Anyone ever feel invisible when going out?

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  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    I've always felt like the "fat friend." My friends get all the attention no matter how well dressed I am or how confident I try to be. It's probably just an insecurity thing. *shrugs*
    I'd pay attention to you!:wink:
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    I swear I am the most invisible 5'10" redhead on the planet; however, I am slowly learning to not let it bother me.

    I don't get hit on when I go out, and that's actually okay for now. I'm not really a social butterfly anyway.
  • sullykat
    sullykat Posts: 461 Member
    Sometimes I'd like to not be invisible, but then I realize how awful it is when people are paying attention to you, so I MUCH prefer to not be noticed
  • k2quiere
    k2quiere Posts: 4,151 Member
    Sometimes I go out of my way to try and be invisible, and it usually backfires.
  • Phoenix24601
    Phoenix24601 Posts: 620 Member
    all the time, but i only want my man to notice me anyway.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I've always felt like the "fat friend." My friends get all the attention no matter how well dressed I am or how confident I try to be. It's probably just an insecurity thing. *shrugs*

    This is how I feel too. Doesn't matter that I'm thinner than a lot of my friends now. It's just my attitude. I feel like people are laughing at me for even trying to be social.
  • downsizinghoss
    downsizinghoss Posts: 1,035 Member
    I have never been invisible in my life. It was important that people knew who I was, and liked me.
    As a kid I wished I could blend in once in a while, but it just isn't my style.
  • interceptor311
    interceptor311 Posts: 980 Member
    The only time I get noticed is at work....and that I don't like. I won't eat in a restaurant style setting. I hate being stared at...and looked at like an *kitten*.
  • interceptor311
    interceptor311 Posts: 980 Member
    I've always felt like the "fat friend." My friends get all the attention no matter how well dressed I am or how confident I try to be. It's probably just an insecurity thing. *shrugs*

    This is how I feel too. Doesn't matter that I'm thinner than a lot of my friends now. It's just my attitude. I feel like people are laughing at me for even trying to be social.

    But you look great. But I certainly understand what you are saying. I fell the same way...mainly because my height. (This thread is depressing me) LOL
  • wasteofpaint35
    wasteofpaint35 Posts: 19 Member
    The only attention I can ever seem to get is from serious creepers. The kinda guy who lurks in a dark corner and watches you for 30 mins then proceeds proposition you to go to a "party" at his house. I never wear anything revealing so its not like I look like a prosti (no offense if anyone is). From what I can gather, the less clothing you wear the more approachable and appealing you are. I can't say that I necessarily desire the kind of attention being bumped and ground about at the traditional nightclub scene, but it would be a nice to know that I don't look like the kind of girl who would go home with the 45 year old club lurker. (no offense to the older men. I'm sure you are not creepy.) Now that I think about it, those club lurkers must feel pretty invisible too. Oh well, that's what they get for standing in a dark corner. :P
  • Sublog
    Sublog Posts: 1,296 Member
    I used to feel invisible when I was 300+ lbs. Now, I get stared at and a lot of attention. Feelsgoodman.
  • NCVF
    NCVF Posts: 83 Member
    I'm definitely in the invisible boat. When going out, our appearance is all anyone has for a first impression. I'm not happy with my appearance at the moment and I really should carry myself with more confidence. Try giving yourself a confidence booster. It sends off positive signals. :)
  • MariaMariaM
    MariaMariaM Posts: 1,322 Member
    When I was single, I never got hit on (at least I don't think I did). When I go out with friends, I don't really get hit on either (well in the last few times I had been hit on by kids and it makes me feel like a Cougar LOL). Right not I really don't care because I am married but it is a nice ego buster to get hit on. I was told once that I give a very *****y/unapproachable vibe. My husband also told me the same thing when we met. Like I don't really need anyone. I think I look friendly but it could be my defense mechanism :)

    And when I was single, I was around 130 so it is not like I was overweight or anything like that.
  • dollipop
    dollipop Posts: 379 Member
    Thats me.. I'm told I look unapproachable...
    I get the same thing. Apparently I give out don't fark with me vibes. :huh:
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    Right now no & in fact I keep hearing from people who goes out with me says that they see that guys give me a second glance whenever we are passing by even if I was overweight although I thought it stopped when I became obese.
  • mrs_deg1983
    mrs_deg1983 Posts: 157
    I have been feeling that way a lot the last few months! Maybe its always been happening and i just started noticing?
  • Skinny_Jeans_Soon
    Skinny_Jeans_Soon Posts: 326 Member
    I used to feel invisible when I was 300+ lbs. Now, I get stared at and a lot of attention. Feelsgoodman.

    I can imagine, you are rockin' it! Whew, fanning myself now!!

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