I will admit... I am SCARED to lose weight!! *possible TMI?

MisanthropeKitty
MisanthropeKitty Posts: 68
edited December 21 in Motivation and Support
I have a bad history of losing weight = getting pregnant!! I have PCOS and so it seems that when I start losing weight it balances out my hormones and I ovulate and BAM! Pregnancy right when I'm starting to lose weight again!

My first child was conceived sometime after I was first diagnosed with PCOS and my OB/GYN told me to do the Atkins diet to lose weight and keep from becoming pre-diabetic. I also joined a gym and worked out 4-5 nights a week. 30 lbs lost later and I popped a positive pregnancy test!! Doh!

My second child was conceived after I joined another gym and started working out again and I lost about 10 lbs and got another positive test!

I don't "do" hormonal birth control. It doesn't work for me and my body so we use PNP but man am I scared I will end up pregnant again and we do not want anymore kids!!
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  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
    Why don't you try an iud? Some of the copper ones don't have hormones.
  • MisanthropeKitty
    MisanthropeKitty Posts: 68
    Why don't you try an iud? Some of the copper ones don't have hormones.

    I used the Mirena after my first child and packed on a LOT of weight... it also caused killer ovulation pains and cramping. I'm scared to try the copper IUD and have the same issues!!
  • iwantahealthierme13
    iwantahealthierme13 Posts: 337 Member
    What's PNP?

    If you don't want any more kids, use condoms, get your tubes tied or ask your partner to get a vasectomy. Getting pregnant has no correlation to losing weight, it just seems that way because it happened that way.

    I can't use bc either; not being able to use bc shouldn't mean you have to pop out children (I'm child-free!) Just be more careful!
  • bathsheba_c
    bathsheba_c Posts: 1,873 Member
    Sounds to me like this is a question for your gynocologist, no?

    In the meantime, there are all sorts of non-hormonal contraceptives you could use, including diaphragms, cervical caps, spermicidal foam, spermicidal films, the sponge, etc.
  • Skeels
    Skeels Posts: 929 Member
    The pull out method is always safe :drinker:
  • blueandigo
    blueandigo Posts: 296
    Wait, can you tell me this in guy talk. I don't understand all of this code talk.
  • marywanoKC
    marywanoKC Posts: 176
    Yeah, if you don't want kids, it's as easy as a snip and a day of recovery for him, and tubes tied for you.

    Is surgery invasive? Heck yeah it is, but I'd MUCH rather have a pretty standard surgery versus getting pregnant with a kid I don't want.
  • naomi8888
    naomi8888 Posts: 519 Member
    Definitely go the copper IUD. Ask your doctor about them. Or you could go with good old condoms. I think pregnancy is too important to leave to chance.
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    What's PNP?

    If you don't want any more kids, use condoms, get your tubes tied or ask your partner to get a vasectomy. Getting pregnant has no correlation to losing weight, it just seems that way because it happened that way.

    I can't use bc either; not being able to use bc shouldn't mean you have to pop out children (I'm child-free!) Just be more careful!

    ^^This. Is it that you feel sexier when you lose weight and sexy time ensues? You just have to be more careful.
  • naomi8888
    naomi8888 Posts: 519 Member
    Why don't you try an iud? Some of the copper ones don't have hormones.

    I used the Mirena after my first child and packed on a LOT of weight... it also caused killer ovulation pains and cramping. I'm scared to try the copper IUD and have the same issues!!

    The great thing about the copper one is there are no hormones involved. Google for info but I think they are a great idea.
  • Christine1110
    Christine1110 Posts: 1,786 Member
    Yikes....Good luck ; )
  • NNAhuja
    NNAhuja Posts: 669 Member
    What's PNP?

    If you don't want any more kids, use condoms, get your tubes tied or ask your partner to get a vasectomy. Getting pregnant has no correlation to losing weight, it just seems that way because it happened that way.

    I can't use bc either; not being able to use bc shouldn't mean you have to pop out children (I'm child-free!) Just be more careful!

    Actually when it comes to PCOS there is a CLEAR correlation between the two!
  • BriskisGrl
    BriskisGrl Posts: 461
    I have PCOS as well I'm on a low dose of birth control b/c I don't want the high hormones. If your not wanting pills I would think about snip snip for either of you.. There are also other things they can do. Speak to your OB.
  • NNAhuja
    NNAhuja Posts: 669 Member
    The pull out method is always safe :drinker:
    Actually it in't. Pre ejaculate also contains sperm.
  • JDKD82199
    JDKD82199 Posts: 106 Member
    I would discuss your options this with your OB/Gyn.
    What's PNP?

    If you don't want any more kids, use condoms, get your tubes tied or ask your partner to get a vasectomy. Getting pregnant has no correlation to losing weight, it just seems that way because it happened that way.

    I can't use bc either; not being able to use bc shouldn't mean you have to pop out children (I'm child-free!) Just be more careful!

    Getting pregnant can have to do with losing weight. Obesity affects hormones and for many women prevents ovulation which, in turn, prevents pregnancy.
  • MisanthropeKitty
    MisanthropeKitty Posts: 68
    I'm trying to talk the husband into a V but he's being a wuss about it. I will look into the copper IUD more, I am just really scared of the side effects that the Mirena caused even though it was probably the hormones in the Mirena that caused them... still makes me nervous to go that route again!
  • JoeyTajzai
    JoeyTajzai Posts: 1,198 Member
    Does the husband use condoms?
  • littlelaurie14
    littlelaurie14 Posts: 224 Member
    The pull out method is always safe :drinker:

    I learned the hard way that it's not.
    :ohwell: hehh
  • MisanthropeKitty
    MisanthropeKitty Posts: 68
    What's PNP?

    If you don't want any more kids, use condoms, get your tubes tied or ask your partner to get a vasectomy. Getting pregnant has no correlation to losing weight, it just seems that way because it happened that way.

    I can't use bc either; not being able to use bc shouldn't mean you have to pop out children (I'm child-free!) Just be more careful!

    PNP = pull and pray!

    PCOS causes the hormones to be all crazy and something about losing weight puts them back to normal and causes the body to ovulate. I don't know all of the science behind it though. Also, I know several PCOS women that being on low-dose BC pills caused their body to ovulate by regulating the hormones.
  • MisanthropeKitty
    MisanthropeKitty Posts: 68
    Does the husband use condoms?

    Sometimes... I try to avoid sex during my fertile times but if it does happen I tell him to use a condom to be safe.
  • rachellosesitall85
    rachellosesitall85 Posts: 497 Member
    They always did say people in shape have a higher chance of popping out babies. However, you mentioned you do the good ole pull n pray so that just may be it. I mean, the little guys have a duty and even a tablespoon of pre-ejaculate can knock you up. I'm a little scared myself, I'm on nuvaring and so far, so good but I'm scared that 1. I'll get hit on wayyyy too much as a skinny, and 2. I'll get knocked up!
  • elizabethmae1214
    elizabethmae1214 Posts: 38
    I'm sorry but I think this is ridiculous. Pregnancy is something you can control. Condoms, vasectomy, etc.
  • victoria4321
    victoria4321 Posts: 1,719 Member
    Does the husband use condoms?

    Sometimes... I try to avoid sex during my fertile times but if it does happen I tell him to use a condom to be safe.
    Well you're obviously not good at predicting your fertile time so maybe the natural family planning method isn't for you. Doesn't pcos cause irregular ovulation too? Technically you can't rely on predicting your fertile times then. Make sure you teach your own kids better when it comes to being responsible.
  • jsapninz
    jsapninz Posts: 909 Member
    Read prior post, nevermind. :ohwell:
  • obsidianwings
    obsidianwings Posts: 1,237 Member

    PNP = pull and pray!


    LOL thats where you're going wrong! I assumed it was some kind of abbreviation for natural family planning, although i'm not sure if that would be very easy with PCOS. If you don't want to try any other kinds of hormonal contraception your next step is really copper IUD, or tubes tied if you don't want any more at all/can afford it.
  • emdeegan
    emdeegan Posts: 219 Member
    buy your husband a very expensive road bike, spandex and encourage him to start touring on weekends... almost as effective as PNP.. but not as effective as the snip ;)
  • jsapninz
    jsapninz Posts: 909 Member
    Well you're obviously not good at predicting your fertile time so maybe the natural family planning method isn't for you. Doesn't pcos cause irregular ovulation too? Technically you can't rely on predicting your fertile times then. Make sure you teach your own kids better when it comes to being responsible.

    ^This. And look into surgery as others have suggested. Not losing weight because you fear pregnancy is a poor excuse when there are SO MANY options out there.
  • MisanthropeKitty
    MisanthropeKitty Posts: 68
    Does the husband use condoms?

    Sometimes... I try to avoid sex during my fertile times but if it does happen I tell him to use a condom to be safe.
    Well you're obviously not good at predicting your fertile time so maybe the natural family planning method isn't for you. Doesn't pcos cause irregular ovulation too? Technically you can't rely on predicting your fertile times then. Make sure you teach your own kids better when it comes to being responsible.

    LOL, I did not practice avoiding during fertile times with my two babes. They were very much wanted and loved but surprises! This is just what I have been doing since my youngest was born.
  • MisanthropeKitty
    MisanthropeKitty Posts: 68
    Well you're obviously not good at predicting your fertile time so maybe the natural family planning method isn't for you. Doesn't pcos cause irregular ovulation too? Technically you can't rely on predicting your fertile times then. Make sure you teach your own kids better when it comes to being responsible.

    ^This. And look into surgery as others have suggested. Not losing weight because you fear pregnancy is a poor excuse when there are SO MANY options out there.

    Oh I am GOING to lose it!! I definitely didn't mean that I wasn't going to lose the weight for fear of pregnancy!! I just wanted to see what others had to say about birth control and losing weight. I will definitely be looking into the copper IUD more...
  • BriskisGrl
    BriskisGrl Posts: 461
    Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is a health problem that can affect a woman's hormone levels, periods, and ovulation. This can affect fertility .

    You can not accurately track fertility while having this condition. Unless your taking medication to try and regulate your cycles. Weight does factor in with this condition b/c it effects your hormones, as well as can cause you to become type 2 diabetic if you become insulin resistant..

    Way the pro's and con's on what would benefit you the most.. I've been personally told that even if hubby and I BOTH got fixed that chances are I would still have to be on birth control due to having PCOS and another issue for pain management.
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