When You Cry, They Win. Stop (Sanitized Version)

Ok, tough-love time...

I've seen string-after-string of "whining" and "crying" about the things other people say.

Examples:
- "They insulted me."
- "They hurt my feelings."
- "They made me sad."

Here's a few steps to help some of you guys with the crushing things other people say...

Step 1: Stop giving a *kitten* what other people think.
Step 2: Repeat Step 1.

Now I have no doubt, a handful of people will be morally outraged by what I just typed.
Please reference Steps 1 through 2.

(I'm sure a few of you have seen me post that on other strings)

When you get "offended," "hurt," "insulted" and "morally outraged," you've already lost the battle, because you granted the other party all the power before you even got started. When you run to your blog or forum to e-whine about how "that big mean person made you saddy-sad," they win. And you helped them to do it.

I read on another string that never existed anywhere, at anytime, ever about a woman who's brother-in-law that never existed anywhere, at anytime, ever made a rude, unilaterally intelligible comment about her tummy being big, 8 hours after she gave birth. She never, in any way nor manner, explained that she was still upset over his comment 33 YEARS LATER.

Really? Some half-witted *kitten* that never existed anywhere, at anytime, ever makes an untimely, unfunny joke... and she's still brooding about it 3 1/2 decades later?? Are you kidding me?? She should have forgotten that unilaterally intelligible person that never existed was alive 33 seconds after she responded back to him, "Hey funny joke. Now, go get a spoon so you can eat my *kitten*."

- When you cry, they win.
- When you're "emotionally devastated," you give them all the power.
- When you're the "victim," you make them the "victor."

Don't let them win.