One hurtful comment was all it took

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  • Darlingir
    Darlingir Posts: 437
    so sorry to hear that...but in the end remember you are doing it for yourself :)
  • Amy_nz
    Amy_nz Posts: 145
    My first thing to say is to do it for you, not her. Show yourself what you are made of. The first thing you need to change is your mindset. Shower with the lights on. Look in the mirror past the weight and see your positives. Start each day noticing something good about yourself. Remember to take it slow and enjoy every new strength, goal and non-scale victory you have along the way.


    What she said!

    Feel free to add me - I started in a similar position (but my goal weight is higher than yours - I suspect I'm a bit taller, plus already my boobies are shrinking and I don't want them to disappear entirely!). All the best!
  • j1wright
    j1wright Posts: 286 Member
    I had numerous hurtful comments made by one person to my face that has helped me lose the weight. Thanks to that beyotch, I have lost nearly 40 pounds. I thought about every hurtful comment while working out and it pushed me farther. I actually had the oppurtunity to thank her for her rude comments and told her how much weight I lost. A friend told me later that she started working out after my comments to her.

    In the end, we helped each other out, even though we don't talk to each other anymore. LOL!
  • chocoholicdiva
    chocoholicdiva Posts: 345 Member
    For you to be called fat is oh so wrong. I know what fat looks like. Your weight? I'm still on my way there. I've actually been as heavy as 288 pounds. I'd lost a full 40 when I joined here in mid April this year. And you get called fat? That girl's something else. You could say she's a real p word. Beauty doesn't just come from the outside, you remember that. She obviously forgot that. Beauty's on the inside too, you just have to work to make it show on the outside. So you keep doing that, and show that dumb girl who's the REAL boss!!! You can add me to your list if you like, I'll do everything I can to help you out when I can, I'm on here daily.
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
    That which was meant for your harm, you are turning about for your good. Her saying such a thing is inexcusable... But some good has come from it... Like you say, then you can shove it back in her face now.
  • sexycute
    sexycute Posts: 74 Member
    Sometimes getting mad is the thing that gets you motivated. Mostly it is getting happy that will keep you motivated. Challenge yourself to take this opportunity to re-educate yourself and to practise new habits. You can begin by promising yourself you will track your meals and snacks even if you don't like that they didn't end up being perfect. You will learn from each day and you will be aware of things you can do better.

    We are all going through the same process, this is a community that will inspire and support you. Welcome.

    I love your beginning quote! I will put that up in my apartment and move forward with my goals! Thank you! :-)
  • piratesaregrand
    piratesaregrand Posts: 356 Member
    I guess all you can do is use it as motivation.

    Looking at your profile I only live over the haywards from you. Lifestyle gym in the hutt does gold coin entry zumba classes on Wednesdays at 7.30pm. I am looking for a highly uncoordinated buddy to go with if you want someone to work out with?!
  • iCupCakeNZ
    iCupCakeNZ Posts: 228 Member
    Thank you all so much

    the quote :Sometimes getting mad is the thing that gets you motivated" has inspired me most
  • Laurakbg
    Laurakbg Posts: 66
    UGH! What a nasty person! Do NOT let the *kitten* (or, in this case, the b*tches) get you down! You are cute as pie and you deserve to treat yourself well and to be gentle with yourself. How you feel about yourself is YOUR decision, not some skank's.

    One of our great First Ladies here in the US, Eleanor Roosevelt, once said "no one can humiliate you without your consent." It's worth thinking about.

    Don't be scared. Be badass. Ignore the negativity.

    You can do this.
  • Grissay
    Grissay Posts: 112 Member
    People can be so cruel!

    But you can do this! Not just to show her (sure, that'll feel good ;)) but to show yourself that you can! Just stick to MFP and you'll see yourself shrinking :)
  • asteelman4
    asteelman4 Posts: 62 Member
    You took the words right out of my mouth! You have to do it for yourself hun! Yes her comment can motivate you but if your not doing it for yourself in the long hall you might relapse! so be careful and if you set your mind to it anything is possible! good luck and feel free to add me ! (:
  • johnasmith13
    johnasmith13 Posts: 1 Member
    At 60 years old and 110 pounds overweight I know the pain. I started the first of this year rebuilding a new me and have lost 76 pounds so far. Not dieting, because when you stop dieting you gain it back and more. I lost it by making the right choices three meals a day seven days a week and getting my backside off the couch. It's so good to see all the support. Good luck...

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  • Byrdsong1920
    Byrdsong1920 Posts: 336 Member
    Wow, so crazy to hear that there are modern-day-grownup bullies! Often they are truly feeling bad about themselves and hate their lives and thats why they have to tear u down to feel taller and better about themselves! uugh! I'm sorry.

    Well, my entire life I've been the 'thicker' girl...thickest cheerleader...thickest homegirl in the 'crew', but I have loved myself at every size. Its all about your mindset. Just know that you are made in the image of God and He is perfect and beautiful and HE created u. He also doesn't make mistakes. So love urself where u are, and as you change on the outside and inside to become an even healthier u, love that person too.

    As my girl Christina Aguilera says in her song; "You are beautiful...no matter what they say ". Just keep it movin and make the change for urself -no one else.

    In the MEANTIME...send me her address and I'll do a driveby and egg her house and car! lol! j/k --hehe!

    -happy journey! Feel free to add me!-Shan
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    Karma sucks to the ones who are mean so she will get hers. You are beautiful so don't let anyone make you feel ugly!!!!!!! Add me :)
  • CharisSunny
    CharisSunny Posts: 276 Member
    That girl sounds like a real... well.. I can't say it on here :grumble:

    Feel free to add me! I will help you out best I can!
    I'll say it, what a *****!!! Wow!
    :explode:
    Add me if you want to hun :)
  • babygotback560
    babygotback560 Posts: 55 Member
    Ignore That Girl...Cuz Behind Door SHe Is Just HUrting...And Taking It Out On PPl.... She Will Learn Karma Bad... U Can Add Me As A Friend... Keep Your Head Up... ANd YOu WIll Show Her... : )
  • tnrunningnurse
    tnrunningnurse Posts: 549 Member
    First and foremost I want you to love you for who you are. Quit taking showers in the dark and learn to love you as you are....then decide what you want....to be healthy right???? not skinny, but healthy. Make small goals and post them on post notes....as you achieve your goals make new ones....next surround yourself with support, make friends on MFP that support you if they don't...then unfriend them...in your personal life same thing...people that support you. You can do this. Remember this, we are human and we will have good days and bad, it is all a part of the journey. Feel free to add me as a friend.
  • fiveohmike
    fiveohmike Posts: 1,297 Member
    Wow that chick is an asshat.

    Take the rage/anger and use it to change your life!

    Come check out a group of motivating people if your in the weight loss game for the long haul :)

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/3817-eat-more-to-weigh-less
  • jaeone
    jaeone Posts: 649 Member
    Forget about her! Do this for you! Focus in the positive things that getting healthy will do for you! Others seeing your success is just a bonus not the ultimate!!
  • iCupCakeNZ
    iCupCakeNZ Posts: 228 Member
    Sometimes getting mad is the thing that gets you motivated. Mostly it is getting happy that will keep you motivated. Challenge yourself to take this opportunity to re-educate yourself and to practise new habits. You can begin by promising yourself you will track your meals and snacks even if you don't like that they didn't end up being perfect. You will learn from each day and you will be aware of things you can do better.

    We are all going through the same process, this is a community that will inspire and support you. Welcome.

    Thank you xø
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