Self-Esteem

1. You do NOT "compete with this" in a healthy relationship.

2. My husband never comments on other women, and I never comment on other men. Not all men do that. I don't think I would be ok with it if my husband did, I would talk to him about it.

3. Talk to him about it. Tell him that his actions speak a hell of a lot louder than words, and it's bothering you.

4. You deserve this for you. Not for him. Not for nasty pinup models that are airbrushed.

5. Good luck. You are not alone.

How are you seeing these comments?

Are they one facebook or something?
I think it's inappropriate for your boyfriend to be saying things like that. It's obviously completely normal for him to find other women attractive, but these types of comments should be kept to himself!

I think there's a fine line between noticing a pretty woman and to outright tell her she is sexy. Some might say that it's harmless because it's online... regardless, it could escalate, and it is just hurtful if it is visible to you.

Don't lose motivation hun You are doing this for your health, for your confidence, for YOU. You are going to have to live with yourself for a very long time, so I think it's important for you to get healthier and love yourself.

Hope this works out for you!

I was doing really good with going to the gym and eating healthy. Lately I have noticed my significant other commenting on pictures on the internet of skinny, in shape woman. This really starting to mess with my self esteem. I have at least 70-100 pounds to lose so it will be awhile before I can even begin to compete with this. If I try to talk to him about it he tells me that I am beautiful and he loves me but at the same time his comments say that they are sexy... I feel like I am going to start losing my motivation and I really need this to not happen. I know that he loves I really don’t care that he looks at other woman cause lets be real all men do but I feel like I am not sexy to him. Does anyone have any advice for me?

1) you shouldn't be trying to compete with other women on MFP or women in general...
2) your competition should be with yourself...
3) if he loves you, and treats you like a princess or queen...and adores the hell out of you....then let go your doubts...and continue to kick butt in the gym and eat healthy....

extra) be sure to communicate ...talk about things that you find sexy about each other...and be open minded about doing things or adding things sexier to the relationship

My b/f does the same thing. You cant let it get to you. If he didnt care about you, he wouldnt be with you. For me, its MORE motivation to get the weight off so he will look at ME more than those pics of sexy women.

TBH, I look at pics of sexy, well built guys. But I dont WANT them....I want my b/f.

Back when I had S.O. anything like that was a motivator for me to work harder. It doesn't make the fact that they are being said okay if they bother you it's not. But make sure you've told him that since guys can miss what we women consider neon signs about our emotional state.

Now as a single girl every comment good or bad is my motivation. I love the good ones because they make me feel awesome and I want to keep getting them and the bad ones are good at making me want to work harder even if they hurt.

Good luck!

My b/f does the same thing. You cant let it get to you. If he didnt care about you, he wouldnt be with you. For me, its MORE motivation to get the weight off so he will look at ME more than those pics of sexy women.

TBH, I look at pics of sexy, well built guys. But I dont WANT them....I want my b/f.

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Awww....thanks.

My husband and I are both trying to get in shape for each other but most important for ourselves. I haven't experienced this but I can totaly understand how you must be feeling. I agree with some of the others let your husband know how this makes you feel and remember you have to do this for you.

Don't give up, I know how hard it is to try to make changes to your life and I know the Devil is busy so just stay prayerful, keep exercising and stay focused!!