Dating while being plus sized...

I clicked "post reply" cuz I was distracted. Anyway, you're beautiful, you shouldn't have much trouble finding someone. I kinda went after my partner, poor thing, but he walked in my store looking hot and well....what could I do lol?
Unfortunately, I am a huge dork and wouldn't have any good suggestions. I notice guys making convo with me at the bookstore, not bad looking either, but I'm taken so I kinda cut it off.

Honestly, if you aren't interested in a serious relationship right now, I would give the free dating sites a try. I didn't meet my current boyfriend there, but I went on a lot of fun and interesting dates while I was a member on OkCupid.com. I had just broken up with my ex and wanted to get out there and meet people, so it was a good time.

Also, meetup.com is fun - it's not really a dating site, but you get to meet people with similar interests, and it's nice for just meeting people (also, it kept me from holing myself up in my room feeling sorry for myself).

Use this time to have fun and don't put too much pressure on yourself.

Hi! I am so sorry about your relationship ending. I have been there and it is devastating regardless of which side you are on.

I have been married for 11 months to a man I met on a free dating site (plentyoffish.com). We have been together 4.5 years now. I didn't place much faith in plentyoffish.com (POF, for short) or other free dating sites, since there seems to be a direct correlation between the subscription price and the quality of the subscribers. There are lots of unemployed, uneducated, etc. people on POF. But I always figured that since I, an employed, well educated, attractive, and intelligent woman was on POF, surely there must be a few similar men out there! And I was right. My husband was starting his last semester of college when we started dating, so he was a "poor college student" which is why he was using a free site, but he is now gainfully employed, has both bachelor's and master's degrees, and I would say he's pretty attractive

I wouldn't discount the free sites just yet, especially since you are just looking for friendship/casual dating right now. The way I saw it, was that it didn't cost me anything to be on them, so why not? Eharmony is good but unless you live in a very large city, you will probably have lots of matches that are 5+ hours away. It's also something I would wait on until you're ready for something long term. I think that anyone who pays Eharmony's high prices is most likely looking for something serious.

Also, I've been plus size my whole life and while dating is a bit harder because some men flat out don't want to date a PS woman, there are men out there who will. And if you think about it, if the guy loves you when you're PS, he'll definitely love you when you slim down, and that's how you know he's a keeper

Good luck!!

Honestly, if you aren't interested in a serious relationship right now, I would give the free dating sites a try. I didn't meet my current boyfriend there, but I went on a lot of fun and interesting dates while I was a member on OkCupid.com. I had just broken up with my ex and wanted to get out there and meet people, so it was a good time.

Also, meetup.com is fun - it's not really a dating site, but you get to meet people with similar interests, and it's nice for just meeting people (also, it kept me from holing myself up in my room feeling sorry for myself).

Use this time to have fun and don't put too much pressure on yourself.

I AGREE 100% !! dating sites don't mean "serious relationship" unless you allow to get to that point.

Ya'Know I find that if your doing something YOU like, whatever that is, you'll invariable be hangin with others who like the same thing. Viola- meaningful conversation! I think, as its been true in my life, that its less about where/how do i meet people, but more what do I WANT TO DO? Find your passion- go for it

I used okcupid and I met my boyfriend that way. He was someone who also used to be plus sized and lost a lot of weight. I was plus size when we started dating and he really inspired me to finally lose that weight. Plus I knew he would eat the good food with me so it was helpful to have someone to keep me on track.

I have also had friends meet people with varying success using meetup.com. It's a way to meet people doing activities you already enjoy doing.

I've lost 75lbs since being with him (he's lost another 10-15lbs) and we are very happy together still 2 years later.

Don't let being plus sized/age/whatever else stop you from finding love again. Everyone deserves to be loved and you CAN find love again.

I met my fiance on POF and I was getting ready to cancel my account.. haha
you never know...

try making new friends first- concentrate on being happy with yourself, and then when the time is right, look back into dating.

if you work from home, it may be a challenge to meet people- look in your area for groups with similar interests- book clubs, sports leagues (for fun types..), wine tastings- once you start making new friends, and you work on your fitness level, you will gain a new sense of confidneconfidence, which will help you be ready for a relationship!

Good luck- add me if you want a new friend!

I also suggest Meetup.com or maybe look into volunteering activities in your local community?? Maybe rather than focus on a relationship, you focus on yourself and bettering yourself not only physically but also emotionally. Sometimes giving back helps you get out there, meet new people in a different setting and see what the world has to offer. Make some new friends which in turn will get you out there even more in a new setting and then yes, the rest can just fall in place.
I did meet my boyfriend online, so I'm all for that too. But I've met some amazing people through school and volunteering. I find meeting people doing things I love are the best because then at least you have a common interest!!

Best of luck.

I've been in the same boat for the last few years. I agree that the best thing is just to focus on socializing, making new friends (men or women). One way that I have met several cool people over the last year or so is on the website Yelp.com. They have an events page on their website and depending on the city that you live in and how many people actively use the website in your city, there may be a lot of fun things for you to check out. So it's not a dating site, but I have found it to be a fun way to meet people and find fun stuff to do.

Feel free to joint our MFP single people group
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/282-single-peeps

I don't really like eHarmony, I'm on Match right now and it seems to be working pretty well. If you just want to try it for a bit, there are free sites like OKCupid or Plenty of Fish. I also hear good things about meetup.com, not necessarily for dating but for making friends or meeting people in general.

Ya'Know I find that if your doing something YOU like, whatever that is, you'll invariable be hangin with others who like the same thing. Viola- meaningful conversation! I think, as its been true in my life, that its less about where/how do i meet people, but more what do I WANT TO DO? Find your passion- go for it

This is exactly right in my opinion.
Think about things you enjoy, and see if there is anything local nearby, like a club or hobby group that you can join. It's a great way to meet people with similar interests.

In terms of making new friends (or meeting a potential partner), I always found it was a good idea to be approachable. In the beginning I would spend most of the time I was with other people thinking 'they won't like me', 'They think I'm fat' etc etc. Because I was thinking these negative things it really did project outwards and didn't make me very attractive to other people. I have now moved the full-length mirror out of my bedroom so I don't see my body EVERY morning. I choose clothes I think are pretty, I do my hair and makeup and I leave the house feeling good. I'm still the same person inside that I was when I was slim, albeit with a few more self-conscious thoughts. The more you practice pushing those thoughts out of your mind, the better you get at it and the quicker you get back to being yourself again.

It's also always a good idea to concentrate on the other person you are talking to. Ask them questions about themselves, keep them talking about themselves. Everyone loves to talk about themselves, and being the interested listener will get you major brownie points and make you even more attractive.

Good luck! And the main thing, have fun with it!

I met my husband on a chat site 10 years ago. I weighed 340 lbs. He saw past the packaging to the gift inside and we have been married for almost 8 years. Before I met him, I dated several guys. I did not let my size hold me back and the guys I dated didn't have an issue with it either.

The suggestions for meetup.com are the best. You are out doing something you enjoy and so is the other person. That means you have a common interest. Don't go to functions looking for a man....go looking to enjoy yourself. If you appear to be on the hunt, you will chase people off

Being single isn't all that bad..being with the wrong person is a heck of a lot worse.

I'm sorry to hear that!

I met my husband on a dating site when I moved somewhere new and knew absolutely no one (and didn't speak the language), and all I was really looking for was some friends and maybe a few dates. It was a surprise, and an amazing experience!

Meetup.com also saved my social life when I moved to another country. I met lots of people who spoke English and were interested in having fun, trying new activities and meeting new friends- I really suggest it!