blah relationship stopping me from being more active...

re-assess. Are they going through a phase? Were they ever active and are now just at a place where it's not enjoyable to them?

Is it the idea of activity that bothers them? Or is it the activity that you are doing/suggesting that they don't like.

For instance, My wife is a gym nut, loves it there, loves the people, loves the environment...etc. I, on the other hand, HATE it. My hate stems from the college football program I was in, where they FORCED you into the gym for 3 hours a day in a dirty, nasty college gym and there was no fun involved, it left me never wanting to go back to a gym again.

If it's just a matter of finding the right activity, maybe you need to figure out what they will enjoy and, even if you don't like it very much, try to engage in it with them a little, I'm not saying give up what you do to do what they like, just maybe 1 day a week or something like that.

If they have no interest in the thing you love the most, and aren't willing to compromise, then you might have to think long and hard about whether this is the right person for you. I guess talking to them about it is the first step, then if you think there is any middle ground at all, you go from there. If not......

Ok, this is all based on your post and profile so take it for what its worth:

You are too cute! And you are young! As a personal trainer you know you can not motivate someone to do something they just don't want to do. If they are in a gym training with you, then they WANT to be motivated and pushed by you. If this person just isn't into it, you can't make them. Personally I say end it, only because if it is a struggle now..... Just think about a few years from now... Just think about be ing with someone with health issues and having to care for them UGH! Be with someone who values you and what you love in life!:flowerforyou:

Sending you prayers and good thoughts. I hope he responds to it.

I have the very same relationship with my boyfriend, he is a couch potato, avid TV fan and loves to eat. I am the exact opposite. I am a full time mom, with a full time job and go to the gym daily! I watch only about an hour of tv at night before I fall asleep. I eat healthy and only have healthy food in my fridge. My boyfriend apparently doesn't eat anything we have in the fridge as he is gaining weight almost daily. I have spoken with him and as with all of us, it needs to be an individual choice, his choice is to get fat and be unhealthy. I told him, thats fine, just make sure that I am the benificiary on all your policies and 401K. He laughed, but I am serious. His choices do not affect my choices. Good luck!

Is this someone you're thinking of spending the rest of your life with? You've told us what about your relationship does not work. What is working? Why are you together? With the exception of this issue do you have a great relationship and feel loved and valued?

If there are aspects of your relationship that are good and you're happy together then I would say, compromise or accept that this is one area where you'll differ.

You post makes it sound like the two of you don't really have much in common. I'd worry about someone who is exerting control over your activities and thinks their own wishes are more important than yours.

Good luck!

So what do you do when the person your dating is your complete opposite...doesnt like to be active, doesnt care about there health...and gets upset if I go workout instead of spending time with them. Im a personal trainer so not only am i very busy..im very active...on my off days i like to be outside playing sports..taking the dog swimming or hiking etc...im always doing something...the person im dating likes to go out to eat and lay around....i dont know what to do...ive tried talking about it but nothings really working...any suggestions on how to motivate...or should i end it...

*sigh* I unfortunately broke it off with him. He was too much of an obstacle and man oh man his look of disgust and confusion toward my new way of life was just heart breaking. He thought I was f'n nuts to be trying to eat so healthy. He couldn't understand why I just dont eat what I want.