Nobody noticed ...

Someone noticed my weight loss just from march last weekend... "Katie, you've lost weight. You look smaller. Not that you was big or anything... Uh, you know what I mean."

Maybe your friends were politely trying to avoid that awkwardness...

Sometimes people are afraid to say the wrong thing. So they say nothing.

But you've done awesome! Keep it up!

I was in the same boat as you with that weight loss and original weight. I was at my lowest in years at 222 lbs. (unfortunately couldn't stick with it long enough to get down to 220). and all that I noticed different about my body was that my back was slimmer (no more bra bulge) and my tummy was a bit smaller. But I never did get down to a different pant size because of my stupid thighs. All the smaller pant sizes fit around my waist, but not my thighs. They were waaaaay too tight. Your weight loss is awesome, good for you!! But maybe they honestly didn't notice. I don't know how you looked before and now after, maybe there are very noticable differences, but if you have small differences that you notice, maybe somebody who hasn't seen you in a year didn't notice them as much.

That or else, yes, maybe they didn't want to mention it. I wish my family was like that!! Anytime anybody even congratulates me on my weight loss, it derails me. I don't know why. But I wish they would just shut up about it.

I know the feeling.

After losing 81 lbs, not a single person has said a thing. -_-

Congratulations on the loss, though! It's a HUGE accomplishment!

Sometimes people hesitate to mention a weight loss. They don't want you to think that they thought you were fat before. That was a mouthful. You've accomplished a lot; don't let anyone's silence steal your victory!

This. It's a touchy subject.

Plus, people who care about you don't judge you nearly as harshly as you judge yourself.

I give the example of my niece who went from a size 12 to a size 4 for her wedding. She always looked beautiful to me, no matter what her size. I never thought of her in terms of her size. Even when I saw her in her a short strapless dress at her bridal shower, my thought was, "Damn, she looks so gorgeous!" and not, "She lost so much weight." It wasn't until I found out she had to exchange her gown for a smaller size that I realized she was smaller.

maybe they didn't notice because you are beautiful at any size and possibly they didn't think of you as a "fat girl" in the first place.

Perhaps they've just always seen beyond your weight to the you inside :-)

Maybe they were worried you'd be offended if they mentioned it? I don't know, that's too bad, though. Most people would be like, "Wow! You look great!" Especially if they were old friends. Congrats on the loss! Keep it up!

I teach English to immigrants, and one thing I always teach them is that when you see someone after a long time you always tell them "you look great!" even if it's not necessarily true (unless they look terrible, in which we give some other kind of compliment). When we focus on the positive, it benefits everybody!

Did you notice? If so, that's all that matters. The compliments are great, and they can boost motivation but the greatest compliment you can get paid is the smile you see in the mirror at seeing your own reflection and the pride you feel when the scale moves or you drop a size.

People are reluctant to ask people about weight loss or weight gain. It's a social taboo.

Oh Honey! I know the feeling. Several years ago I lost 30 pounds down from 300. It was the first time I ever tried to loose weight. We lived in Japan then too, a different base from where we live now but we had just moved there. I saw an acquaintance I had met when we first arrived and I thought for sure when she saw me she would say I looked different. I asked her if she noticed anything. She listed off several possibilities but none of them were my weight loss. I wanted to cry! When I told her she said I didn't look different to her. I learned I had to do it for me. Not to get compliments because it was obvious that wasn't going to happen. Eventually I did get compliments but it took a long time.
Keep at it! Your efforts will pay off.

I've lost 55 pounds and people FINALLY started noticing at 53 pounds. But what really made them pay attention was that I got my hair cut so that it showed off my thinner face, and I got new clothes. The very next day all my colleagues suddenly noticed that I'd lost weight. At our size, I guess a mere 50 pounds is not as dramatic a difference as it would be on someone smaller. And I won't lie--I don't see all that much of a difference when I look in the mirror, so I'm not sure why I was expecting my coworkers to be able to see what I couldn't.

But the moment you get new clothes, I bet a whole bunch of people will notice. :-)

there's plenty of feasible reasons they might not have mentioned it. from being afraid of offending you to, as you say, not noticing.

personally, i think it's a mix between the "not wanting to offend you" and perhaps in their eyes you were perfect anyway?

i'd put my money on them not wanting to offend you but a year is a long time and i can forget someone's features after a week.

you've done fabulously so far and you can keep it up.

remember, their silence is good... it must mean they don't know what to say :bigsmile: :bigsmile: :bigsmile:

xxxx

I think people just don't tend to notice things a lot. People pay a lot less attention to us than we think.

I wouldn't be disheartened by it. Just keep going. When you're at your goal weight they'll definitely notice.

No worries, from personal experience, I know that sometimes people don't mention someone elses' weight loss because
a. They might feel that to be a touchy subject for the person and
b. They feel the weight loss might have been a result of something negative (i.e. sickness, depression etc.)

When it comes down to it, it's you that should be impressed with you. :0)

Get excited!! "Yeahhhh!!! I drop that weight!"

Congratulations for the loss......I had that happen to me just last week.. I had lost 17 pounds and no one said a thing about it.... They are all people who need to lose weight themselves, so maybe they just didn't want to say anything because they haven't lost weight but anyway.......Keep in mind that YOU are the only one who it is important to....A healthier you!!!!!!!


Oh, and i didn't mention that they were eating all kinds of FRIED foods= chicken wings, cheese fries smothered with cheese and bacon......I kept thinking " do you know how many calories are in those?" I didn't eat there because all they have is fried foods. I ate a good healthy dinner before I got there!!!!!