Self Sabotage

LisaVld34
LisaVld34 Posts: 63 Member
edited December 22 in Motivation and Support
I am hitting that point where I no longer like the comments I am getting about my weight loss. They make me feel self-conscious.

Even though I've lost 33 pounds, I keep thinking that I am not going to get to my goal and because of that I am beginning to go off course. Parts of me doesn't want to watch what I eat all the time and now that the weight is coming off slower it feels like a lost cause.

I am self sabotaging all the success I've accomplished. How do I get back on track?

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  • supplemama
    supplemama Posts: 1,956 Member
    You just have to do it! what helps me is to have a routine and stick with it. That takes my mind off it so much. Try eating the same things every day for a week, exercising at the same time(s) every day, stuff like that. Write up a routine and stick with it, for just a week.
  • SairahRose
    SairahRose Posts: 412 Member
    I got to that point once. I had a day where I didn't track anything and ate what I wanted.
    And then the day after I felt better, and well enough to continue with the weight loss journey. Being on the wagon is hard, so sometimes you need to get off and stretch your legs a bit.
    You can do it!
  • Cndressing
    Cndressing Posts: 36
    Don' make excuses, i've been there too, and until i stopped making excuses to not go to gym this day or not go for a walk and i forced myself to get up and move then i got back in track.
  • Linda_Darlene
    Linda_Darlene Posts: 453 Member
    You just have to do it! what helps me is to have a routine and stick with it. That takes my mind off it so much. Try eating the same things every day for a week, exercising at the same time(s) every day, stuff like that. Write up a routine and stick with it, for just a week.

    I agree! Do it for another week. Sometimes we need short time goals. Looking too far ahead can sometimes be discouraging. You have come so far! Don't give up now!
  • dijonwillis
    dijonwillis Posts: 43
    YES! my goal is to lose 60 lbs. I started at 240 and got down to 185 (55lbs lost!) Then it got tough, the last five pounds just didn't want to budge, so I got discouraged and fell off the wagon, I am now at 195 and struggling to get back into it so I can meet my goal. Stick to it, you can do it!

    - Dijon
  • zenchild
    zenchild Posts: 680 Member
    Maybe, for one week, go to maintenance calories. Give yourself a little vacation. You sound like you're burnt out and need a break. Eat at maintenance, allow yourself to recharge and then get back to it. BUT, only do this if you know you'll be able to get back on the wagon. If you don't think you'll be able to get going again, maybe change your routine, change your workouts. Just do something different.
  • mcorange01
    mcorange01 Posts: 33 Member
    Oh my, I completly get it as well!! I too have had the same issues, there are days I feel like.. I am NOT going to log today... it never fails though by the time I get home I do log it all and then feel quilty about all the crap I ate that day. I have learned the roller coaster is a part of everyday life and I am getting better about accepting it, My fear is that I, like you will have more and more days like today and then I will fall off the wagon for good. Stay strong in your mind and your keep your goals in check, easier said than done I know! Hang in there.. I am hanging with you!! :drinker:
  • Kincar
    Kincar Posts: 601 Member
    Maybe, for one week, go to maintenance calories. Give yourself a little vacation. You sound like you're burnt out and need a break. Eat at maintenance, allow yourself to recharge and then get back to it. BUT, only do this if you know you'll be able to get back on the wagon. If you don't think you'll be able to get going again, maybe change your routine, change your workouts. Just do something different.

    This is what I did: ate at maintenance for a week. It was rather freeing and a nice reprieve from watching every thing that I ate. I still counted calories but with a higher calorie goal I could afford to eat things I normally might skip.

    After the week I felt better about getting back on track.
  • dctina
    dctina Posts: 5
    I find that if I occassionally allow myself an "over" day, not only do I feel good about tracking, but within a day or two, I lose a little bit! I'm at a stuck point, too. For me, that means something needs to change. In my case, I need to increase my exercise (doing very little now). If you are a routines gal, being VERY regular may be the key for you!

    Don't get discouraged--you WANT it to come off slowly, because then you KNOW you've WORKED it off, rather than forced it in an unhealthy way. The closer you get, the harder it is to work it off.
  • Leslie85
    Leslie85 Posts: 265 Member
    Just because the weight isn't falling off doesn't mean your body isn't changing. I haven't seen the numbers change on the scale in almost 2 months...but I can tell such a huge difference in the way my clothes fit and a HUGE difference in my muscle tone.

    I have days like that too. Some days I think, "well, I'm not losing anything...so I'll just go back to eating like I was before!" but then I have to remember that my body IS changing!
  • HLeAnn
    HLeAnn Posts: 261 Member
    Maybe, for one week, go to maintenance calories. Give yourself a little vacation. You sound like you're burnt out and need a break. Eat at maintenance, allow yourself to recharge and then get back to it. BUT, only do this if you know you'll be able to get back on the wagon. If you don't think you'll be able to get going again, maybe change your routine, change your workouts. Just do something different.

    I did this for a week or so while on vacation. It was nice. I didn't gain any weight and i was able to be more liberal with some of my food choices. Namely beer. LOL. Now I'm back at eating at a defecit and doing just fine.
  • LisaVld34
    LisaVld34 Posts: 63 Member
    I find that if I occassionally allow myself an "over" day, not only do I feel good about tracking, but within a day or two, I lose a little bit! I'm at a stuck point, too. For me, that means something needs to change. In my case, I need to increase my exercise (doing very little now). If you are a routines gal, being VERY regular may be the key for you!

    Don't get discouraged--you WANT it to come off slowly, because then you KNOW you've WORKED it off, rather than forced it in an unhealthy way. The closer you get, the harder it is to work it off.

    I DO allow myself one cheat day a week. I find though it creeps to two on the weekends and then I am playing catch up during the week and getting frustrated. I need to keep it to my one day BUT I don't want to. I am feeling stressed and not feeling very much like watching calories.
  • LisaVld34
    LisaVld34 Posts: 63 Member
    Don' make excuses, i've been there too, and until i stopped making excuses to not go to gym this day or not go for a walk and i forced myself to get up and move then i got back in track.

    The one thing I haven't let go of is Zumba and I am happy for that but you're right I am making excuses and I don't know how to stop sabotaging my hard work!
  • RMCoffey
    RMCoffey Posts: 27
    If you let yourself quit now - imagine how hard it will be to start over!! :smile: Keep Pushing through - you'll be glad you did!
  • LisaVld34
    LisaVld34 Posts: 63 Member
    If you let yourself quit now - imagine how hard it will be to start over!! :smile: Keep Pushing through - you'll be glad you did!

    I know, thanks.
  • LadyIntrepid
    LadyIntrepid Posts: 399 Member
    Don't ever hide your beauty and your light. Step into it fully. You deserve to live and be the way you've always wanted.
  • ShaSimone
    ShaSimone Posts: 270 Member
    If you have an off day, or two, you didn't fail! The only failure is giving up. Start back on track the very next moment and make that choice a good one.
  • tabithaanne
    tabithaanne Posts: 38
    I got to that point once. I had a day where I didn't track anything and ate what I wanted.
    And then the day after I felt better, and well enough to continue with the weight loss journey. Being on the wagon is hard, so sometimes you need to get off and stretch your legs a bit.
    You can do it!

    Definitely.
  • musicgirl99
    musicgirl99 Posts: 252 Member
    If you let yourself quit now - imagine how hard it will be to start over!! :smile: Keep Pushing through - you'll be glad you did!

    Maybe this will help. I lost 20 pounds last year for my wedding. After the wedding, I felt just like you do right now and stopped caring and ate whatever my heart desired. Four months later, I had gained it ALL back plus an additional 11 pounds. People were asking if I was already pregnant (which by the way, I wasn't). Now, I am starting over and it is so hard and at times very frustrating. You don't want to be where I am now so just try and stay motivated and keep at it. Others here have offered lots of great suggestions. You can do it.
  • WarriorReady
    WarriorReady Posts: 571 Member
    Don' make excuses, i've been there too, and until i stopped making excuses to not go to gym this day or not go for a walk and i forced myself to get up and move then i got back in track.

    The one thing I haven't let go of is Zumba and I am happy for that but you're right I am making excuses and I don't know how to stop sabotaging my hard work!

    Are you or have you went through something really stressful within the last few weeks or so? Sometimes when life bombards we want to let go. Best of luck staying on track. Remember this journey and you are worth it! This is your time to shine - you are a Star! :flowerforyou:
  • Angie_1MR
    Angie_1MR Posts: 247
    The less weight you have to lose, the harder it becomes to take off! Keep going girl!!!!
  • MinkyMoo13
    MinkyMoo13 Posts: 354 Member
    Try and look for new ways to motivate you.. You don't want to undo all your hard work. Maybe if your being quite strict you could have a day where you are less strict on your food plan??
  • melb2003
    melb2003 Posts: 198
    When I start feeling that way, I just think to myself...one day at a time...if I can just get thru these tough days when I feel like, what's the point, the rest of the days will be easier.

    It didn't go on overnight and you can't expect to all of a sudden be at goal. Keep you head up and know that you are working towards a healthier you! It'll be sooooo worth it in the end!!
  • kelif5959
    kelif5959 Posts: 202
    I love this quote..........WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT QUITTING - REMEMBER WHY YOU STARTED! :)

    I had this same issue a week or so ago and just had to pick myself up and START AGAIN! Good luck on getting back on track!!!
  • goldfinger88
    goldfinger88 Posts: 686 Member
    Without knowing what type of comments you're getting it's hard to address the problem. But it really is never a good idea to let yourself be thrown off course by what people do or do not say. Some people, even those who care about you, will say hurtful things or unhelpful things. Simply do what you feel is right for you. In the end, each of us is responsible for himself or herself and we can't blame others or give them credit.
  • JenJen0932
    JenJen0932 Posts: 34 Member
    What helps me when I feel that old habits might be creeping back is the saying, "A year from now, you will wish you had started today."

    How many times have I said that to myself in the past... You can do this, just one day at a time, one meal at a time if you have to. :)
  • ChasingSweatandTears
    ChasingSweatandTears Posts: 504 Member
    Here's the thing... Change is hard. Even positive change. Mentally and physically our bodies don't really want to change, even if our higher conscious does. So this is your minds way of playing tricks on you to stop changing your body. You just need to recognize it. I do think a few days rest may give you a psychological boost. We can be our own best friends or our own worst enemies. It takes time to adjust to any change and eventually people will stop commenting. You may also just be afraid that you're going to gain it back and that's why it makes you uncomfortable. Just take one day at a time. Also focus on all of the other reasons this change is good... Increased health and longevity, better energy and strength :) if you still continue to struggle with self sabotage after trying different approaches, I think it would be wise to see a professional because you may have some deep seeded issues of feeling unworthy of good things in your life and that probably reaches into other areas of your life as well <3
  • LisaVld34
    LisaVld34 Posts: 63 Member
    Don' make excuses, i've been there too, and until i stopped making excuses to not go to gym this day or not go for a walk and i forced myself to get up and move then i got back in track.

    The one thing I haven't let go of is Zumba and I am happy for that but you're right I am making excuses and I don't know how to stop sabotaging my hard work!

    Are you or have you went through something really stressful within the last few weeks or so? Sometimes when life bombards we want to let go. Best of luck staying on track. Remember this journey and you are worth it! This is your time to shine - you are a Star! :flowerforyou:

    There has been one stress after the other in my life for three years straight BUT now I use my Zumba to work it out! My mentality needs to change and just keep plugging on I guess.
  • LisaVld34
    LisaVld34 Posts: 63 Member
    Here's the thing... Change is hard. Even positive change. Mentally and physically our bodies don't really want to change, even if our higher conscious does. So this is your minds way of playing tricks on you to stop changing your body. You just need to recognize it. I do think a few days rest may give you a psychological boost. We can be our own best friends or our own worst enemies. It takes time to adjust to any change and eventually people will stop commenting. You may also just be afraid that you're going to gain it back and that's why it makes you uncomfortable. Just take one day at a time. Also focus on all of the other reasons this change is good... Increased health and longevity, better energy and strength :) if you still continue to struggle with self sabotage after trying different approaches, I think it would be wise to see a professional because you may have some deep seeded issues of feeling unworthy of good things in your life and that probably reaches into other areas of your life as well <3
    I think you hit the nail on the head, I am freaking scared to death of failing and then gaining the weight back. Some parts of me wants to say at least if I make the CHOICE to fail then I control it...as off as that sounds.
  • sabbychill
    sabbychill Posts: 8
    Set small goals for yourself. Don't say anything negative about yourself. You can do it.Look how far you have come dont give up now.
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