HELP! I have no social life.

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  • MNguerita
    MNguerita Posts: 199 Member
    Go dancing...catch a movie, catch up on all the things you never had time for...many gyms and community eds have adult outings to the theater, casino's, dinner cruises, baseball games all sorts of places.
  • Notorious_T
    Notorious_T Posts: 384
    Take a cheap class. Like cooking or pottery....?

    very good idea!!! In my area we have a Color Me Mine and it's def something fun to do and you can go alone wothout feeling weird and there's always other people to chat with :)
  • bethdris
    bethdris Posts: 1,090 Member
    Once my husband and I reach that part of life, I'd like some ideas too....Right now, our kids (5,3,2) have more of a social life than we do.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    Go to the movies, eat out (it's fun sometimes by yourself because it doesn't cost much), go to a neighboring town and shop or look around at what's up, go for a bike ride (not for exercise, just for fun), go to a bar and get hammered, write a list of all the things you want to do (that's fun all by itself), do some gardening, and take lots of naps.
  • littlepinkhearts
    littlepinkhearts Posts: 1,055 Member
    I love to shoot pool and have no problem going out and shooting a few games by myself. Also go out with friends in the evening to play whenever. If i'm gettin a little stir crazy (which doesn't take much these days) i'll go outta town to visit family for the weekend. Other then that it's focusing on my weight loss routine.
  • IamRoJ
    IamRoJ Posts: 530 Member
    Write down all the things you have ever wanted to do/start/see/try and take the plunge to try tick one of the list every week, month, whichever is appropriate. You'll meet new people and maybe gain a new passion or new interest

    Wishing you luck, you can do it!

    ^^^ so this. You may find a new passion. This is why I took an improv class - always wanted to. In the meantime, I found a great creative outlet, a reason to be out one night a week as me (not mom or mrs) and at the same time an awesome group of friends.
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    I spend a lot of time on this one website... :embarassed:
  • tamheath
    tamheath Posts: 702 Member
    Some really great ideas here. I am very lucky that I have a small group of friends who I get together with at least twice a month. How did I meet those friends? Through my son's football. If your son is involved in any kind of sport or club, have a small party for his friends from the team, and invite the parents (or moms) to hang out during the kids' activity, and share a bottle of wine. :drinker: Good luck!
  • hooperkay
    hooperkay Posts: 463 Member
    Volunteer somewhere, like animal shelter, or nursing home. If you like doing something like crafts or anything, then find a community college and become an instructor. They are always looking for non credit instructors, you'll meet people and make extra money.
  • sweetmissie
    sweetmissie Posts: 27 Member
    that's wonderful i'm hoping to do the how long did it take and what did you
    i need all the help i can get
    thank you
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Get hammered.
  • kbmnurse
    kbmnurse Posts: 2,484 Member
    Catch an outdoor concert, go for a hike. Put an add on a on line dating service you never know.
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    So... meetup.com and volunteering seem to be popular ideas.

    If anyone else has any other suggestions, keep em coming. Thank you!
  • BandedTriaRN
    BandedTriaRN Posts: 303
    Go to Church if you are into that (whatever religion they have meetings) and a lot have divorcing support groups
    Go to WW, TOPS, or OA if you want more friends who are losing weight too
    Take a non-credit class at a community college? knitting, photography, foreign languages, yoga
    Join a Zumba or other exercise class
    Go to city council meetings if you are interested in that type thing
    Go to PTA meetings to meet other parents from your area and maybe singles of both sexes
    Go to a divorce support group
    Join a walking group, I see them advertised all the time here
    Join a club...whatever your interests are: photography, writing, cooking
    Join a woman's group : they have some really cool ones here for networking or fun. One is a women's "tea" club and they often go in costume
    Volunteer for a charity
    Join a political campaign of your choice
    Just a small list, hope that helps.
    Work towards a degree, if you don't have one already or want to advance further?
    meet with friends after work for happy hour!

    PS: always keep a social life even if you are involved in a relationship!
  • danileeb
    danileeb Posts: 1 Member
    join meetup.com, you can search groups in your area that do fun stuff, and things you are interested in. If you don't find one, create one, you will be suprised how many others are looking for things to do and people to hang out with.
  • BandedTriaRN
    BandedTriaRN Posts: 303
    THis is a great idea! They have leagues for the horrible bowler to the best!
  • kymillion
    kymillion Posts: 791 Member
    My divorce was finalized last month.

    My son is on vacation with my parents for the next three weeks.

    I got pregnant at 17 so... 11 years later... I have *NO* idea what single adults without a child in the house do with their free time.
    I don't really have a lot of friends to do stuff with, either. So I guess I need ideas that don't require a group of people I already know...

    Obviously, I will get to the gym and exercise; however, what else can I do with my time while I am responsibility-free?


    HELP!

    well you can visit the beach.. and like roller blade.. man I dont know if I was in the same boat what I would do..?
    I would travel and go on mini get away if I were you I am one for travel though even if its just a few hours away.. hiking.. dog walking .. cooking classes.. I would do all of these things.. make it as exciting as you are .. if your interest are literature then go to readings and to social like gatherings where you can absorb as much around you as possible..
  • kymillion
    kymillion Posts: 791 Member
    Volunteer somewhere, like animal shelter, or nursing home. If you like doing something like crafts or anything, then find a community college and become an instructor. They are always looking for non credit instructors, you'll meet people and make extra money.

    this idea rocks as well.
  • SingeSange
    SingeSange Posts: 98 Member
    Do you like movies? Go to a movie... I enjoy going to a movie by myself on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon.
    Or hanging out at Starbucks or something - then you're around people at least.
  • michellekicks
    michellekicks Posts: 3,624 Member
    Well I have 5 kids at home so when I find an opportunity to be responsibility-free I take advantage of it :D

    Go for a run/walk/bike ride
    Go to a swimming pool and soak in a hot tub/sauna/steam room
    Go to a park and read a magazine cover to cover
    Go to a beach and read a book
    Plant something in my yard
    Paint a room in my house
    Go for coffee/lunch/dinner/dessert/breakfast with a friend
  • maab_connor
    maab_connor Posts: 3,927 Member
    naked living room time. *nods*

    or - is there a home project that you've been wanting to do? time to get it done w/o the narl around. or a new hiking trail? day at the spa?
  • elenathegreat
    elenathegreat Posts: 3,988 Member
    How about a "staycation" in your own city? Become a tourist and walk around the shops, the streets, have a coffee on a patio somewhere.

    This actually sounds kinda cool, Cory...something I always wanted to do.
  • Nikki_42
    Nikki_42 Posts: 298 Member
    1-meetup.com (it's not dating, just people who want to hang out and all types of things are posted)
    2-the next time someone says "let's do something", actually make a plan and do it (even if they don't end up being a friend, one of their friends may be)
    3-go to a local bar, sit directly at the bar, and start talking to whoever sits next to you (doesn't matter if you're nervous, people go to a bar to socialize and want to talk)
    4-go to free events around the city (even ones that aren't in your interest range); local library or free papers will tell you about events
    5-never say no to anything, seriously

    Have fun! :smile:
  • tialynn1
    tialynn1 Posts: 884 Member
    I don't have a lot of spare time. But, I know by October first, I will have more free time on my hands. I work 2 jobs and go to school, school will be done by October.
    I just looked up meetup.com and joined a couple of groups that I am interested such as walking/hiking groups and photograpy. I love to take pictures, but would love to explore it with people that have that interest. I don't know if I will be able to do much before October, but I will try. As long as I know in advance, I can schedule my school work and second job around these activities.
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    Call up the friends you do have, even if you're not super close, and ask them to go to coffee or something. Maybe you'll become closer in the process!
  • littlepinkhearts
    littlepinkhearts Posts: 1,055 Member
    bump
  • SMarie10
    SMarie10 Posts: 956 Member
    1-meetup.com (it's not dating, just people who want to hang out and all types of things are posted)
    2-the next time someone says "let's do something", actually make a plan and do it (even if they don't end up being a friend, one of their friends may be)
    3-go to a local bar, sit directly at the bar, and start talking to whoever sits next to you (doesn't matter if you're nervous, people go to a bar to socialize and want to talk)
    4-go to free events around the city (even ones that aren't in your interest range); local library or free papers will tell you about events
    5-never say no to anything, seriously

    Have fun! :smile:
    I've been single for quite a while, and I'm always busy - In fact I can't remember a night when I didn't have an opportunity to do something either on my own or with friends. These suggestions ^^^ are excellent, but one of the more rewarding things I did with free time was volunteer at an adult literacy center - really felt like I was making a contribution.

    If your looking for social things, joining a sports team - volleyball, softball, golf league, tennis will get you some social time and exercise all rolled into one.

    Don't sit at home - and don't be afraid to go somewhere, anywhere by yourself. I've been to bars, museums, concerts, casinos etc.. and rarely have a time where I don't start up a conversation with someone.
  • TK266
    TK266 Posts: 3,638 Member
    not sure if it couts as social, but you can go to things in your area tha tyou have ever visited.

    I suggest Ghost towns (cuz I am lame, that's why) http://southernarizonaguide.com/ghost-towns-southern-arizona/
  • nas24
    nas24 Posts: 880 Member
    No social life here either... figure it will be that way for a while. I'm away from all my friends, hubby on deployment. The only "me" time i get is gym time. I literally do NOTHING else. FML!
  • CoryIda
    CoryIda Posts: 7,870 Member
    not sure if it couts as social, but you can go to things in your area tha tyou have ever visited.

    I suggest Ghost towns (cuz I am lame, that's why) http://southernarizonaguide.com/ghost-towns-southern-arizona/
    Thank you... I actually grew up in a semi-ghost town in Arizona and actually lived right next to Ruby, which is a bonafide ghost town. I think I'm good on those.

    http://www.ghosttowns.com/states/az/ruby.html

    I do think, though, that visiting places I haven't been before might be fun.

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