Protruding bones

Slimmasaurus
Slimmasaurus Posts: 141 Member
edited December 20 in Chit-Chat
I was chatting with my boyfriend the other day, and he was enthusing about how much he liked girls hip bones when they stick out... (Clearly not mine, I'm a bit soft around the edges haha)

I wasn't quite sure what to make of it. I've got a bit of a skewed body image, and was just wondering what other people's thoughts were. Do people like to see bones sticking out of the opposite sex? I admit, I was happy to make friends with my collar bones as the lbs came off, but is having protruding hip bones too far?

Edit: I'm really sorry if anyone is offended in any way, or this provokes any negativity... I'm just not sure what to think, and it kind of upset/surprised me that this is what my guy liked!
«13

Replies

  • LiddyBit
    LiddyBit Posts: 447 Member
    You say you have skewed body image. Do you think that could have been his way of telling you he likes YOUR hip bones, and you don't have a perspective on your body that lets you recognize them on yourself?

    My husband calls my chest "washboard sternum" because the bones protrude in my upper body. I lose weight there at the drop of a hat (my lower body, not so much)!
  • VeganPanda
    VeganPanda Posts: 582 Member
    What I find attractive: not bones sticking out of guys, I like muscles. But I do think they look good on women.

    But just because he likes that doesn't mean he doesn't like you how you are either! Maybe it's his way of encouraging you. Either way, congrats on your weight loss! :smile:
  • sl1ngsh0t
    sl1ngsh0t Posts: 326 Member
    last time I made a "protruding bones" kind of statement (at 145 lbs), a friend recovering from anorexia said that was "pro-ana" and defriended me from her social network. O.o
  • ashlinmarie
    ashlinmarie Posts: 1,263 Member
    I used to have the protruding hip bones and my ex loved it, but my husband said if I get that thin he will feed me big macs until I gain some weight back. I really think it depends on the guy, but apart from my clavicle, I'd rather not have any protruding bones myself.
  • Sarauk2sf
    Sarauk2sf Posts: 28,072 Member
    The important thing is what YOU like and what is healthy for you.
  • kayleesays
    kayleesays Posts: 564 Member
    I have giant hips, so losing even a little weight makes them come out with a dinosaur-like ferocity!

    My boyfriend refuses to have an opinion on anything like this. While I understand how this could be weird, like "my boyfriend likes bones sticking out? Ick," I think maybe he just likes this one little thing on girls, and maybe he's starting to see yours and it makes him happy.
  • Willowfeet
    Willowfeet Posts: 3 Member
    Purely for physical reasons, I love protruding bones. I don't have any myself, but hopefully soon right? :)
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Sigh.

    Edited because I misread what you wrote.

    It is up to you to decide how you want to look. If you are healthy and have hip bones protruding, then good for you. If you are healthy and don't have hip bones that protrude, then good for you. Learn to love yourself and don't let anyone tell you how you should look.
  • SP2Bfit
    SP2Bfit Posts: 114
    On a man I like muscle tone/definition in the midsection and butt but I've never really focused on hip bones. I think if they were too visible I wouldn't find that attractive...slightly visible fine but not "bony"

    On other women I would say I think something similar...if they are too pronounced I don't think it is attractive, better if visible in a toned body but not "bony" there is a difference to me.

    Being completely honest I have this weird thing about liking my own hip bones to be a slightly more protminent, especially when I am laying down in bed--but that is with me being at, and wanting to remain at a healthy weight/body shape.
  • LolaVersion2
    LolaVersion2 Posts: 114 Member
    ...but what about the cushion for the pushin?
  • LuckyAng
    LuckyAng Posts: 1,173 Member
    Even at my heaviest of 209 lbs my hip bones, collar bones, and shoulder blades have always poked out. I am fairly tall (5'10).
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    If you want my male opinion, then no, I don't really want to see protruding bones. A hint of their shape is all good, but in my opinion, seeing them protruding prominently isn't very attractive. With that said, I don't really care for any one particular feature. The whole package is what counts, so it's not like it's a make or break type thing.
  • LilacDreamer
    LilacDreamer Posts: 1,364 Member
    my bones tend to stick out and i find it gross. my husband doesnt see it the same way I do.

    Some are small (hands, wrists, feet, nose, etc.) and some are huge - like my ribs. I see my skin & fat as something that has been messily applied over my bones, like a costume.

    I also feel like if my ribs didnt stick out so much, my abdomen would look so much smaller and it would be easier for me.

    my hip bones are the same way, they protrude in a very unsettling way. infact, if i lean/lay on them, they ache.

    but i really want a rib adjustment :\
  • BigDaddyBRC
    BigDaddyBRC Posts: 2,395 Member
    why does it matter?
  • ttkg
    ttkg Posts: 357 Member
    Do I like a protruding bone on a man? :huh:




    I am so sorry OP, I know this is a serious question but....hehe, you gotta see the humour here:bigsmile: ? or maybe i have just had a long day...

    Sorry, no intention of derailing, back to regular programming. :laugh:
  • aippolito1
    aippolito1 Posts: 4,894 Member
    I was always jealous of my best friend when I was 13, whose hip bones stuck out. Even now, when I lose weight enough, when I lay down, they stick out (but not when I stand up), and I think it's hot. When I got to about -21 lbs, I would lay in bed and make my boyfriend touch my hip bones, lol.
  • LolaVersion2
    LolaVersion2 Posts: 114 Member
    Do I like a protruding bone on a man? :huh:

    Hilarious.
  • sarahsxt
    sarahsxt Posts: 66
    ...but what about the cushion for the pushin?

    Precisely. Protruding bones = painful in the bedroom.

    Personally? Some women/men genetically have bonier hips, others don't. Personally I have protruding bones no matter how much weight I put on. But I hate it... I prefer women with a smooth transition from waist to hip!!
  • lukeout007
    lukeout007 Posts: 1,237 Member
    I like my women like I like my bread...doughy and baked.

    Wait..
  • bethmakesmusic
    bethmakesmusic Posts: 164 Member
    This is really interesting to me! My husband likes to see a hint of hip bone too (not me at the moment) but I think it's a great goal. Once I hit my goal weight I'm getting a tattoo right above my hip :). I'm not letting it hurt my feelings. We've both gotten softer since we got married and I know he loves so many things about me that this would be nitpicking. Great job on your loss so far!
  • HeidiMightyRawr
    HeidiMightyRawr Posts: 3,343 Member
    I can't see how anyone would find that "attractive" on it's own. It seems a bit weird, especially as not everyone can achieve them healthily (it's reminding me of the thigh gap trend)

    Although if I see a girl with protruding hip bones, I don't think she looks ill or anything, unless the rest of her looks underweight. My hipbones show and always have done apart from at my very heaviest, and I'm definitely not underweight! I just store fat in other areas.

    I say attraction for me is what looks healthy. I can find someone attractive if they're healthy, I don't find them attractive if they look unhealthy (on either side of the spectrum) Hip bones to me are not a determinant of health. They're just there, or they're not.

    ETA: My bf's hipbones show a little. He's far from underweight (180ish lbs, 5'10) and has quite a lot of muscle. TBH I've never really taken much notice of them.
  • Chubbyhulagirl
    Chubbyhulagirl Posts: 374 Member
    Do I like a protruding bone on a man? :huh:




    I am so sorry OP, I know this is a serious question but....hehe, you gotta see the humour here:bigsmile: ? or maybe i have just had a long day...

    Sorry, no intention of derailing, back to regular programming. :laugh:

    Thats what I read. Lol.

    I dont think prominently protruding bones is as a attractive but a little collarbone and hipbones on a woman is nice to me. Especially if they look really healthy and not emaciated. I think its sexy. But I also think a heavier woman who dresses well for her body type will look sexy also. I find sexiness in women everywhere. Lol. On men, I prefer lean but not really protruding bones except one...:)
  • hanahlai
    hanahlai Posts: 281 Member
    My husband likes my hip bones. They stick out, but not in a skeletal way. I still have a lot of meat.
  • theladyy
    theladyy Posts: 176
    Nope. Certainly not on guys, since I like'em big. And I definitely don't find it attractive for females....girls should be soft, not boney or a workout away from being the Hulk.
  • mrsRhughes
    mrsRhughes Posts: 122
    I definitely don't think you have to be stick-thin or underweight or "pro-ana" to have protruding hip bones. I'm 5'7" and a healthy 122-125 lbs (depending on the day!) and my hip bones definitely stick out. I'm pretty sure it's just my bone structure, because they were still there even when I weighed in at 140 :) I personally love them! My husband jokes around about them .... he loved me at 140 and loves me just the same now :)
  • Dragn77
    Dragn77 Posts: 810 Member
    Even at my heaviest of 209 lbs my hip bones, collar bones, and shoulder blades have always poked out. I am fairly tall (5'10).

    Im like this too... Im 5'10" and even at 200lbs, my collar bone and hip bones protrude...its just the way my body is. Sort of blah that people are saying thats gross and unattractive. I cant help it...and goodness knows Im not going to become even more overweight to try and hide it that I have any bones!

    Anyway, I wouldnt read much into it if a guy said he liked to see bones...at least to me, it in no way means hes saying he likes super skinny women, its just something he likes. And I agree with the person who said that your self perception may be getting in the way, with your weight loss, you may well be getting more defined/not as padded (for lack of a better way to put it!! lol) and he likes what he sees..so thats what came to mind to tell you...that he liked how *you* look :)
  • 1shauna1
    1shauna1 Posts: 993 Member
    If they do a little, I'm okay with it....I like my collar bones showing, I feel slim that way. There is a limit though. I like a smooth, curved look!
  • logicandlove
    logicandlove Posts: 191 Member
    Agreeing with all the previous posters, it really depends on your body type. I'm 5'8" and 170 right now, and my hip bones are clearly visible when I stand up straight. There are some women who can be healthy and never see a bone, and others who might be overweight and still see them all. it honestly has more to do with genetics than simply how healthy you are.
  • vade43113
    vade43113 Posts: 836 Member
    personally, I don't think he got with you because of your hip bones.... I am almost positive it was just a statement to add to the conversation, kind of like, if someone said "I love Mel Gibson" And her boyfirend taking offense to it because he is no mel gibson

    My point is, I am sure you took it differently than he intended. If you truly have an issue with it, ask him. He is the one that said it, and he is the one that knows what he meant. Asking someone else, is like asking a dog if he knows if the cat likes catnip.
  • lukeout007
    lukeout007 Posts: 1,237 Member
    personally, I don't think he got with you because of your hip bones.... I am almost positive it was just a statement to add to the conversation, kind of like, if someone said "I love Mel Gibson" And her boyfirend taking offense to it because he is no mel gibson

    This.

    The other day my wife and I had a conversation about butts. She couldn't understand how people can like a bubble butt (like Kim Kardashian style *kitten*)...I personally love it...I know a lot of guys that do. She didn't take offense...It's no secret that I'm attracted to my wife who does not have a bubble butt.

    I also have never liked big boobs...my wife didn't have big boobs when we met but since having our son, gaining weight, and getting prego with #2 they've probably tripled in size...and I'm cool with it...I am still just as attracted to her as I always was.

    Point is...whether your hip bones protrude or not...he's still most likely into you.
This discussion has been closed.

Categories