we never even needed to talk about it- it wasn't on our radar at all. all of our finances were separate, all of the bills were separate (he was responsible for some, i had others in my name). i had friends of all relationship statuses that were both happy and unhappy with what they had, so that didn't really have any bearing on our choices and what worked for us.
then we decided to move to another country and it turned out that it would just be alot easier if we were married. so we went to las vegas and got married without any fuss, and we thought of it as a holiday.
don't get me wrong- i'm pleased to be married. it feels nice knowing that the extra commitment is there. but if there was not the perceived need for us to do it, then i'd still be quite happy being defacto.
also, i only use his surname on official documentation, otherwise i go by my maiden name. and we still have separate finances! it's just how it works for us.

honestly, i say that if you're happy with how things are then why change it? i mean, some girls grow up dreaming of their wedding day, planning their dress, knowing who they're going to invite and all that jazz. for some of us it's just not that high up on the priority list. and sometimes it can creep up the list! that happened to my mate- she was fine with her bloke of 5 years then suddenly she wanted to get married. i think she was ready to have kids, and she had the thought that she had to get married first. so she told him it was important to her, he really didn't care, so they got married.


but it sounds to me like it's not that important to you, and you were wondering if it should be. well if it's not important to you, that's fine. you don't have to be married to be in a happy relationship.

good luck.

In October 15, 1839, Queen Victoria proposed to Albert. If she can do it, so can you.