Guys need your opinions! Relationships?

From what I've seen on here you're amazing! Many guys are douche bags, straight up! Be patient!!!! Never settle for anything less than what you deserve!!!!

during school I was very shy and self consious. A lot of the time I was told it was not because I was unattractive, but because I didnt have ANY confidence. Once you gain that, you will see the changes. People will notice you. Be more open and have fun! Trust me I was going through the same thing!

I'm personally pretty shy, so I generally need some indication from a girl that she's interested in being approached. Even something as small as a smile at least lets me know that the girl MIGHT be interested in talking to me.

It's difficult to say whether or not you're approachable since it really depends on how you act.

Also, when is it that you're interested in being approached? If a girl goes to a bar and sits there alone I'd assume she'd be willing to chat, but if you go sit at a coffee shop with your computer, I'd personally need some other indication that I wouldn't be bothering you by trying to strike up a conversation.

I am guessing you are very shy and conservative because of the fact that you did not post your face in your profile picture [same here]. Please know, there is wrong with that. Personally I find it very attractive. Do not let men from "The Bar Scene" or "The Meat Market" at the Gym dictate how you should act or present yourself. You are not doing anything wrong until you change who you really are for someone else.

From what I've seen on here you're amazing! Many guys are douche bags, straight up! Be patient!!!! Never settle for anything less than what you deserve!!!!

I know that's right

I've been out before with friends who have dates with them and they got hit on before I did. One with her date standing right beside her! I'm married and have no need to pick up a guy but gee wiz! A girl needs to feel attractive from time to time and that was a major blow to my self esteem. Good luck!

I've always been quiet and shy. It was really hard for me to come out of my shell.

I found out years later that a lot of men liked me, but were afraid to approach me. I guess my shyness gave a standoffish "don't come close" vibe.

I had absolutely no idea.

However, one man didn't let it stop him. We've been married for six years now.

I really need your opinions.. Serious replies only please.

So I think it's really weird when I see attractive men and they're with girls that are not attractive whatsoever and trashy at that. Then you have girls like me who are shy and conservative. Ya and I can't seem to find a guy or relationship.

I guess my question is are guys bothered by this? Am I not approachable? (not trying to be arrogant but, it's definitely not because I'm not attractive,).

Im just wondering what goes through your head when you see an attractive yet quiet and conservative woman?

Personally shy people always come across as aragont to me like they are to good to talk to you.
Making a little effort to smile is enough and makes you a bit more approchable, one word answers is a good example of the above.Dont do that haha

Also dont go to bars to pull if you want a bf every guy i know rates woman as 2 species
bar hoes who are good for some loving and GF material from work/hobbies ect

I really need your opinions.. Serious replies only please.

So I think it's really weird when I see attractive men and they're with girls that are not attractive whatsoever and trashy at that. Then you have girls like me who are shy and conservative. Ya and I can't seem to find a guy or relationship.

I guess my question is are guys bothered by this? Am I not approachable? (not trying to be arrogant but, it's definitely not because I'm not attractive,).

Im just wondering what goes through your head when you see an attractive yet quiet and conservative woman?

Attractive, outwardly conservative, even shy women are actually my ideal. In a social situation I would smile at you...if you returned my smile and weren't running for the hills yet, I would definitely say hi.

Maybe you are focusing on the wrong thing here. Don't worry about what guys think because it varries and most of it is disgusting :bigsmile: . What YOU can do is walk up to the guy and talk to them and then they will most likely be thinking, "Wow, this girl is pretty cool and POSSIBLY likes me. Maybe I should follow up on this?"

Too expand on this, I think most of the time a guy is looking for eye contact and a smile as an opening to talk to a girl. If you give them that it kind of signals that you are receptive to them talking to you. If you don't give them that it is like saying, "Stay Away!"

what goes through my head? is she married?

THIS!

If I know she's not married, and doesn't have the body language of a mental patient, then I have no problem striking up a conversation.

I know you said guys... but... I'd like to mention something I've heard a thousand times from men. The MOST attractive trait of a woman is confidence. Period.

All my friends are guys, and yes, this is absolutely true. I always attracted guys by being super confident and almost aloof...even if I didn't feel that way.

I totally agree with you! GIRLS WE ARE WHAT WE PROJECT! If we project insecurity, or something like that people will perceive it. Just feel good about yourself, walk straight, look up and shine

So I think it's really weird when I see attractive men and they're with girls that are not attractive whatsoever and trashy at that.

Your idea of "trashy" might be somone else's idea of attractive.

So I think it's really weird when I see attractive men and they're with girls that are not attractive whatsoever and trashy at that.

whups...
when you see guys who you think are attractive with women who you think are not attractive... there must be something you are missing. Something that isn't apparent from looking. This something that you can't see from looking is likely the source of beauty. It is why my son says I am the most beautiful person in the world.
These are the things that are beautiful that attract and also (imho) support longer lasting relationships:
confidence, kindness, wit, good sense of humor, giving, loving, caring, Listening, patience, creativity, dependability, loyalty, faithfulness, withholding judgement, humility, trust, depth of character...
things like that. You can't see them from looking.
When you have those sorts of things going on inside, you become beautiful regardless of externals. So... tone up the internal virtues and then go get em!