Unsupportive spouse...

Perhaps counseling? Maybe she's afraid she'll lose you after you lose weight and get fit? Has her own insecurities? Craves your attention? Maybe a bit of marital counseling, a visit with a dietician, and a few cooking classes together will help? There is no doubt she's driving you batty right now but I believe there is a reason why you married her.
Hopefully you and your spouse will ba able to put it all behind you soon

just keep making urself healthy. i also work 8-5 shift and i also may work 12-16 hr days(i have 2 jobs). my husband isn't the healthy one. he will eat what i cook or he can fin for himself. i only want to lose about (or can) 5 more pds. but i do want to tone up some more. I work out by my self..and i'm fine with it. sometimes my 6 yr old likes to work out some too..thats' nice to see im teaching him good habits. if we do go out to eat as a family..i eat healthy. and the one place we all can be happy at is subway!. i just learned it's my life and i'm gonna do what makes me feel happy and healthy inside and out. yea it hurts my spouse isn't on board, but i keep moving forward for me, my self and I. because i know i want to live a long life for my kids. at least the one thing i don't have is my spouse doesnt nag me on what i do or eat. i do like to run 5k's.. and i do wish he'd be there to see me finish..but oh well..life goes on and i'm proud of myself..and i can surely say i've done it on my own!!!...good luck to you and jsut keep pushing urself...it's mind over matter!!

chris said it all!!..totally agree!!

PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP!! When you get to the results you've worked for- that will make the victory that much sweeter. Maybe she's a little jealous and/or ashamed that she's not with you on this? Is it possible she's having feelings of guilt because she wants to have the will power to be doing the same thing? Obviously, there is a problem, but you giving up isn't the solution, you started on this journey for a reason and I'm sure it wasn't because you were happy with what you were doing. If you're doing good things during the day, then at the very least you are improving. If she does the grocery shopping, would it be possible for you to make a list for her of things you would like? I know it's tough, years ago when I was really being good, I practically made two dinners every night, one for the Husband and kids and one for myself- it was usually a revised version of what I made for them. If they wanted speghetti, I would reserve some sauce, measure my meat and make speghetti squash, skipped the french bread and added a salad (for everyone)... Tacos- measured my meat, limited my cheese, skipped sour cream and instead of tortillas used lettuce leaves... I'm sure there will be a TON more ideas from others here... We are all behind you if you need us, because we need you too. Feel free to add me if you wish.

Please don't give up! I know how hard this can be....I'm dealing with my marital issues...have asked for a divorce...am catching hell from all sides...my son...my inlaws...even some of my own family. It's so easy to just say screw it. But easy isn't good for either of us.

You've made great progress....please don't stop now. Please! I'm so terribly sorry.

If you ever need an ear to listen....send a pm.

Nita...(Bonita)

I don't understand why you can't buy your own groceries and cook your own meals. You don't have to eat what she eats

I do. 'cos it's hard work! My wife is a fussy eater, always has been. She also won't cook, so I have to cook 2 meals, every day. We also have an 8 month old daughter who's weaning so now I prepare 3 meals when I get home from work.

That said, you've got to stick to the courage of your convictions. You decided you wanted to change the way you look & feel about yourself. Quitting won't make those changes happen. It's not easy, but you can do this.

B.

You are in control of what you put in your mouth and you can't blame anyone but yourself.

This is why you are here to get the motivation and support from us. So let's do it!!!!

Seriously...what's with the damn Pity Party?

I'll be blunt honest.

You either WANT to be healthy or you don't. There is only ONE PERSON RESPONSIBLE. YOU. You need sit down, look yourself in a mirror and ask... DO YOU WANT TO BE HEALTHY? You have already REALIZED where you are. You need to VISUALIZE it. You need to make the CHOICE to become it. You need to TAKE ACTION upon the choices EVERY DAY that will bring you to SUCCESS.

95% of your journey is MENTAL. Fix it. Become AWARE. Bring the Drive to success from the inside and push away everything that gets in the way. Your wife makes a dinner for 2 loaded with **** that is going to take you over your daily goals...say thank you, and make something else. YOU have to make the Choices. YOU have to hold yourself responsible.

You have to take your health and diet into your own hands. Maybe she'll come around and my maybe she wont, but don't let that interfere with YOUR progress. My husband used to complain about some of the healthy items I started adding into the routine for dinners (brown rice, less red meat, different veggies, etc) and I stopped cooking those frozen processed meals he used to buy all the time.

He got with the program real quick because I work full time also and I was not going to cook two dinners. So my rationale was, eat what I prepare or cook your own meals. I wouldn't be offended because he is a grown man and can make his own decision about what he consumes. (Of course he opted not to prepare his own meals LOL) But he now likes our healthier meals, and has been motivated by my weight loss and healthier lifestyle. He has loss weight also and has changed his eating habbits on his own!

So... you may just have to start buying your own foods and making your own meals. You may even motivate your wife to change her way of eating (especially if you stop eating her cooking). :laugh:

Hang in there!

Your wife will probably read this and buy you some cheese..... to go with your whine, haha

You have to do it for yourself, start buying your own food, cut back on work to go to the gym, make it your priority. My wife used to cook very fattening foods, until me and my son stopped eating it and told her, "it is too fattening we won't eat it, she refused to buy what we wanted so I went and bought it, she used to try to de-rail my exercise by trying to tell me I couldn't go to the gym because something had come up..... now she is 'on the program' I am 50 pounds lighter, and I feel great.

After all your weight is your problem and no one elses, so don't even try to blame it on your wife!!

THIS^^^

When I was really heavy it was hard to watch my wife and kids eat hamburgers, fries, chicken nuggets, pasta, pizza, ect while I ate salads. I did all the cooking and when the kids were at their DAD's my ex-wife would always want to go OUT. I did all the cooking and shopping so I made two meals a night. Eventually the kids would request some of the stuff I was making for me so at least they were learning some healthy haibts. In any case you live your life and you have to control what you eat and you cant blame it on anyone else.

My advice....stick to the diet, get healthy, and every time you get to boom boom in the magic room give her some extra "boom" you will feel better.

Whatever you do, don't give up, she will make it harder the next time you start a weight loss program. My ex-husband was very unsupportive, but I gave him extra attention and told him I cared about his health, not just mine. Told him I don't wanna have to find another husband at 40. That helped. Didn't save our marriage but he was more supportive after that! Don't cook 2 meals, cook one. If she doesn't want it, she can make an ice cream sunday.