I just dont understand!

I dont understand why whenever you start losing weight or telling people about your goal to lose weight there is always that one friend that asks you why you are doing it and says you look fine the way you are. I know i am not ugly but i am tired of my weight holding me back because i cant do something like go on rides, keep up with the kids or even basic things like walking further without being out of breath.

Does anyone else have a friend that has sorta tried to discourage you from you diet weather they were trying or not.

I know i can and will do this but the conversation i had with my friend a few days ago has stuck in my head and is annoying me right now...ok vent and question over now i will get back to my cleaning:)

Seriously, it doesn't matter how they like the way you look, what really matters is how YOU like yourself at the moment.

Continue with your plans, just don't bother discussing them with your friend, because you will end up being lectured at and you really can do without that.

Diana,
When that happens to me I try to put a positive spin on it. I think some people who are our friends feel weird about admitting that we need to lose weight. I think that they feel like to agree with us is them saying that they are agreeing we are fat and as a friend they don't want to do that. I think that's a natural reaction from some friends trying to be our friend. It goes against some people's view of friendship to be critical and friends usually take us as we are if they are true friends. I think it is hard for some friends to agree we need to lose weight because of this.

OR, if the friend is overweight themselves they could have selfish motives. They may not be willing to see you "move on" without them. This isn't right but it does happen as well.

With my true, close friends I think it would be the former. They just take me as I am and don't want to be critical or judge me for my current weight.

You should stick to your weight loss, confide in those that support you when you need it and if it is still bothering you and your friend continues to take this stance even after seeing the positives that weight loss will have in your life then you should confront them (not angrily, but just be honest with how you're feeling about their attitude. Explain why you are doing it and ask for their support). If they still don't get it then you don't need them in your support system for this. What you do with your overall friendship between the two of you after that will be up to you.

You are beautiful now. But you are right. Weight loss will bring you the benefits of health and fitness that will allow you so many opportunities in the future! Good luck on your journey. I will be here if you need any support in the future.
jen

I constantly hear from people that I don't need to lose anymore weight...i think some people just want to make you feel good, others are too lazy to change themselves and can't be happy for others. I just ignore the comments or laugh them off. maybe if you change your life you can be inspiration to your friends.